This Is Why You Struggle With Self-Love, Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

ENFP: You spend too much time thinking about the next best thing.

You have trouble staying in one place (physically or otherwise) because you think there are better things waiting on the other side of wherever you are, and you believe you’ll only be happy and whole once you get there. Take the time to realize where you are, and who you are, and how great things are right here where you’re standing. You’re worth loving right here where you’re standing.

INFP: You worry that you don’t know who you really are.

You have so many thoughts flying around inside your mind. You spend a great deal of your life determine where you stand on things, and you hold true to the strong moral convictions you possess. Yet you’re also open to so many possibilities and perspectives, that sometimes you have trouble figuring out where you stand and what you really think…
And this causes you to doubt yourself and your worth more than you would like to admit. It’s okay that you’re still taking time to figure out the person you are, but you can still love yourself and your growth as you work your way to getting there. You can (and should) love yourself while you’re trying to get there.

ENTP: You value your ideas and whether they come to fruition too much.

You have a lot of ideas, and you have a desire to see them come to life. Sometimes, they do, and it’s everything you hoped it would be. Other times, not so much, and you judge yourself and your worth a little too harshly. It’s okay that not every idea you want to happen ends up happening. Your value isn’t hinged solely on how successful you are with your ideas. You can still value yourself in the failures, simply because you were willing to try.

INTP: You compare yourself to people around you.

You spend a lot of time dwelling on ideas and solutions inside your head, but you don’t always follow through on the actions. This can cause you to look around at everyone else, particularly ones you admire, and compare yourself to them which can easily send you down a spiral of thinking you’re not good enough.
You need to take the time to realize that just because you aren’t in the same place as other people doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy of love or are invaluable. Try to focus on yourself and making the things in your head a reality. You have a lot going for you that’s worth loving.

ESFJ: You’re trying to save everyone else all the time.

You want to be the hero who saves the day, and truth be told you’re quite good at it. You gravitate towards people who need a helping hand, or just who end up needing somebody at all. You take their burdens upon your shoulders and do your best to be the savior they so desperately are searching for and you hinge your self-worth entirely on how many people you successfully “save.”
Sometimes, there are people in this world who can’t be saved, and either way, it is not your sole responsibility to do so. You are still worthy of love despite how much you do for others. You have to learn to take care of yourself, too.

ISFJ: You’re always trying to make everyone else happy.

There is nothing more that would make you happy than if everyone would just get along. If there is harmony amongst your friends, family, or coworkers, then all is right with the world. However, if there isn’t any harmony, you throw yourself into the chaos hoping to smooth things over.You tend to value yourself by how effective you are at keeping the peace, and if no resolution can be made between people, even despite your best effort.
you tend to see yourself as pretty useless. However, not everyone in the world is going to get along all the time, and that’s perfectly okay. You are still worthy of love even if everyone else can’t seem to agree, and you should do your best to remember that you still have so many great things about you to give to this world.

ESTJ: You base your worth on what you achieve.

You love to get things done, in the most efficient way possible. Yet sometimes things beyond your control can cause you to be knocked off track, and things don’t turn out the way they’re supposed to. You tend to measure your self-worth based on the things you achieve, the more practical, the better. Yet you need to take time to remind yourself that you value isn’t determined based on what you get done all of the time.

ISTJ: You worry you won’t provide enough to care for the people around you.

You care a lot for your family and loved ones, and you tend to take it upon yourself to provide for their practical and material needs as much as humanly possible. This tends to cause you to place a lot of pressure on yourself as the sole person responsible, and if you’re not able to come through the way you expect, then you see yourself as worthless.
Take time to remind yourself that it isn’t always up to you to handle everything and that you’re still a valuable person worthy of love even on the days you mess up. You contribute so much to this world, but it isn’t all that you are.

ENFJ: You are too focused on the lives and problems of everyone else around you.

You are definitely the person people turn to when they need an ear to listen or a shoulder to lean on. You have a real knack for helping people become the best version of themselves. However, sometimes you get too sucked into the lives and problems of other people, and you wear yourself down trying to be there for them and help them out.
You tend to measure your worth on how everyone else in your life is doing, and you never take the time to recognize how incredible you are. You need to take the time to remind yourself that you are still worthy of love despite what is happening either everyone else and despite what things you’re able to do to help them. You have to take time to take care of yourself, too.

INFJ: You think you have to be perfect.

You spend a great deal of time inside your mind, dreaming up the perfect world, with the perfect ideals, and the perfect version of yourself. You always compare the person you are to the person you feel you’re supposed to be, and it causes you to think very little of yourself sometimes. It’s okay to remember that nothing in this world, including you, is perfect, nor is it supposed to be. Take time to remind yourself that perfectionism shouldn’t dictate your self-worth.

ESTP: You want to impress everyone else.

Your confidence tends to radiate from you in most circumstances, but truth be told, you have a strong desire to impress the people around you whether it be through your actions, personality, or anything else you can muster. You don’t need people to like you, but you do need them to be impressed by you because only then do you think highly of yourself.
You need to take the time to reflect on why this is so important to you and to realize that impressing other people shouldn’t determine the way you see yourself. You are an incredible person worthy of love despite whether anyone else is looking at you.

ISTP: You’re analytical to a fault, and it causes you to be insanely hard on yourself.

Truth be told, you spend some much time with yourself that people would assume all you have is self-love. Yet as someone who is logical and constantly inside your own head, you tend to analyze everything possible, including yourself.You can easily nit-pick at things to try and find a better solution, and if you’re not careful, this can apply to yourself too—constantly finding the faults within yourself and trying to figure out the quickest way to fix them.
You need to take time to realize that continually being hard on yourself isn’t going to yield the outcome you’re hoping for in the long run and that you are worthy of love despite how often you might try to convince yourself otherwise.

ESFP: You’re too busy trying to get everyone else to love you.

 You are an entertainer for sure, even if you’re not always on a stage. There are a lot of people who seem to like you, and that works out well for you since you tend to thrive on the approval of the people around you. Yet you tend to hinge your entire value on validation from others, and if you don’t receive it, you start to believe there is something wrong with you and that you’re worthless.
However, you can’t allow the opinions of people to determine your value, because at the end of the day the person whose opinion matters most needs to be your own. You are still someone filled with endless possibility and potential, regardless of whether or not you have people always telling you so.

ISFP: You spend too much time trying to be mysterious.

You know there is a lot about you that this world isn’t aware of, and you don’t mind that at all. You go through a great deal of effort to make sure people only know certain things about you, and it can take its toll after awhile. You start to internalize the belief that the more mysterious you are, the more worthy you are, and that’s just not true.
Keeping yourself hidden from the world doesn’t mean you’re more valuable, and you need to take time to remind yourself that you’re still worthy of love despite how much of yourself the rest of the world sees and trust me, it’s worth seeing.

ENTJ: You value your accomplishments more than yourself.

 Once you set your eyes on a goal, it takes a heck of a lot to stop you from making it happen. You are known for accomplishing pretty much anything you set your mind to and sometimes you have a habit of letting your worth tie into that. The more you achieve, the more valuable you see yourself, and you assume that others see you this way too.
Yet when you aren’t succeeding the way you hoped, or you aren’t accomplishing the things you set out to do, you become incredibly harsh with yourself and tend to view yourself as worthless. You need to take time to remind yourself that you aren’t always going to succeed, but that doesn’t mean you are worthless. It says you’re human (despite how much you wish that weren’t true). You are still valuable and still worthy of love even on the days you fail.

INTJ: You think you need all the answers.

You place a high value on knowledge and obtaining it however you can. It can be beneficial to learn about things, and in that search, it can easy to get caught up in trying to have everything figured out. You tend to believe that once you have all the answers to the questions in your mind, that’s when you’ll be happy, and that’s when you can finally love yourself.
Yet the truth is, none of us have all the answers, and we never will. That’s perfectly okay. You shouldn’t determine your value based on whether or not you know everything you’re searching for. It’s okay to recognize that you can still see yourself as worthwhile and valuable while you’re on the journey to figure everything out. Take time to remind yourself that you’re still worthy of love even when you don’t have all the answers.

Here’s How You’ll Fall In Love In 2019, Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

ENFP

This year, you’ll fall both in and out of love. It will be an invigorating, passionate whirlwind – and it’ll ultimately show you more about yourself and the world around you than you could ever have possibly imagined. Even if it doesn’t end up lasting forever, you’ll appreciate love this year, for the new worlds that it opens your eyes to.

INFP

This year, you’ll spend a lot of time alone – learning more about yourself and what you truly want out of a relationship. Once you’ve done the hard work of rooting through your past hangups, the right person will fall easily, naturally into your life. It won’t be as intense, as passionate or as big of a whirlwind as your love affairs usually are, but it’ll feel right. And it’ll continue to feel right for a very long time.

ENFJ

This year you’ll date around for a while, but ultimately find yourself stopped dead in your tracks by a charming new classmate or coworker. You’ll finally find yourself falling for someone who’s equally as invested as you are in the relationship, and it will make you feel more appreciated than ever before.

INFJ

This year, you’ll take things to the next level with someone who’s been in your life for ages. Whether it’s taking the next steps with your current partner, moving a relationship from platonic to romantic or even just mustering up the courage to tell your crush that you like them, things will shift in a surprisingly pleasant way – and the only question you’ll be left with is why you didn’t move things forward sooner.

ENTP

This year you’ll be caught off guard by someone who shares your favorite past time. Their warmth, openness and genuineness will drive you to learn more and more about them – and before you know it, you’ll be stumbling over your own words every time they’re around. At which point you’ll realize, shit – you’ve got it bad for them. Luckily, they’ll feel the same.

INTP

This year, you’ll capture someone’s eye at a work-related event. It will take you a while to work out that they aren’t emailing you that often for strictly professional reasons – but once you do work it out, you’ll be charmed by the effort they’ve put into pursuing you. And you’ll be inclined to return the same effort.

ENTJ

This year you’ll meet your partner off a dating app. Is it a romantic way to meet someone? Of course not. But it’s a practical and straightforward way to find someone you’re compatible with — and that’s a lot more important to you than romance.

INTJ

This year you’ll be blind sighted when you discover that a close friend has had feelings for you all along. It’ll take a bit of mental readjustment, but you’ll ultimately be happier than ever once you realize how compatible the two of you are – and how natural a relationship between you ends up feeling.

ESTP

This year you’ll be chased relentlessly by someone who isn’t your usual type – but you’ll be happily surprised to get to know them. Rather than writing them off as the kind of person you wouldn’t usually go for, give them a chance to show you what they’re all about – they might just be everything you never knew you needed.

ISTP

This year you’ll fall in love with someone who is a true and natural partner to you. Someone who understands your ins and outs, and wants to build a practical relationship around your mutual interests. You’ll finally understand what it means to be supported by someone in the way that you want to be supported – and you’ll be more than happy to return the favor.

ESTJ

This year you’ll fall in love with a friend. Someone who’s been around for years, in your periphery, who you suddenly start looking at in a different light. Your feelings will catch you off guard, but trust them – there’s a reason the two of you have always been so naturally compatible.

ISTJ

This year you’ll fall in love with your polar opposite. Something about their free-spirited attitude will intrigue you – and you won’t be able to get them out of your head. So you’ll opt to move in closer. And you won’t regret that choice.

ESFP

This year, you’ll fall in love accidentally. Instead of your usual routine (you know, getting way to excited about someone right away and then having your hopes dashed by date two), you’ll slip unexpectedly into a relationship that you never saw coming. And ironically, it will end up feeling more right than ever.

ISFP

This year you’ll fall head over heels for someone mysterious. You won’t be able to figure them out right away – and that will intrigue you. You’ll have to do some chasing, but eventually they’ll come around – and admit that they’ve been having trouble pinning you down, too!

ESFJ

This year you’ll fall in love on a first date. You’ll feel certain your feelings are getting ahead of you, but come the holidays, you’ll be sending out couple’s cards. Once you meet them, something inside of you will click – and neither of you will look back.

ISFJ

This year, you’ll return to an old flame. Now that you’re both in different places, you can finally make the relationship that you’ve always wanted to have, work. You’ll fall easily, comfortably, into the stable, healthy kind of love that’s been evading you for years.

10 ISTJs Explain Exactly How To Win Over Their Type

1. “Be genuine and real. I don’t appreciate phoney grand gestures or disingenuous small talk.”
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2. “When it comes to friends, I look for people that are consistent, loyal, and share some of my values. As far as a romantic partner, I want to know the person before we pursue something beyond a friendship. I enjoy someone who can make me laugh but also discuss more serious matters when need be.”
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3. “Just come out and tell me what you are looking for. I appreciate the straightforwardness.”
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4. “Understand my need to have a plan for literally everything I do!”
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5. “Be enthusiastic – I need someone silly to help me come out of my reserved shell!”
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6. “Be honest and give me moral support. That’s most of what I’m looking for in a romantic partner.”
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7. “Be blunt, but not forceful. We can be a little dense when it comes to romance so if you want to go on a date with us, please don’t ask us to ‘hang out.’ Just call it a date so we know what we’re getting into.”
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8. “I am attracted to people who are friendly and upbeat. Crassness and swearing is a turn-off though. I keep things clean and I’m looking for a partner who does the same.”
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9. “Take the initiative with us and set a concrete date and time. And then don’t be late! Punctuality is important to ISTJs as we see it as a sign of respect.”
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10. “Please don’t play games – that is confusing and a turn-off. Just be honest, genuine and polite. And please respect the fact that I like to plan things ahead of time. Dating is stressful enough as it is without having plans constantly changing!”

22 Carl Jung Quotes That Explain What You Love About Personality Psychology

The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases.


As a child I felt myself to be alone, and I am still, because I know things and must hint at things which others apparently know nothing of, and for the most part do not want to know.


Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.


The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.


Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.


Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.


If one does not understand a person, one tends to regard him as a fool.


If there is anything we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves.


It all depends on how we look at things, and not on how they are themselves


The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.


One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.


If people can be educated to see the lowly side of their own natures, it may be hoped that they will also learn to understand and to love their fellow men better. A little less hypocrisy and a little more tolerance towards oneself can only have good results in respect for our neighbor; for we are all too prone to transfer to our fellows the injustice and violence we inflict upon our own natures.


We meet ourselves time and again in a thousand disguises on the path of life.


Nothing worse could happen to one than to be completely understood.


Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.


You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.


Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.


A man who has not passed through the inferno of his passions has never overcome them.


The healthy man does not torture others – generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers.


Sometimes you have to do something unforgivable just to be able to go on living.


I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.


The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.


44 Tiny Frustrations Only Introverts Can Relate To

1.

Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Headphones in = don’t want to talk.
One headphone in = still don’t want to talk.
No headphones in = probably still don’t want to talk.
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

When I am invited places, it is more important for me to know who will be there as opposed to what we will be doing. People can be draining.
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Me walking into a location with more people than expected.
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

I’m not saying all introverts are observant, but most of us can see an awkward situation, fake person, or small talk from a mile away.
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Two introverts walk into a bar and they’re like, “nah lol, screw this.”
— introvert Life (@IntrovertLiving) May 26, 2016


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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

The mortal enemies of the #introvert are door-to-door salespeople and the people who work at mall kiosks.
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8:30 AM – May 25, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

If you’re feeling down, just be thankful you aren’t the introvert who’s stranded at a party right now because they didn’t take their own car
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10:02 AM – May 23, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Introvert gift package:
Netflix subscription
Noise cancelling headphones
Good book series
List of excuses to avoid parties
A puppy
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1:34 AM – May 21, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving
“Let’s go to that party.” #BadIdeaIn5Words
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10:59 PM – May 19, 2016
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10.

Nothing annoys me more than being approached by people.
— introvert Life (@IntrovertLiving) May 17, 2016


11.

Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Can I sum up everything I did this weekend in one tweet? Yes, yes I can:
Not much with very few people involved.
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8:07 AM – May 16, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving
I like my people how I like my coffee… I don’t really like coffee that often.
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8:11 PM – May 11, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

It’s another Introvert Friday. In celebration, cancel your plans, make new ones, cancel those ones as well, and enjoy a night in.
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11:31 PM – Apr 29, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Surprise parties can be tough for introverts because they don’t have time to mentally prepare for a large scale social situation.
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8:34 AM – Apr 25, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

9:00 p.m. – arrive at party
9:05 p.m. – realize mistake and form exit plan
9:10 p.m. – grab free food and pet host’s dog
9:15 p.m. – leave
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11:52 AM – Apr 20, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

People think I’m shy or anti-social when I say I’m an introvert. It might seem that way, but I’m just very aware of who I give my time to.
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11:58 PM – Apr 19, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

My relationship with the people in my life:
Most people drain me.
Some people have no effect on me.
A select few people invigorate me.
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Introvert radar: realizing that there are strangers around who will try and talk to you and bailing before it happens.
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5:58 AM – Apr 15, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

I love my family and close friends as much as anyone, but I’m still terrible at keeping in touch. Sorry about that.
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11:20 PM – Apr 11, 2016
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20.

Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Dear people who try and talk to you on planes,
Please don’t.
Sincerely (and slightly annoyed),
Introverts everywhere
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10:54 PM – Apr 11, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Her: Come over.
Me: I can’t. I’m reading a really good book.
Her: My parents aren’t home.
Me: Yeah, I’m gonna go with the book.
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4:06 AM – Apr 10, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Pet peeve: when people misinterpret my desire to stay home and chill for the weekend as a form of laziness.
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7:03 PM – Apr 8, 2016
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23.

Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Accurate
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Me when I realize I don’t have a night off for the entire week. #introvert
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10:12 PM – Apr 3, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Perks of dating me: I’m pretty much free every night.
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11:12 PM – Apr 1, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Wanted: peace and quiet.
Where: everywhere.
When: right now wouldn’t be bad.
Why: to preserve my sanity.
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9:40 PM – Mar 29, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Wanted: peace and quiet.
Where: everywhere.
When: right now wouldn’t be bad.
Why: to preserve my sanity.
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving
Don’t see why we can’t actually wear these.
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9:43 AM – Mar 26, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Everything in moderation… especially people.
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9:42 AM – Mar 22, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving
One of the worst moments in life is when someone sits next to you at a movie theater and there are plenty of other open seats available.
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5:20 AM – Mar 19, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

I don’t answer unknown numbers on my phone… or known numbers for that matter.
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6:53 PM – Mar 30, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

“Let’s go around and introduce ourselves.”
Hi. I’m an introvert. This is the only time you’ll hear me talk. I won’t be participating again.
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11:49 AM – Mar 17, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Things I’m good at:
Reading 400 page book in 24 hours
Staying up late just because
“Missing” phone calls
Getting invites places & not going
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Daylight Saving Time – one less hour for people to annoy me today. I’ll take it.
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9:14 PM – Mar 13, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

If there were an Olympic event for quickest reaction time for declining a call, then I would win the gold medal while setting a world record
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Going full introvert: when you cancel plans that didn’t actually exist yet.
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9:46 AM – Mar 6, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

I approach a weekend full of social commitments like someone on death row walking the green mile.
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8:47 AM – Mar 5, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

I don’t always make an excuse to avoid a big party on the weekend… oh wait, yes I do.
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12:14 PM – Feb 28, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

I’m still recovering from last night.
“You have a little too much to drink?”
No, just the fact that I went out.
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11:07 PM – Feb 26, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

“I have no plans this weekend. This is terrible.” -Extrovert
“I have no plans this weekend. This is great.” -Introvert
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6:22 AM – Feb 20, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

*sees acquaintance at the grocery store, says hi*
*passes them on almost every aisle after that*
Kill me now.
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5:15 AM – Feb 19, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

If I was the last person on earth, I would still have an excuse ready just in case someone showed up to invite me to a party.
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Introvert confession: I’ve waited in my car for my roommate’s friends to leave our apartment, so I wouldn’t have to chat.
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5:09 AM – Feb 3, 2016
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Introvert Life@IntrovertLiving

Some people get hangovers from drinking. I get the classic introvert hangover from spending too much time being social.
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36 Inner Thoughts And Feelings That Make INFJs Truly Unique

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INFJ Thoughts@INFJthings

The INFJ roller coaster:
Anxiety
Recharge
Feeling great
Starting to need some human interaction
Goes out
Regrets decision
Recharge
Repeat

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INFJ Thoughts@INFJthings

I’ve noticed that my own periods of sadness are fundamentally linked to being confused about other’s behavior.#INFJ

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INFJ Thoughts@INFJthings

INFJs are like a ceiling fan without the medium setting.

Almost non-existent breeze or an indoor tornado.
Take your pick.

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INFJ Thoughts@INFJthings

What’s brewing today?
A pot of coffee and probably some pent up, unresolved emotion from a prior social conflict. #INFJ

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INFJ Thoughts@INFJthings

If you’re not authentic with me, I lose interest quickly.

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INFJ Thoughts@INFJthings

I notice everything, even when it appears I’m oblivious.
It’s the ace up my sleeve you never know about. #INFJ

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I don’t always get angry, but when I do, I will push you into the event horizon of a collapsing galaxy.

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Sometimes I struggle with accepting reality. I often forget that I cannot save people; I can only love them.

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Harmless, heartless.
Overly-kind, rip-you-to-shreds.

The contradictory irony of the #INFJ

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I need time alone like I need air to breathe.

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On paper: multiple eloquently written paragraphs that would win the Nobel Prize.

When talking: How do I words…I like books

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I’m a rebel in the most innocent form.

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I’m indecisive because I see every possible outcome to a given situation, thus, leaving me eternally debating as to which I should pick.

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But appearances have never appealed to me…
I’m more interested in the depths of your soul and what I can learn from you instead.

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I heard what you said…
I also heard what you didn’t say…

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I catch myself internally obsessing over anyone who has had the ability to light up my thoughts and feelings on a deeper level.

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Who I am comes in waves.
Some days I’m here.
Some days I’m not.

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I over-analyze situations, because I’m terrified of what could happen if I’m not prepared for it.

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I don’t believe what I hear.
I believe what I feel.#INFJ

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I often struggle with simple concepts.
They do not stimulate my brain enough for me to care.
I need depth. I need meaning.

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They call us dreamers, but we’re the ones who don’t sleep.#INFJ

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I over analyze situations, because I’m scared of what will happen if I’m not prepared for it. #INFJ

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Some days I really love my sensitivity. Others, I think I’m insane…#INFJ

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I regret the plans I made while I was in a 5 minute extroverted mood.

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I stopped explaining myself when I realized people only understand from their level of perception.#INFJ

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I can assure you that I understand you. I can also assure you that you’ll never understand me.#INFJ

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Sitting here
silently observing
your every move #INFJ

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A deep conversation with someone is what keeps me alive and knowing that I don’t have to drown in the mundane of this world.#INFJ

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You don’t need to say anything. My intuition has already told me.#INFJ

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A heart that always understands is a heart that is tired.#INFJ

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I crave meaning in everything. If it has no real purpose or depth, then I have no desire for it.#INFJ

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I don’t trust words
I even question actions
But I never doubt patterns#INFJ

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Forever telling myself….

*don’t be awkward, just act normal….*

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I’d rather hurt myself than hurt anyone else.

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If I don’t answer your call, you should probably hang up and text me instead.
You might get a response that way.

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If I don’t answer your call, you should probably hang up and text me instead.
You might get a response that way.

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Why Everyone And Their Mother Is Now Identifying As An Introvert

Earlier this summer, one of the most extroverted people I’ve ever met in my life told me earnestly, “I’m an introvert.” When I asked her to explain her reasoning, she replied, “Well, after a few days of constantly being around people I need to spend some time alone to recoup.” I had a good chuckle to myself over her confession.
While introverts certainly can masquerade as gregarious extroverted types, there are certain times when an individual’s personality orientation is undeniable. This particular friend was a lively socialite. She fought shamelessly for every spotlight. She visibly gained energy the longer she interacted with others and she was regularly the last person left out at night, being reluctantly dragged home by a group of exhausted friends.
And yet, somewhere along the line, someone had informed this friend that the only qualification for being an introvert was occasionally requiring alone time to recharge. Except here’s the thing – needing alone time doesn’t make you an introvert. It makes you a human. We seem to have a warped idea of what introversion means these days.
It is trendy to be an introvert right now – Susan Cain wrote ‘Quiet’ and suddenly everyone was clamouring to prove that they were actually one of the deep, misunderstood introverts of the world. We created a cultural dichotomy that implied introverts are deep and complex and extroverts are shallow and thoughtless.
We told everyone that the only qualification for being an introvert is being intelligent and requiring alone time – two traits that every human being on earth is quick to identify with. But the idea that introversion is extended to anyone who needs alone time to recharge is laughable. I’m as extroverted as they come and yet I absolutely require and relish in alone time.
I’m a writer by profession, which means I spend the majority of my time alone. And yet I don’t question my social orientation – I feel the most alive around others. I’m energized by groups. There is an eternal thrum in the back of my mind that urges me to go, do, see, interact, alter and connect with the world that surrounds me. I feel the most alive around others, when I’m out interacting with the world.
And yet I am most creative when alone. I am the truest and most authentic version of myself when I am in my own company. Of course I am. We all are. Because here’s the thing – at the end of the day, nobody’s ever going to understand us as well as we understand ourselves. Nobody’s ever going to be fully capable of delving into our internal world of complex thoughts and emotions.
Accessing them with the clarity and intensity with which we do ourselves. But simply having that rich inner world doesn’t make you an introvert. Needing to spend time alone to access it also doesn’t make you an introvert. Both of those things only make you human. What makes you an extrovert or an introvert is simply which sphere you remain most energized by over time –
An introvert can thrive in social situations and an extrovert can enjoy time alone, but each will feel more naturally stimulated by extensive engagement with one of the two realms. Contrary to popular belief, introverts don’t solely recharge through alone time and extroverts don’t solely recharge through social time – we all recharge through a mixture of alone and social time.
Your social orientation is simply a matter of which realm recharges you more naturally and which realm you can bear for longer periods of time. We need to squelch the inaccurate perception that extroverts and introverts are so immeasurably different from one another, or that either trait manifests in a black and white way.
Extroverts need alone time. Introverts need social time. Exhibiting eight out of ten extroverted traits but two out of ten introverted traits doesn’t make you an introvert, or vice versa – in either case, you’re just a regular human being with a mixed need for social and alone time. We are all inherently ambiverted. It’s just a matter of which side of that ambiverted scale you lean towards.

24 People Share The One Thing They Wish The ESFPs In Their Lives Understood

1. “You are a free spirit and people are drawn to you. Keep it up.” –INTJ
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2. “Don’t be afraid to be yourself! it can be hard, i know, but embracing your type is honestly the best thing to do for yourself.” –ESFP
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3. “If you think you’re talking too much, you probably are. DONT GET ME WRONG – ESFPs are happy makers and our lives wouldn’t be the same without you, but let others share and talk sometimes. Give them the spotlight too.” –ENFJ
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4. “It is not that we dislike you… We just cannot comprehend wanting to be friends with everyone in the world.” –INTJ
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5. “You’re great, but sometimes you exhaust even me.” –ESTP
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6. “You simultaneously tantalize and completely overwhelm me. You are like a pschadelic love hurricane.” –INFP
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7. “It’s OK to show others how vulnerable you are. No need to show your smiley face all year round.” –ESFP
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8. “Please try to remember that you’re not the center of the universe.” –ENFP
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9. “Just because I’m not speaking doesn’t mean I hate you.” –INTJ
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10. “Even though your idea of decorating often consists of your favorite Brandy bottles, you’re very easy to talk to. I think a lot if people misunderstand you and think you’re hyperactive just based off MBTI profile descriptions, but honestly, y’all are so easygoing and happy-go-lucky. I really appreciate that, and you’re all so smart. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.” –ESTP
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11. “You can be a little superficial sometimes, maybe try to keep that in check?” –INTP
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12. “Thank you for being the life of the party so we can take a break.” –INFP
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13. “I love your ability to vibe with whatever I’m doing and feeling, but you don’t have to be a chameleon. You don’t have to be happy, or sad, or angry just because I am.” –INFP
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14. “When someone says they don’t like something you do, it doesn’t mean we don’t still love and admire you.” –ENFP
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15. “You’re amazing… but maybe calm down a little bit every once in awhile.” –ENFP
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16. “I wish you would take care of your responsibilities. No matter how fun and endearing you are, at the end of the day I don’t always trust you to come through when it counts.” –ENFJ
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17. “Structure can be a very useful thing.” –ISFJ
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18. “You make life fun. Maybe a little too unpredictable if you’ll actually show up or not, but when you do, it’s fun.” –INFP
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19. “Thank you for bringing so much vibrancy and color into the world. You truly make life interesting and don’t be discouraged by people who don’t understand your energy and zest for life.” –ENFP
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20. “Let’s go on wild unicorn adventures together!!! Just please stop flaking out on me.” –ENFP
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21. “Other people like the spotlight too – just so you know.” –ENTJ
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22. “Everyone is not as nice and great as you think they are. Some people do not deserve your time and attention. Taking things at face value so often can set yourself up for hurt, especially by manipulative people. People that aren’t used to such friendly people will think you are hitting on them. Maybe you are, but I feel like ESFPs need to be careful about people accidentally falling in love with them more than any other type.” –INTJ
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23. “I adore you and think that you are very good for me. Though I wish you would include me in more of your activities – you tend to forget about people sometimes, and leave them behind.” –ISFJ
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24. “Your freedom of spirit is inspiring.” –ENFP

13 ISTPs Explain Exactly How To Win Over Their Type

1. “Give me space. Let me know you want to hang out but do not bombard me with requests to do so. I will say yes when it feels right to me, however do not feel discouraged if I choose more alone time than together time.”
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2. “My initial thought about how to win over my type is to not even try to win over my type. Being genuine is the most important thing to me so if I sense that someone is just acting a certain way or pretending to like something that I enjoy just to win me over, I am immediately turned off by them. Sometimes I just shut down completely. I’d much prefer honesty than someone trying appease me just to spare my feelings.”
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3. “(1) Don’t tell me what to do. (2) Don’t lie to me. (3) Don’t be too serious all the time, it will scare me away. (4) Don’t give up if I seem uninterested at first.”
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4. “I have a strong need to fix the problems of those closest to me, and I know that it can be a little overwhelming at times, especially when you just need someone to listen. So please, for my anxieties, let me know when my problem solving instincts aren’t needed (they probably are) or wanted (that’s fine, I’ll just be making a mental list of things to Google immediately after this conversation, for curiosity’s sake.) Also, I will be personally offended if you take your broken iPhone to a mall kiosk instead of letting me fix it.”
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5. “Be genuinely interested in what I’m saying. Communication is key. No games or bullshit. Since I’m not real chatty being a good conversationalist also key.”
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6. “Appreciate the stuff I like to do. You have to like some of the stuff and do it with me, but don’t do everything with me. Also accept that I’m lazyish and prefer to make fewer dishes that have to wash a sink full of dishes. Don’t make me wash your stupid dishes. And don’t expect a lot of income from me because I’m super happy with 35k a year with a ‘crappy house,’ but fun hobbies, and all the securities that we’ll need.”
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7. “Just be there when I need you and don’t be there when I don’t need you. Do this enough and I’ll be there for you too. And keep the talks real.”
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8. “Show a real genuine interest in me and getting to know and appreciate the real me. Be truly attentive and genuine. Enjoy witty humor and bounce it back just as quickly. Be awed at times. Believe and trust I have a genuinely good heart and intentions. Know that I am harmless overall. Snuggle up to me. Give me a kiss.”
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9. “I appreciate actions over words. So many people have so many good intentions with zero actual follow through. I will gravitate more to someone who says they’re going to do something and then actually does it or will at least make steps towards that goal. Words are usually meaningless to me until I finally see action behind them.”
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10. “Go with the flow and don’t be boring. Also, keep the emotional stuff to a minimum.”
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11. “Just be honest and real with me.”
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12. “I appreciate individuality and I recognize that not everything I love or like to do in this world is something I will share with every human being. I would rather experience everything in life in complete solitude than have to share experiences with someone who was just pretending. I prefer when someone can be who they are without trying to win anyone over, especially me. I find it attractive when people have the guts to say, ‘I actually don’t enjoy this thing that you love, but I’m open to experiencing this with you because I love you, care about you, or just want to get into your pants.’ We already have such a brief window of time in this world, I don’t need to waste it trying to sort through bullshit.”
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13. “I’m looking for someone who is dependable, trustworthy and fun. But I don’t know if there’s any sure fire way to ‘win me over’. It will ultimately just depend on the person and what they are like.”

23 Times Leslie Knope Perfeclty Summed Up Your Life As An ESFJ

There is a great deal of debate within the MBTI community as to which personality type Leslie Knope from Parks and Recreation should be classified as. While some insist ENFP, most remain firm on her extroverted feeling function. Regardless of your stance on her personality type, it is inevitable that many of the struggles Leslie Knope faces are inherent to the ESFJ personality type. If you fall under this category, here are a few times when Leslie Knope perfectly summed up your life:

1. When you want everyone to feel included but you also want a job done right
2. When you make it your personal mission to help your friends find the love that they deserve
3. When you rely on your best friend a little more than you’d like to admit
4. When your extroverted feeling is exploding and your introverted sensing needs a moment to catch up
5. When you’re trying your hardest not to take criticism personally
6. When you dream of a more just society
7. Describing your personal style to others
8. When you and bae completely have each others backs and you just can’t be subtle about it
9. When you want to give helpful advice but it comes out a little more bluntly than you’d planned
10. When someone tries to put down your style but you know better
11. When you make an organizational system super clear and people still can’t seem to keep up
12. When you and your best friend are the real OTP
13. When you haven’t seen your thinking friends in a while
14. When you’re going through a horrible breakup and trying to keep it together
15. When you come back from a tiring night out and need to rant about your underwhelming love life
16. When someone accuses you of being high-strung
17. When you’re trying to act classy but you’re not fooling anyone
18. When something exciting happens in your love life and you are completely unable to wait to update your friends
19. When you’re having a day where the feels are hitting way too hard
20. When you get involved in someone else’s drama and end up making things worse
21. When you can’t help but get caught up in a special occasion but nobody shares your enthusiasm
22. When you’re trying your hardest not to hold a grudge but your introverted sensing is like
23. When people make fun of you for being over-prepared but at the end of the day, they’re always glad to have you around

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