Ranking The Myers-Briggs Personality Types Based On How Hard It Is For Them To Commit To A Relationship

1. ISTP: It’s not that you’re not capable of commitment, but you also tend to take things on a day-by-day basis, in the strictest sense of the term. You might feel very “committed” today, but tomorrow could be an entirely different story, and as such you have a hard time allowing yourself to commit to…well, anything.
2. ESTP: You don’t have an issue with being in a relationship, but that person has to learn to keep up and fast. You are always ready and embarking on a brand new adventure, and whatever insanely cool thing it is that you’re doing, the person you commit to has to be even more intriguing than that…and let’s be real, that doesn’t happen very often.
3. ESFP: Listen, we know, you’re effortlessly cool, charming, and socially likable. In fact, the amount of charisma you pour out gives you quite a few options to choose from. Of course once you’re in a relationship, you’re extremely excited about that one person and you aren’t afraid to show it, but actually getting you to narrow down your options and PICK one tends to take quite a while because come on, we know you’re eating up all the attention you’re getting from your many potential suitors.
4. ENTP: We already know you’re incredibly witty and exceptionally charming, so it’s no wonder you have multiple people who are dying to commit to you. You tend to present a detached nature from the start, and you definitely love having your share of options so it will take someone really intriguing to convince you to step out of the game and into something real.
5. ENFP: When it comes to relationships and love, you get REALLY EXCITED ABOUT IT. Yet truth be told, even when you find someone you’re interested in, you have a hard time wrestling with yourself about what else could be out there. The “grass is always greener” syndrome loves to rear its ugly head, and it causes you to hesitate before you decide to jump into any real relationship.
6. INTJ: We know that once you’re invested in someone, you’re all in- but we also know it takes you an insanely long time to get there. You are definitely one to value your independence and aren’t quick to give that up for hardly anyone, and you also spend a great deal of time analyzing situations, which means that coming to a decision about whether the person you like is truly worth the commitment takes way more time than the average person.
7. INFP: there is nothing you would love more than to find your soulmate and live happily ever after- yet that tends to be where the issue lies for you. While commitment itself may not be the problem, your idealistic expectations are- and it causes you to write off anyone that doesn’t fit your picture perfect ideal. You definitely don’t want to settle, and you shouldn’t, but this also means that getting involved in a commitment is going to take a while of you sorting through all those toads until you find your prince to hopelessly love and cherish until you die.
8. INTP: You aren’t one to really put too much stock into relationships as much as the other types, but your commitment determination really seems to stem more from a strong to desire to be alone rather than a fierce aversion to commitment itself. If you found someone who gave you plenty of space, was totally honest and was really determined to understand you, you wouldn’t have an issue committing to them. Yet as it stands, it can be pretty hard for you to come across people like that, right?
9. ISFP: You’re not an easy person to get to know, and part of you kind of likes it that way. Yet you do have a desire to be understood and known by a person who loves and cherishes you-you just have to actually find the person willing to tear down the God knows how many walls you’ve built up trying to protect yourself- yet if they do, you’re all theirs.
10. INFJ: You really don’t have much of an issue with commitment when you really look at it- but you do spend quite a long time inside your own mind thinking it over and over…and over. Once you finally do decide to take the jump and commit to a person, you aren’t one to back out whatsoever.
11. ENTJ: You might tend to give off a pretty emotionally unavailable vibe, simply because you have plenty of goals you’re working towards. Yet truth be told, once you set your eyes on the person you want, you want nothing short of a full commitment, and it won’t be hard to convince you to take a chance on it if the other person has the same goals you do.
12. ISFJ: You honestly prefer the stability of a committed relationship over the uncertainty of casual dating, yet much like your INFJ friend, you tend to take a while to think things through to ensure you won’t have any regrets later on. Yet once you have made up your mind, it will take heaven and earth to prevent you from following through and investing heavily into the commitment you’ve made.
13. ESTJ: You’re all about the practical aspects to things, and to you, it doesn’t make sense to waste time on something vague when you already know you are interested in the person. You definitely aren’t one to simply settle for just anyone, yet once you know what you want and that it makes sense, you have no qualms about committing to them.
14. ISTJ: You literally roll your eyes at anyone who talks about having “flings” or “almost relationships.” For you, it’s very simple: commit, or walk away. You tend to be pretty old-fashioned about these things, and there isn’t anything wrong with that.
15. ENFJ: You are not one to beat around the bush about the way you feel about someone- if you’re in, you’re all in, and it usually doesn’t take you too long to determine that due to your exceptional ability of reading people and understanding them right from the start. You don’t have any hang-ups about committing yourself to a person, so long as they promise to do the same to you.
16. ESFJ: Commitment is honestly your middle name. You will bend over backward and go completely out of your way to meet your loved one’s needs in every single capacity, and you’re always hoping they will be willing to return that same devotion right back to you. Commitment is basically second nature for you-you just need to find the ones that are truly worth it.

These Are Your Least Favorite Things, According To Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

I had personally never heard of the types until my senior year of high school. I’ll never forget it. At a time in your life when you feel so misunderstood and so lonely, I had an amazing English teacher explain to me why I felt that way. I didn’t feel so left out, odd, and ahead of the times because I was a classic high school student;  I felt that way because I have the rarest of all the types: INFJ. Because of Ms. Donna Kreiling.

Each Myers-Briggs types least favorite things.

ISTJ: under-performing, letting others down, being nagged, a lack of honor.

ESTJ: being disrespected, whining, having to be emotionally open, new-age silliness

INTJ: ignorance, flippant behavior, feeling stupid, subjectivity.

ENTJ: being wrong, having to handle something with kid gloves, failure, immaturity, crying.

ISFJ: inconsiderate people, having to make tough decisions that affect others, not fitting in, not sharing.

ESFJ: being disliked, putting oneself before others, know-it-alls, selfishness

INFJ: feeling forced, misunderstandings, being surrounded by conflict, when people intentionally lack perspective.

ENFJ: unsolved conflict, being closed off, unfairness, societal marginalization.

ISFP: being told to live a certain way, lack of freedom, meanness, being artistically stifled.

ESFP: boundaries, judgment, not being able to express oneself, plainness.

INFP: feeling invalidated, having to be strictly logical and objective, a lack of imagination, conflict.

ENFP: their ideas being stolen, someone questioning their sincerity, subjective logic, unchallenged beliefs.

ISTP: being told what to do, stupidity, rigid structure, people who won’t get their hands dirty.

ESTP: limits, “stupid people,” authority, having to tone it down.

INTP: a lack of intelligence, emotional perspectives, scientific stagnation, invalidating ideas.

ENTP: rules, hiding their power level, objective morality, being written off for being unorthodox.

11 INFJ Characteristics That Make Them The Ideal Leaders

INFJs may not be the first type of people that come to mind when you think about a great leader. The majority of leaders around the world and throughout history seem to be everything that an INFJ is not. INFJs aren’t the typical charismatic, power-hungry, domineering, or overly-authoritative leaders that have made names for themselves by exuding toughness and callousness for the sake of power and their own gain.

But what if INFJs did rule the world, the workplace, and took charge in influencing the way people live?People would be able to pursue their passions with the purpose of giving valuable lessons to others and catalyzing inner growth. There would be no more fear-based decisions that crush the human spirit. Favoritism, nepotism, and social biases would no longer be issues in the workplace, the government, or anywhere else.

People would no longer be driven by profit or gain at the expense of their mental health and wellbeing – instead, they’d have plenty of time to recharge and reflect, which would enable them to create businesses that align with their visions and contribute something wholesome that people actually want to add to their lives.Here are some characteristics that INFJs have and how they show potential for being the ideal leaders:

1. They’re planners

They are strategic planners that possess the ability to plan forward and backward while also taking into account the importance of balancing the realistic and the ideal, which enables them to make goals that are attainable in a way that facilitates growth and change, rather than expecting and demanding instantaneous perfection.

2. They care about inner growth

They are obsessed with inner growth and bettering oneself from within. Because they think deeply about themselves and about their impact on the world, they desire to make changes that would not only help themselves, but inspire change in others to better themselves.

3. They’re empathetic

They deeply empathize with people who are suffering and have been rejected for not conforming to social norms. Thus, they would treat people with fairness and ensure that people have the opportunity to speak, ignite change, and do everything that’s authentic to them.

4. They’re very self-aware

They are very self-aware in every aspect of their lives. They are sensitive about how they impact others and how their actions and words can have a strong effect on people. They want to lead by example, practice what they preach, and hide nothing that they’d be ashamed about. Instead of expecting others to do what they can’t do themselves, they strive to identify what areas they need to work on and exhibit the characteristics of the ideal leader, so that they are trustworthy, honest, and unable to be judged as hypocrites.

5. They love unconditionally

INFJs have experienced life as a conditional game and are tired of living up to expectations by those who cannot show any empathy for their struggles to fit in. They want people to be valued and loved unconditionally because it’s in their nature to care about people and listen to them, instead of viewing them as replaceable machines for the sake of personal gain, profit, or boosting their own power.

6. They’re open-minded and natural learners

They love to learn and understand things from all perspectives. Rather than viewing new ideas and thoughts with fear and contempt, they love to learn new things and view each issue from a variety of perspectives because they are genuinely curious and love exploring the unknown with a sense of childlike wonder. They are constantly evolving, so they do not readily adopt any dogma that stifles growth.

7. They show vulnerability and humility

They don’t try to act tough or callous all the time because they know that people need to be understood and listened to, not tortured or blamed for being inadequate. By sharing the most vulnerable parts of themselves, they enable others to be courageous in sharing their stories and being more open and honest about their personal struggles. This facilitates self-improvement because people are more likely to grow when they know people are supportive of them and won’t judge them for being imperfect and flawed.

8. They choose purpose over profit every time

They want to create products and services that help the world in some way. They are conscious about their impact on people’s mental health and nature.

9. They value rest and rejuvenation

They believe in the power of self-reflection and taking the time to slow down instead of working restlessly. They understand that there’s more to life than being brutally competitive and rushing to nowhere worth being in the long run.

10. They always see the big picture

They are experts at synthesizing information and experiences and creating a bigger picture. They do not get caught up in the most frivolous of details, the pettiest of grievances, or pointless arguments in which both sides just want to be right. They view things holistically and see all aspects of life as interconnected, so they focus more on what they can do, how they can connect people and ideas, and how they can facilitate growth to create a more harmonious system in which everyone can thrive and live a life that isn’t driven by fear of judgment.

11. They can predict the future

They can see the future and predict things more accurately than those typical leaders who are too blinded by their vainglory and ego. They know the devastating consequences of taking actions that are based on fear and pride, so they want to ensure that all actions they take are based on growth, humility, and soulful reflection.

Their wisdom, self-awareness, and visionary mindset enable them to create a better future for all people, but especially who have been traumatized by living under ruthless and callous leaders who put fear in their hearts. They want all people to be valued, loved, and cared for because they themselves know what it’s like not to be.

10 Everyday Struggles Only INFJs Will Understand

INFJS (one of the sixteen personality types from the Myers-Briggs personality type indicator) are believed to be one of the rarest personality types in the world, making up only 2% of the human population. The Myers-Briggs test measures four components of one’s personality based off of extroversion/introversion, sensing/intuition, thinking/feeling, and judging/perceiving. Here are some struggles of the INFJ that might help others understand us a little bit better:

1. We constantly feel too many emotions at the same time.

It sometimes feels as though we absorb every emotion around us. If a co-worker is feeling stressed, we might suddenly feel stressed too. If we are happy over something we have done well, but suddenly get a call that a friend is sick and not feeling well, our whole day could be knocked off kilter. Being an emotional sponge can make us feel emotionally exhausted, which is often why we need to take breaks from others and reflect on our own emotions in solitude.

2. We prefer socializing one on one, which makes group socializing difficult.

In social groups of more than about three people, we often do not want to be the first ones to start a conversation. We would rather listen and chime in at a time we think is appropriate. However, we love to chat one on one. We can devote our attention entirely to the one person and not have any other distractions around us.

3. We can find it hard to trust.

We have had blind faith in many people before, and this has led us to be betrayed or deceived. We know how complicated people are, and we know that even those with the best intentions can lie or betray us. We believe that trust must be earned.

4. We listen so much to others that sometimes we forget we need someone to listen to us, too.

We like to help our friends solve their problems. We want to know what is troubling them, and we want to know how they feel. The issue, then, is that sometimes others take our listening ears for granted. They feel so comfortable with us, and they forget to ask how we are doing. This is when we try to find someone who will listen to us, too.

5. We sometimes have difficulty with verbal expression, but know we are masters of written expression.

If I am nervous when talking to a new person, (which happens often) I will sometimes use words that seem out of place or stumble upon my words. Often, people are shocked when they read my writing because it doesn’t always sound like I sound when I speak. The fact is that I often have so many thoughts jumping around in my mind that it is easier to write them out because they become easier to understand.

6. We tend to overthink about…well, everything, but especially our purpose.

We want to give meaning to the world by helping others or at least helping a cause greater than ourselves. We are constantly asking ourselves if we have contributed enough, or when will contribute enough. We wonder why others don’t see helping others as a priority.

7. We don’t know how to express our anger and we tend to bottle it up.

Whenever I’m upset with someone for being insensitive or doing something I think is inappropriate, I don’t know how to tell him or her. Instead, I will often shutdown and be quiet, and tell the person that everything is fine. The person knows it’s not fine, because I’ve suddenly stopped talking. It’s not healthy, but it’s also always been my gut reaction to being upset. This is something most INFJS could work on—how to express anger in a way that is clear and understandable.

8. We want everyone to be happy and we are often noted to be “people pleasers.”

We hate conflict. If someone is upset, we want to fix it right away. We’re often called the teacher’s pet because we want to successful and we want to be liked. This is exhausting, truly. Luckily, I’ve grown out of this trait a bit, but it’s taken much practice.

9. We know that happiness comes and goes, and that happiness is all up to us.

We’ve done the work—believe me. We’ve struggled and been extremely depressed. We’ve read books, we’ve painted, we’ve written, we’ve stayed up until 5am in the morning trying to discover what happiness might be. We know that happiness is that warm feeling that goes off in your heart when you’re simply present and in the moment, doing something you love.

10. We will always want to be better.

I’ll sign off here, writing this article. It’s 11:57pm and I’ve got a sinus infection.

Everything You Need To Know About Love, Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type


You tend to see love as a process—a slow build up that should be planned and coordinated so as to work out in your favor. The problem is, love doesn’t always go according to plan. Love can throw you off guard. Love is never what it seems, especially the type of love that lasts for a lifetime. You can’t plan that type of love. It will hit you like a brick when you least expect it.


There may be times that you feel like you are in love with someone, because they acquire all the traits you’ve determined worthy of in a partner. This doesn’t mean that they won’t mess up or that you won’t have to fight for them, or even with them, in order to keep the love you have for each other. Not everything will be harmonious and easygoing, but that’s what will make the love stronger. Love is like a muscle—exercise it right and it will grow.


Idealizing can benefit you in your search for love. You tend to put people on a pedestal when you fall for them, which makes them feel as if they can reach a height they couldn’t possibly reach all on their own. The only problem is, you can’t put them on a higher place than your own. You may want to inspire them to be their best selves, but don’t let them think their best self is better than you. Love should illuminate equality between two people. If you give all of your advice, love, inspiration and adoration to someone, then they should be giving it back.


Thinking you know someone from the inside out will be your demise when it comes to love. Don’t always expect that you know everything about the person you fall in love with. People are full of surprises and that could be quite spectacular. Love is full of breaking expectations. You never know who or when you’ll fall in love. When you do, you’ll discover all these unique qualities about that other person that you would’ve never found so intriguing or loveable before. Let yourself love their quirky, unexpected traits.


Being open about your feelings and thoughts is one of the most beneficial aspects of love. It will create a bond between you and your partner that you have never felt before, but you tend to remain closed off when it comes to discussing your deep thoughts. Realize that they are worth sharing, especially with the one you love. This will feel unnatural at first, but once you open yourself up and begin sharing—you will feel as if it’s the most natural thing in the world.


Sharing space and time and even a bed is crucial in the act of love. Sharing your thoughts, feelings, opinions and knowledge is also crucial in the act of love. Don’t let the terror of losing your independence or alone time stop you from falling in love. If it’s the right person, you won’t feel like you’re missing out on anything. If anything, you will feel like you’re gaining so much more than when you are on your own.


Love will not always be how you imagined it to be. In fact, it might be the complete opposite. You may think love only exists in fairy tales or that there must be a dramatic rise and fall to every relationship, but this is not true. Love can be stable, steady and at sometimes even boring. The point is to get through these times in order to maintain a relationship that will actually help you grow as an individual, instead of just being a way to entertain your imagination.


In order to find and be in love, you must look up and reach out to others. You have to be open to breaking out of your shell and doing things that may push you out of your comfort zone. Love will initiate fear, mostly because it is a feeling you can’t plan or explain through logic. It will break you open, in both your mind and heart. It will challenge you to think differently, to feel differently and to be different. Let this happen.


Love will not happen immediately. It will take plenty of time and patience. Maybe the love of your life is already standing in front of you, but you are unaware because there wasn’t an immediate spark or connection. Over time, you will realize that feelings can grow for someone you may have never expected them to. This is what makes love so magical. It happens gradually and unknowingly. Once you realize this, it will change everything you have ever known or thought to believe was love.


You know how to put yourself out there and how to find love. The only problem is—you tend to find it in someone and attempt to alter your life around them, so as to have them love you in return. You do not need to alter yourself to make someone love you. Love will make you more of who you are, not less. When you find the right person, they will bring out all your best qualities to help you grow into the person you were always meant to be. It’ll feel right and not as if you have to force things.


You have the biggest heart. You want to give and spread your love to just about anyone you meet and that sometimes leads to heartache. It’s okay to be vulnerable, but not everyone deserves your vulnerability. Even if they may seem like the ideal partner, you have to understand that not everyone is as they seem. Love isn’t always found in the person you’ve always imagined it would be. It isn’t always going to be the man and woman of your dreams. It’s not always going to be the tall, dark handsome stranger at a coffee shop or the beautiful blonde at work. The beauty of love is found when you get to know someone on a deeper level over time. It’s not always going to be love at first sight.


Love entails patience and commitment. It doesn’t just come to you when you are ready and willing to take it. This means you have to fight and work a little in order to achieve a relationship. When you are in love, you don’t give up when things start to get boring or your partner is having an off day. You find ways to make it exciting again, or you cheer them up with their favorite foods. This is what makes it a relationship, because when you fight for them, they will fight for you in return.


Not everyone will be on the same wavelength as you. You are hardworking, dedicated, committed and straightforward, which are all great qualities to have, but not everyone is going to be able to keep up. Love will cause you to slow down and think about your significant other. Maybe, you’ll have to allow them to catch up to you once in a while. This doesn’t mean you have to change or become less of who you are. It’s a matter of teaching them, so they can finally match up to your capabilities. You never know—they might have some things to teach you as well.


Love means giving all that you are to another person, but that doesn’t mean you can’t give the same to yourself. You always have to put yourself first in order to maintain a healthy, stable relationship. You have to make sure you are taking care of you, your mental and physical health, along with your emotions in order to truly satisfy another. You are important and your partner will see that. The right person will want you to take care of yourself before them.


You excel in putting your loved ones before you and leading them in the right path to becoming the best versions of themselves. This is beneficial to love, but there are going to be times when your partner doesn’t want to be taken care of. Maybe, they just want to take care of you for once. Maybe, they have the skills you don’t have to complete a task or figure out a problem you’ve been working on. Love is when two people work together. Your partner should be there for you just as much as you are for them.


You really do think you know everything there is to know about love. To a certain extent, your knowledge has helped you dodge a lot of potential failed relationships. Your quick to say no to someone that doesn’t seem worthy. This is great. The only problem is that love can’t be figured out and dissected with the power of knowledge, no matter how badly we want it to be. Love is unexplainable. We fall for the most random people and at the most seemingly inconvenient times, but once it happens—we realize it was actually the right person and the perfect time to find them. It will all make sense, eventually.

The Next Starbucks Drink You Should Try, Based On Your Myers-Briggs Type

If there’s one thing that can bring us all together in these uncertain times, that thing just might be Starbucks. Even if you’re not a fan of coffee per se (I, for one, fall into that camp), you can easily find one — or ten— things to love on the menu at your local ‘Bux. And if you have trouble deciding what to order on your next coffee (or not-coffee) run, allow me to recommend the next Starbucks drink you should try, based on your Myers-Briggs type.
As you probably already know if you’ve taken any sort of Myers-Briggs assessment, your type can’t say everything about you, but it can certainly offer a good sense of your temperament, as well as what motivates you. With this in mind, I studied up onall the different Myers-Briggs types, as well as the full Starbucks menu, in order to make some educated guesses about what kind of beverage might most appeal to people who fall into each of the 16 type categories.
I’m not suggesting that you need to switch to this Starbucks drink from now until the end of time — only that your personality might offer some surprisingly helpful hints about what beverage might make you happiest if you’re in the market to shake up your usual order. Who knows? You might even find yourself with a new favorite drink!


Light, mellow, and delicious, a Blonde Roast is the perfect pick-me-up beverage for any ISTJ. If you identify as an ISTJ, you’re probably pretty pragmatic and dependable, so I doubt you’re going to go with anything too crazy on that ‘Bux menu… but the Blonde Roast should be just enough warm flavor for you.


You like things straightforward, ISFJ, so might I recommend a Caffè Misto? It’s a one-to-one mix (so systematic!) of fresh coffee and steamed milk that should appeal to your dependable, practical sensibilities.


Quietly intense INFJs will no doubt enjoy a creamy Vanilla Latté. As an INFJ, you are sensitive but creative, serious but inspiring. Vanilla Lattés are simple with a sweet twist, so it seems like a perfect match to me.


INTJs have a lot of inner depth — just like a Cappuccino! Get you to a Starbucks and grab a drink that will reflect your decisive, independent, innovative personality. And since you are likely on a constant quest for maximum competence and self-improvement, that boost of caffeine won’t hurt, either.


You like a little variety to spice up your life, ISTP, so why not try the Violet Drink? A blend of sweet blackberries, the Very Berry Hibiscus Refresher, coconut milk, and ice, the beverage is especially well-suited for spring and summer, but will be delicious at any time of the year!


A mix of freshly steamed milk, vanilla syrup, espresso, and caramel drizzle, a Caramel Macchiato is a great Starbucks selection for the ISFPs of the world. The drink should suit your love for good aesthetics (it’s pretty!), as well as your generally joyful temperament — but it’s still not too wild.


You’re naturally idealistic and inquisitive, and in the world of beverages, what’s more idealistic and inquisitive than a Very Berry Hibiscus Refresher? You’ve got your real fruit juice and your whole blackberries, plus some green coffee extract. The finished product is both pretty and a natural energy booster!


You love to analyze interesting concepts and to pursue new ideas, but you still tend to keep things pretty simple and straightforward. A Flat White — which pairs some shots of espresso with whole milk — seems like a fantastic fit to me. That espresso will help keep your curiosity buzzing too!


ESTPs seek adventure and excitement, and the Espresso Con Panno even looks exciting. You’ll love the experience of mixing up a dollop of whipped cream with a straight-up shot of espresso (or, if you’re me, the experience of eating the whipped cream with a spoon and ingesting the espresso as quickly as possible).


Just the description of the Salted Caramel Mocha on the Starbucks website is enough to make any Myers-Briggs type want to give it a try — but, I think the drink would appeal especially to ESFPs, who are high-energy, sociable, expressive, and spontaneous.


I’ve been told more times than I’d like to admit that ordering a Frappuccino is really just giving yourself an excuse to buy a milkshake, but I think my ENFP pals can agree with me when I say that there’s absolutely no shame in that game. To those playful and novelty-seeking ENFPs, I would recommend a Caramel Frappuccino.


You like trying new things and approaching situations with a global, theoretical perspective. For some reason, these characteristics make me think that a Teavana Shaken Peach Citrus White Tea Infusion would be the right Starbucks choice for you. So light and refreshing!


ESTJ, your assertive, decisive, results-oriented personality means that you need to come at things with a lot of energy, so I am happy to suggest that you try a Nitro Cold Brew With Sweet Cream. You’ll get the drink served cold straight from the tap, and you’ll experience a jolt of caffeine along with a burst of vanilla sweetness.


Honestly, who doesn’t love a Hot Chocolate? As far as I can tell, the answer is no one, but ESFJs are especially prone to enjoying this nostalgic beverage. People who fall into this category are naturally warm, caring, and empathetic, and they seek harmony in the world around them. What brings people together more than a steaming mug of cocoa?


Add milk and cinnamon-flavored syrup to Starbucks signature espresso, add whipped cream and cinnamon topping, and you’ve got yourself a Cinnamon Dolce Latté. ENFJ, I have a feeling that this will sound particularly appealing to you and your sociable, imaginative, possibility-oriented personality.


You probably have a lot of big plans to take on the universe, ENTJ, and what better way to equip yourself to make those big plans happen than to indulge in a Starbucks Doubleshot On Ice? The drink is lightly sweetened, but most importantly, the espresso is going to give you the extra push you need to get. things. done.

The Myers-Briggs Test's Most Important Questions Aren't What You Think They Are

If you’ve ever taken the Myers Briggs Type Indicator test, you’ve likely wondered which questions are most important in determining your MBTI type. However, the Myers-Briggs assessment’s most important questions aren’t what you think they are. I’ve taken the MBTI assessment twice — once, five years ago when I started a new job, and again a few weeks ago. Both times, my results revealed that I have INFP preferences.
But this time when I took the assessment, I noticed that many of questions are asked multiple times. They’re rephrased slightly, and each consists of a forced-choice option for answering, which means that I sometimes chose different answers for the same question. I wondered how this would impact my results because, while taking the test, I felt a little at odds with myself.
It turns out that this is on purpose. Marta Koonz, senior consultant for CPP – The Myers-Briggs Company, tells Bustle, “By asking multiple times, [the test] really is trying to get at that natural preference that you have. Because, [we] have to take into account that you’re going to use the other part of that preference sometimes.
The repeated questions are really to help us drill down to, OK, yeah, I know you do both, but which one is the one that you’re more likely to go to, which is that natural preference,” she explains. She adds that if each question were only asked once, you might reflect back to the last time you did something and answer based on the choice you made at that time, which doesn’t provide a complete picture of your natural preferences.
“There isn’t one question that says this is the determining factor because there’s four preference pairs, so there’s no way you could synthesize that into one question,” Koonz adds.
In its most basic form, the MBTI is kind of like a map, and just like a map, it will show you different routes you can take. In each case, you have a choice. Just because you have INFP-type preferences doesn’t mean you can’t choose to use sensing too, even thought it doesn’t feel as natural. While you might prefer to take one route suggested by a map, that doesn’t mean you can’t choose to try a different route that’s out of your comfort zone.
“Each of us comes to this with our own life experiences. Because of that, I’m not going to be exactly the same as someone else who has the same four-letter type preferences that I do,” Koonz explains. “When you take the assessment, you always go through what we call the best-fit process. The most important piece in some way is what you believe your preferences to be as long as you’re being honest with yourself, so that’s why that self-validation piece is really a requirement there.”
If you’re taking the MBTI assessment online, once you finish with the question portion, you’re directed through a series of exercises that dive deeper into your preferences, which is why being aware of what you prefer is pretty important.
You can also take the assessment in person with an MBTI consultant who will personally walk you through the best-fit process. “Ultimately, you are the only one who can decide your type,” the Myers & Briggs Foundation noted on its website. “The practitioner needs to use open-ended questions and listen, listen, and listen some more.
The greatest learning about type sometimes comes as you puzzle through your core preferences.” So, if you take the test before you’ve developed a high level of self awareness about what your preferences really are, there’s a good chance that you’ll get a different four-letter type if you retake the assessment years later after you have solid grasp of your preferences.
While some people might feel boxed in by their type, the MBTI is really designed to do the exact opposite. “We want to look at the type table as a 16-room house, and the idea is that we all have a favorite room,” Koonz says. “While we all have a favorite room, we should actually visit all of the rooms every day. But, we just want to know — which is the room that’s going to reenergize us? I have a preference for intuition. I can use sensing, and sometimes I use sensing because it’s valuable to me. But I’m not as good at using sensing as I am at using intuition, but I [still] use both every day.”
Additionally, similar to astrology, not everyone with the same type preference is going to act the same. Just like all Libras act differently while still exhibiting similar traits, people with the same MBTI-preference type have similar strengths, weaknesses, and blindspots. However, these things won’t manifest the same for each individual because everyone has both a different level of self awareness, life experiences, and free will. “We’re not going to be exactly the same — we can’t say this is your four-letter type, and this is your downfall,” Koonz explains. “The four-letter type was developed to help us get to a deeper understanding of our type preferences.”
Because you are shaped by your own experiences, you might interpret your type in a different way than someone else with the same type. For example, as an INFP, one of the traits of my MBTI-preference type is being adaptable until a value is threatened. For me, personally, this means that once someone deceives me, I will immediately distance myself from that person. Another INFP might not react this way because they could have both different core values and different life experiences. The over all goal of the MBTI is to help you better understand yourself and others, Koonz says.
What’s more, while you might find someone with an opposite MBTI type challenging, opposites can actually make pretty good teams because they have different strengths and blindspots, which means they each bring different things of value to the table. “Someone with the exact opposite preferences, they might be challenging for me because they don’t do things the way I do things, but in some ways they might balance me,” Koonz says. “When we can appreciate differences, we can find success for both ourselves and for other people.”

The 3 Myers-Briggs Types That Are Most Likely To Cheat

When it comes to romantic relationships, you may wonder if certain types of personalities are more prone to cheat than others. Of course, you probably don’t set out to date someone who cheats, and people who cheat probably do not intend to either. However, some people believe that cheating may happen due to someone’s personality traits.
For instance, you’re probably aware of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), wherein you can see which of the 16 personality types you fit into. You may also see which personality type the person you’re dating is, in order to figure out more about them. If you’re wondering which Myers-Briggs type is most likely to cheat, that’s a great question.
Before you can understand which Myers Briggs types may stray in a relationship, you have to understand how the types work overall. Poppy and Geoff Spencer, M.S., CPC, Relationship Consultants and authors of a #1 bestseller, One Billion Seconds: There’s Still Time to Discover Love, are also Certified Myers Briggs Practitioners.
The Myers Briggs Type Inventory describes four pairs of opposites, like our two opposite hands, they tell Bustle. The Spencers say these represent: Opposite ways or directing and receiving energy, taking in information, making decisions and coming to conclusions based on that information, and approaching the outside world.
As far as the 16 types, here’s how they work, according to the Spenser:

  • How people prefer to be approached: (E–I: Extroversion–Introversion)
  • How people prefer to take in information: (S–N: Sensing–Intuition)
  • How people tend to make their decisions based on the information gathered: (T–F: Thinking–Feeling)
  • When people prefer to make decisions: (J–P: Judging–Perceiving)

So when a friend or someone’s online dating profile tells you they are an ENFJ, now you can figure out what it means. As far as which MBTI is most likely to cheat, the Spencers believe these three types come out on top (so to speak).


As far as an MBTI that is most likely to cheat, INTJs are one of them. I know, you may wonder: INTJ, what?! When you break down INTJ, it stands for: Introversion, Intuition, Thinking, and Judging.
“Not a type to be bound by social conformity, the INTJ loves their freedom, and that means the freedom to explore areas where others would respect social boundaries,” the Spencers say. “This type dislikes confinement and being tied down. The INTJ is loyal to themselves and answers to their own rules.”


ISTPs, too, are up there among the MBTIs that are most likely to cheat, the Spencers say. Once again, you can break down ISTP: Introversion, Sensing, Thinking, and Perceiving.
“ISTPs are both curious and carefree, and impulsivity is a given,” the Spencers say. “If an alluring prospect is presented to the sometimes quiet-mannered ISTP, their impulsive tendencies may override their reserved facade.”


The third MBTI that is most likely to cheat is the ESTP, characterized by: Extroversion, Sensing, Thinking, and Perceiving. “ESTPs are driven by their own blueprint for life,” the Spencers say. “ESTPs live life according to the ESTP’s encoded DNA, and spontaneity is the life force that runs through their veins. The life of a party and a people magnet, the dynamic ESTP draws people to them like honey to bees.”
However, if you realize you are one of these three types or that your partner is, don’t panic. “Of course, like all the MBTI types, these are NOT set in stone and are merely preferences,” the Spencers says. “Someone may show a preference for an INTJ, yet it is not a clear preference, as they have developed their other preferences equally, as well.”
If the above sounds like a foreign language to you and you have no idea what your MBTI is, you can go to the Myers & Briggs Foundation website for more information, such as getting the test done through a therapist or MBTI professional. Or, you can take the MBTI online, as well.
When it comes down to it, any MBTI personality type can cheat, but it is good to know that some personality traits may have a higher likelihood of doing so than others. Being a certain MBTI personality or not, it’s important to look out for signs of cheating on top of anything else, though the above definitely gives you something to think about, too.

The Ideal Date Idea For Each Myers-Briggs Type

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, a fresh new idea for date night still probably seems appealing. But amongst the seemingly endless ideas you can find online, there’s always a bunch that seem too plain, too insane, or simply just too expensive. Luckily, taking ideas for dating based on Myers-Briggs type can help narrow the scope and bring you closer to the romantic shakeup you’re looking for.
The Myers-Briggs test divides personalities into sixteen types, based on a set of four opposites: extroversion and introversion, sensing and intuition, thinking and feeling, and judging and perceiving. These types, delineated by the mother-daughter pair of Katharine Cook Briggs and Isabel Briggs Myers, explore how people go about in the world, including in dating.
“Just as people tend to rely on one hand more than the other, they tend to prefer and rely on one opposite in each pair more than the other,” Poppy and Geoff Spencer, M.S., CPC, Certified MBTI Practitioners, tell Bustle. The opposites, explain the Spencers, explore how people like to be approached, how people prefer to take in information, how people try to make decisions, and when people want to make decisions. All of these factors, approached correctly, can help create the recipe for a perfect date. So whether you’re looking for a shakeup or a new beginning, check out your personality type’s favorite kind of date below. Here are 16 ideas for the perfect date, according to Myers-Briggs type.

1ISFJ: Farmer’s Market & Make A Meal Together

ISFJs (Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging) are “endlessly loyal,” Christie Tcharkhoutian, Professional Matchmaker & Marriage and Family Therapist, tells Bustle. An ISFJ might be just fine with ‘Netflix and chill’ if you’re already serious, but really, ISFJs want something that can engage your chemistry as a couple more. “They will very often think of their partners needs before themselves,” says Tcharkoutian.
So go above and beyond for them. Ideal date? “Go to a street fair or farmer’s market, to gather items and then bring back to make a meal together, which will help get the best of both worlds,” Tcharkhoutian says. Try a mini apple pie for dessert for an extra dose of adorable.

2ISFP: Surprise Weekend Getaway

Also known as “The Adventurer,” according to Tcharkhoutian, ISFPs (Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving) are, well, true to their name. “ISFPs have a true exploratory nature in which they love to discover new things and have new experiences,” Tacharkhoutian says. “They are charming and easy-going, attracting many potential dates to their agreeable and adventurous nature.”
Looking to match your ISFP partner’s energy? “Surprise [them] with a weekend getaway to an undisclosed secret location,” the Spencers suggest. If that’s too much, Tcharkhoutian says just building a pillow fort at home with them can make their ISFP heart soar (they are an adventurous introvert, after all).

3ESFJ: Go To A Party

ESFJs (Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging) are super-social and motivated by high energy and excitement. “An ESFJ has no problem connecting with others and attracting potential partners. They are warm, compassionate and conflict-avoidant, making them eager to please their date and make sure they are happy,” says Tcharkhoutian.
An ESFJ is happy on a date that involves connecting with other people in some form. The Spencers suggest a party (gallery opening, anyone?) and Tcharkhoutian recommends a sports game. Going anywhere where the ESFJ can feed off of radiating group energy will make the date spark a little bit more.

4ESFP: Arcade Games Or Karaoke

The ESFP (Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving) is all about putting on a good show, so their perfect date would allow them to entertain in some capacity. “ESFPs energy and enthusiasm makes them the life of any room they walk into. In dating, this can translate to many potential partners being drawn in by all of their energy and commanding of attention,” Tcharkhoutian says. But they’re not going to steal the spotlight from their partner. “ESFP likes being of service to others and is loyal to boot,” say the Spencers.
Tcharkhoutian suggests classic date ideas like arcade games or karaoke, but you can spin that romantic evening into something more unique to their personality type by adding an act of service to the evening. “Throw a ’cause’ party where you and your date offer something back to the community or someone you care about who could use your help,” the Spencers say. Not feeling up to hosting your own “party with a purpose?” Find a local event with proceeds going to a good cause and head there together.

5ISTJ: Museum

ISTJs (Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging) are the straightforward thinkers of the group. “‘ISTJ’s are practical and direct in their approach to dating. As introverts, they can often come off as disinterested, but deep down they truly value loyalty, devotion, and persistence,” says Tcharkhoutian. And they love to learn. “Going to visit a museum where you can connect about the art [and] culture and also learn together [is ideal]” says Tcharkhoutian. To show your ISTJ partner how much you love them, you can show them that you share their devotion by doing a little homework before the date. “Research artists you both are interested in,” the Spencers say. The hardworking ISTJ would love to see that you put some thought into the experience, too.

6ISTP: Anything Thrill-Seeking

ISTPs’ (Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving) biggest turn off? Trying to hurry through plans. “ISTP appreciates efficiency and what makes sense, while enjoying reflection and process time. Rushing this type to hurry up and decide what to do is a turn off,” say the Spencers. Also known as “The Virtuoso,” your ISTP date probably wants to try something new, but in a strategic way. Plan a week ahead, say the Spencers, but don’t forget ISTPs still love a good time. “Fun date ideas include anything thrill-seeking,” says Tcharkhoutian. So if you’ve never tried zip-lining but are dying to take a stab at it, an adventurous date with an ISTP is the perfect opportunity.

7ESTJ: Trivia Night At A Local Bar

An ESTJ (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging) thrives on their practical leadership skills and innate confidence. “An ESTJ is a born leader, who thrives in managing people and situations. They are practical and goal-oriented, enjoying the details and finer things in life,” says Tcharkhoutian.
You can show your ESTJ partner a good time, then, by showing them off. Their leadership skills and charisma will shine in a competitive social environment. Try trivia night at a local bar, or play a long game of Monopoly if you feel like staying cozy at home.

8ESTP: Something Spontaneous

ESTPs (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving) are all about balance. The combination of extroversion and perceptive logic means that ESTPs can go with the flow more than most Myers-Briggs “Thinkers.” “They thrive off of taking risks and enjoy being spontaneous in planning dates. They are also very resourceful and can make the best of any situation,” Tcharkhoutian says. So try doing something that brings out that free-spirited side of your partner.
The ESTP’s ideal date wouldn’t be planned out in advance. “[Try] driving to a fun place in town and seeing what happens!” suggests Tcharkhoutian. Some of the coolest hidden gems are found this way, and it’ll be a cute little story to share between you two when you stumble upon a speakeasy you two never knew existed.

9INFJ: Poetry Reading & Dinner

INFJs (Introverted, Intuiting, Feeling, Judging) are quiet and gentle, yes, but what really makes them stand out if their ability to care for others. “Endlessly optimistic, INFJs always look for the good in others and will always hope for the dating partners to provide them the deep connection they search for. INFJs are truly looking for emotional intimacy, so spending time with a date over long hours of conversation is what makes them feel most connected,” says Tcharkhoutian.
Since they value this kind of shared time, try a poetry or a book reading, followed by a long dinner where you can discuss what you heard. “Be sure to allow time to dig deep to listen as they share their opinions,” the Spencers say. Learning together and exploring one another’s point of view will really set the mood for the soulful INFJ.

10INFP: Picnic

INFPs (Introverted, Intuiting, Feeling, Perceiving) are definitely the romantic type. “This dating partner sees the good in all people and things, including you,” the Spencers say. Their introverted side makes them a bit soul-searching too, so a date that brings out their inner poet-philosopher would be ideal.
“They are calm and good-natured and also very introspective and curious about the world,” says Tcharkhoutian. Try laying a picnic blanket down and stargazing with a bottle of wine, or bring a bunch of old magazines to the park and try to write some blackout poetry together.

11ENFJ: Volunteer Together

If you feel like your ENFJ (Extroverted, Intuiting, Feeling, Judging) partner just “gets” you, you’re not alone. “If your partner is an ENFJ, you’re in … they believe in you, even if you don’t,” the Spencers say.
Always the charmer and people-pleaser, “The Protagonist” ENFJ loves a non-competitive social event where everybody can shine. “They are friendly and selfless and are always looking to care for other people,” Tcharkhoutian says. A perfect date for this type could then be a group scavenger hunt, volunteer activity, or even people-watching in a busy place: anything to make your ENFJ partner feel part of the action in a positive way.

12ENFP: Cooking Class

ENFPs (Extroverted, Intuiting, Feeling, Perceiving) will charm your socks off. “[Their] confidence and charm make them highly attractive and fun to be around. They are able to connect with people and bring out the best in others while maintaining their sense of fun, creativity and intimacy,” says Tcharkhoutian.
Chemistry is vital for an ENFP. “They love to seek meaning beneath the surface and thrive on identifying creative possibilities for the future,” the Spencers say. A creative project can help you explore this spark. “[Try] a 4-session cooking class that they can have fun with,” suggest the Spencers. Bonus points for hosting a dinner party after it’s done and showing off your new skills to a few friends.

13INTJ: A Speaking Event

INTJs (Introverted, Intuiting, Thinking, Judging) are just as relentless in pursuit of a partner as they are in pursuit of knowledge. And, according to Tcharkhoutian, the INTJ dating style reflects their intelligence and strategic mind. “When an INTJ sets their minds on dating someone, they will pursue them whole-heartedly. As a dater, an INTJ will enjoy planning an exciting day date where they can intellectual engage,” Tcharkhoutian says.
Try a speaking event or a talk-back, suggest the Spencers, where your date can ask questions and get engaged. Or even join a book club as a couple, so you can grow and learn together (and share a cute recurring date).

14INTP: Host A Small Dinner Party

INTPs (Introverted, Intuiting, Thinking, Perceiving) might be driven by reason, but that doesn’t keep them away from deep romantic connections. “As masters of logic, INTPs use their intellect to connect with others. INTPs are the people that love a witty texting thread, but are often shy in their pursuit and planning of dates [and] romantic partners,” says Tcharkhoutian. But once you’ve gotten that intellectual connection, an INTP is beautifully loyal.
Tcharkhoutian suggests that a perfect INTP date could be anything from peaceful coffee shop visit to a whale-watch, anywhere that you can have quiet conversation and connection while observing the world around you. If you’re further into the relationship, the Spencers suggest really leaning into the INTP’s intellectual side. “Have a small dinner party where you invite some brilliant thinkers, philosophers, [and] teachers, and open the intellectual floodgates,” the Spencers say. The INTP will walk away smiling, especially if they learn something new about you, too.

15ENTJ: Game Night

ENTJs (Extroverted, Intuiting, Thinking, Judging) definitely like to be the leaders in everything, including relationships. “[ENTJs] use their confidence to lead the planning in dates. They are upset by dates who are flaky or don’t desire making plans ahead of time,” Tcharkhoutian says. But even if you (a non-ENTJ) are trying to plan for your ENTJ partner, you can find ways to continue to engage their personality type.
“Give your ENTJ a goal-oriented event: a hockey game, or a football game where [they] can mastermind and plan the tailgate and all of the logistics,” the Spencers say. If they’re not a sports person, plan a game night with stations, prizes, and a points system to make it interesting.

16ENTP: Dance Class

ENTPs (Extroverted, Intuiting, Thinking, Perceiving) have a flexible attitude that makes them super fun on a date. “ENTPs utilize their endless curiosity about the world to connect with other people in intellectual and meaningful ways. An ENTP is also a planner, but their ‘P’ helps them be creative and open about where their plans take them,” says Tcharkhoutian.
Although they’re somewhat go-with-the-flow, Tcharkhoutian says, an ENTP isn’t satisfied with “ordinary” dates like coffee or drinks. Dance class, anyone? Just make sure your “Debater” partner gets their space to talk about it after. Whatever your (or your partner’s) type, your personality traits should guide you to something fun and outside of the box. “The Myers-Briggs assessment indicates your preferred way of doing certain things; it does not indicate your ability to do those things,” the Spencers say. So you are totally capable of doing an ISTJ adventure if you’re an ENFP. And if you’re an ISTJ/ENFP couple, there’s no harm trying both next weekend.

7 Myers-Briggs Types That Are Most Likely To Be Cat People

The truth about cats and dogs is that some people prefer felines while others have an affinity for canine companions. And, your personality type might play a role in determining which pet you prefer. The Myers-Briggs types that are classic cat people tend to be overwhelmingly introverted, which makes sense. I was once at a work retreat where we all had to go around the room and compare our personality type to an animal.
The two INTJs in the group both chose cats because they identified with the aloof nature of their feline friends. They said the liked to observe from a distance, and interact with others when it suited them, much like cats. Psychology Today noted that two studies confirmed that classic cat people tend to be introverted. “The general pattern that comes out of both studies is that dog owners are more social, interactive and accepting.
Most dogs tend to be super social, want to go places, and get excited by meeting new people, sort of like their extraverted humans. Cats on the other hand will almost never run to the door at the possibility of a ride in the car, and a lot of them hide when company comes over, which is total introvert goals. Are you a cat or a dog person? It may well depend on your MBTI.

1INTPs Like Cats’ Predictable Nature

In a survey of INTP cat lovers on Personality Cafe, one person identified with the predictable nature of cats. “You don’t have to worry about them charging, attacking, pouncing, or licking you out of nowhere. They are civil, quiet, refined, independent,” user joshman108 explained. “I like my cats like I like my people — they don’t really require a whole lot, but when you’re both in the mood you can chill and have a good time.”

2INFPs Feel Like Cats Understand Them

In a poll on Topology Central, almost 45 percent of INFPs identified as cat people versus only 30 percent identifying as dog people. What’s more, in a blog post titled “Introverts Love Pets, Especially INFP,” Nancy Fen explored INFPs’ relationship with animals in general. One person responded, “I’ve always had cats, and I’ve always felt like they understand me.” And, as an INFP myself, I can honestly say same.

3INFJs Love Cats’ Chill Nature

While dog lovers might find cats cold and aloof, these are the same qualities INFJs appreciate in their feline friends. “I like dogs, don’t get me wrong. But they tend to be way more demanding, consistently active (and in your face) and [more] high maintenance than cats. And cats….they are just more my speed,” Holly Robertson wrote in response to an INFJ cat survey on Quora. “This appears to be true for my INFJ best friend as well….always a cat person.”

4INTJs Like Cats’ Independent Nature

For a hardcore introvert, there is nothing worse than a clingy animal or person, which is why INTJs love their feline friends. “They might be the only house pet who not only can handle, but prefer, complete solitude most of the time,” user ins’t anything commented on Personality Cafe. “People don’t seem to understand that dogs are annoying and clingy, like a child, and cats are placid and un-intrusive, like a roommate.”

4ISTJs Appreciate Cats’ Intelligence

For people who want the companionship of a pet, but don’t have time or energy to commit to a dog, cats are an ideal choice. They can amuse themselves, they sleep up to 16 hours a day, they don’t need to go outside to go to the bathroom, and they can be left home alone longer than dogs. ISTJs also appreciate the intelligence of cats. And, according to Psychology Junkie, the best breed of cat for this type is the British short-haired cat.

5ESTPs Enjoy The Dual Personality Of Cats

In a poll on Personality Cafe, 70 percent of ESTPs said they preferred cats to dogs. Cats are kind of like Geminis: they can be super independent, but also seek out attention and social interaction when it suits them, which is ideal for ESTPs. Cats can do their own thing, but they can also be super snuggly when they sense their humans need a little extra TLC. This is because cats are pretty intuitive, which is just one more reason to love them.

6ENFJs Love Cats’ Boss Mentality

It’s no secret that in many cat households the kitties are actually the ones in charge even if they let their humans believe otherwise. ENFJs can totally relate to this. The website Personality Quiz described the ENFJs cat personality as the ringleader. “[ENFJs] will organize the other cats into games. When you get home to find the dining room chandelier swinging back and forth, and all the cats are sitting in the living room looking innocent, it was this cat’s idea.”

7ESFPs Prefer Super Social Cats

ESFPs are the type most likely to take their cats for a jaunt around the neighborhood in a stroller, and they appreciate social cats that act more like dogs, want a lot of attention, but can still stay home alone all day. This is also the type most likely to have an indoor/outdoor cat. Personality Quiz described the ESFP cat type as the hedonist. “The social cat. Inside, outside, contact-oriented. Wallows in petting. Lies in the sun on the driveway.
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