20 Things He Does That Mean He Wants You To Be His Girlfriend

This man loves you.

Having that important talk between two people who are falling for one another can be a very emotionally stressful and overwhelming ordeal. In fact, it’s likely that you fall under the category of women in the world who are just reluctant to having that particular talk with the guy that you’re with. You know what “talk” this is right? It’s the talk where you actually have to define the relationship. Of course, you want to have the security and stability that comes with actually defining where the two of you are in the relationship – and where the two of you are likely to be heading. You want to know exactly just what place you hold in his life and you think that the only way for you to know for sure is to have that talk with him.

But still, it makes you nervous and anxious when you think about actually having the conversation. You aren’t confident enough to actually bring it up when you’re talking to one another. You have had so many opportunities in the past to talk about it but you always chickened out of actually bringing it up. You don’t want to make a fool of yourself or perhaps you don’t want to ask him because you’re scared of what he might end up telling you. The uncertainty kills you and it makes you hesitant. So despite the fact that you so desperately want to know where he stands with regards to the two of you, you let your fears get the best of you and you just bite your lip.

But that doesn’t have to be the case. You don’t have to settle for being kept in the dark just because you’re too afraid to bring it up in a conversation with him. You don’t have to let your insecurities get the best of you. The fact of the matter is that men are very easy to read especially when they’re really starting to become romantically involved with you. You just have to be able to read between the lines. You just have to know how to look into how he feels not through his words but through his actions. Men are very non-verbal communicators. They say so much more with how they act than with what they say. You just have to really pay attention. You just really have to listen to seek out the signs. You just have to stay vigilant and observant. You can tell exactly how he feels and where he stands by merely choosing to be more perceptive.

Don’t know exactly what you should be looking for? Well, then that’s what this article is for. If a lot of the things on this list are actually applicable to your man, then it is highly likely that they are romantically interested in you and they are really serious about being in a relationship with you. So just read on to see if the things on this list apply to your man:

1. He will make it a point to always communicate with you every day whether it be through phone or in person.

2. He will always make sure to carve time out of his schedule to go on special dates with you.

3. He will make an effort to constantly seek intimate things that only the two of you can share with one another.

4. He will never hold back on his compliments from you; he will never be withholding when it comes to his love and affection for you.

5. He will never make you doubt just how much he likes you as a person and as a partner.

6. He will never hold back from discussing a future with you in it.

7. He will make you feel like he constantly wants to be spending time with you regardless of what you’re doing or where you’re going.

8. He will do his best to start integrating you into his own personal social circle; he will make you feel welcome into his family and group of friends.

9. He will ask you to spend the night at his place instead of allowing you to just go home.

10. He will do his best to always make you feel at home in his abode.

11. He will willingly open up about his past and all of the most vulnerable aspects of his life.

12. He will cook for you.

13. He will hold your hand as you’re walking down the street together.

14. He will consider you as an equal in the relationship.

15. He will kiss you with passion and with purpose.

16. He will not force you to act in ways that make you feel totally uncomfortable.

17. He will make it a point to get interested in your personal interests.

18. He will make an effort to be romantic with you.

19. He will actively engage with you on social media.

20. He will brag about you to his friends.

11 Signs You May Have The World’s Rarest Personality Type, ‘INFJ’

According to the Myer-Briggs personality test, 16 personality types are based on four categories. Although 98{67b9dc46c2005a2d6d0dc9e883ab6bdb9c47365a25e8ad24adf59fc11de2db4a} of the world share 15 of the personality types, only 2{67b9dc46c2005a2d6d0dc9e883ab6bdb9c47365a25e8ad24adf59fc11de2db4a} have this type, the rarest personality type in the world. For this reason, members of this group are a mystery since many people have never met one.

What is the rarest personality type in the world?

INFJ, also known as Advocates.

The four categories that personality types are based on are extroversion vs. introversion, sensing vs. intuition, thinking vs. are feeling, and judging vs. perceiving. These category titles determine the name of the personality type, making INFJs introverted, intuitive, handling, and deciding as they lean further to each of those traits.

Here are some more details about this rare personality type:

1. INFJS BELIEVE IN QUALITY OVER QUANTITY

When they spend time with someone, they want to talk about the essential things and hate small talk because it feels meaningless to them. When something or someone doesn’t feel entirely genuine for them, they tend to lose interest quickly.

2. INFJS EARN TRUST QUICKLY

There’s something about people with this personality type that allows other people to trust them immediately. It’s not unusual for complete strangers to start talking to an INFJ and begin telling them things many of their close friends don’t even know about them.

3. INFJS ARE EMPATHIC

Whether it’s a specific insecurity or past trauma, INFJs can quickly do things about people they meet without necessarily knowing why. This also means that they can see beyond outward behavior and to the root of it.

4. INFJS HATE LIES AND ULTERIOR MOTIVES

They value truth and search for meaning in life, which is why they hate lies and when they sense that someone is manipulative. This is also what drives this type to be adventurous, as they want to expand their knowledge of the world.

5. INFJS ARE INTROVERTS THAT ARE OFTEN SEEN AS EXTROVERTS

This is because this personality type can adjust to social situations and are usually very open and talkative with people they’re close to. Although they may be seen as the life of the party all night, when they get home, they’ll be exhausted.

6. INFJS HAVE STRONG CONVICTIONS

This can lead to problems as once they have established what they believe about something; they won’t back down on that belief, leaving relationships and careers behind if they don’t line up with their convictions. INFJs may even ignore laws that they don’t agree with.

7. INFJS HAVE ONLY A FEW REAL FRIENDS

Although they might use the term “friend” to describe the many people they know, someone with this personality type only keeps a select few people close to them. And these lucky few will be treated with absolute, unwavering loyalty.

8. INFJS WORK BEST ALONE, OR IN SMALL GROUPS

Although they work well in larger groups because of how well they get along with others, they do their best work when they’re able to work alone or with only a couple other people that they trust and that think like them.

9. INFJS STRIVE FOR PERFECTION

Everything they do, they want to do it right, the first time. This is a double-edged sword since they can do quality work, but also feel hurt when their work is criticized and often struggle with fear of failure or being inadequate.

10. INFJS HAVE THE GIFT OF WRITTEN LANGUAGE AND CREATIVITY

This is why many people with this personality type have a hard time expressing themselves verbally. It’s also why so some successful writers share this rare personality type.

11. INFJS WANT TO FIX THE BROKEN

They can’t help but be drawn to injured people with the desire to set them. This is because they see the good in that person as well as the struggles that have left that person in their current situation, and they want to lift them out of it.

Like all personality types, the INFJ has both strengths and weaknesses, but understanding them can help others get along with them better and harbor deep and meaningful relationships with them.

9 Ways to Win An Argument Every Time, According To Science

“Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” – Jalaluddin Rumi

If you find yourself often losing arguments, you’re probably getting frustrated with it. Whether you’re having a spirited debate over politics, or current events, feeling like you’re not gaining the upper hand with your points is something that no one likes to experience.

In an argument, your appraisal that you’re losing, your belief that you need to be “right,” and the extent to which you like the other person can all have an impact on the emotions you experience,” says author and professor of psychology Susan Krauss Whitbourne.

Fortunately, science has come through with a way for those of us who can’t seem to stand our ground to win in an argument. If you’re not naturally good at debating, these tricks can help you become better at arguing and even help you win the argument and help people see your side of things.

HERE ARE 9 WAYS TO WIN THE ARGUMENT (AND END IT)

1. HAVE YOUR OPPONENT EXPLAIN THEIR THOUGHTS FIRST

You should ask open-ended questions that encourage them to explain their thought process and their argument. You can’t accurately debate someone without first understanding why they think the way they do, or even what their entire argument is. The other person is more likely to listen to your rebuttals when you first let them get their entire thought out before interrupting them or engaging them in an argument.

2. MIRROR YOUR OPPONENT’S BODY LANGUAGE

You don’t want to be obvious about it, but subtly mirroring your opponent is a good way to get them to trust you, and thus make them more likely to listen to what you have to say. If the person that you’re debating is sitting cross-legged, try copying them as subtly as you can. Try not to mirror every single movement that they make, or you’ll just look like you’re mocking them! The key is to look natural!

Mirroring builds agreement; you can often head off potential trouble by establishing a strong basis of nonverbal agreement before the real negotiating begins,” adds life coach, author and communication theorist Nick Morgan.

3. MAKE EYE CONTACT WHEN A CONVERSATION STARTS

When your opponent begins speaking, make sure to maintain eye-contact while they’re talking. This is scientifically proven to make your opponent less persuasive, which means that you’ll have the upper hand when it comes to providing counter-arguments. As soon as they start talking, make sure to maintain eye-contact throughout their argument.

4. REPEAT WHAT YOU UNDERSTAND THEIR ARGUMENT TO BE

Before launching into your own counter-argument, make sure to paraphrase their own back to them from what you understand them to have said. This is an easy way to develop trust with your opponent, because it proves that you were listening to them in the first place instead of just waiting to get your argument in. When your opponent feels they can trust you, it’ll be easier to make your own argument more persuasive.

In the heat of battle, we often counterattack reflexively without making sure we’ve heard the other party. It wastes time and makes you look bad,” explains speech and presentation coach Sims Wyeth.

5. ACKNOWLEDGE THEIR POINTS

If you agree with parts of their argument, make sure to tell them what parts and why, before you start presenting your own argument. This will help your opponent feel encouraged to consider your points of view once you present them, because you’re affirming the things that they’ve said.

6. KNOW YOUR FACTS LIKE THE BACK OF YOUR HAND

How many times have you made a claim about some piece of trivia only to realize, as soon as you’ve made that claim, that you’re completely wrong? Inevitably, someone challenges you, but because you don’t want to “lose,” you continue to stick to your guns,” adds Whitbourne.

Therefore, when presenting your counter-arguments, make sure you know what you’re talking about. If you can’t explain your argument when asked to expand on certain points, it’s time to go back to the drawing board. Make sure you know your argument inside and out before presenting it. Nothing will make you lose an argument faster than not being able to expand on your points.

7. PROMPT YOUR OPPONENT TO AGREE WITH YOU

Ending your statements with verbal affirmations will prompt your opponent to see things from your point of view, and end up agreeing with your points. Ending your statement with things like “…wouldn’t you?” or “…isn’t it?” will make your opponent more likely to concede to your arguments.

8. LOWER YOUR VOICE

During the argument, try not to raise your voice. This is more likely to put someone into fight or flight mode, and shut them off from considering your points of view.

Be mindful of your emotions. When anger and fear overtake you, your cause will be weakened. Be passionate. Be expressive. But stay calm and carry on. Anger makes you less appealing,” adds Wyeth.

When you lower your voice, it will make people more at ease and trusting. This is key to getting people to be persuaded to your point of view.

9. IDENTIFY SHARED GROUND

Most importantly, make sure you maintain a positive atmosphere throughout the argument. Pointing out the things that you and your opponent agree on will make them more likely to listen to the things that you don’t, and may even persuade them to accept your point of view. This can help your power of persuasion.

How You Should Upgrade Your Life In 2018, Based On Your Myers-Briggs Type

It sounds cliche to say that you want to improve your life in the new year, but that doesn’t mean it’s something to be ashamed of — part of growing is making constant lifestyle changes. When it comes to how to make successful adjustments, there is no shortage of tips online. A quick search will reveal lots of tips, like starting a bullet journal, making an effort to clean up more, getting rid of the things that don’t serve you, taking a break from social media. These are all great ideas, but they are also more general ideas. Sometimes doing something more personalized will garner better results. If you’re looking for ways you should upgrade your life in 2018, you might want to turn to your Myers-Briggs personality type for some ideas.

For those not in the know, your Myers-Briggs type is an examination of your personality based on Jungian psychology. A test, which can be found on the official MBTI website, determines your type, and uses four little letters to determine your personality type. From there, you can find out your weaknesses and strengths, which can lead to some clues as to how to best live your life. This personality summary can also give some ideas on the changes that will best suit you in 2018.

So, if you’re ready to make at least one positive upgrade in the new year, consider this your guide on what to do. Of course, your MBT can’t predict your future, but it certainly isn’t a bad place to start when it comes to life improvements.

ISTJ: Make A Spontaneous Decision

The ISTJ personality is often considered to be the most logical personality. This means that you play by the rules, you follow through on your responsibilities, and you have a slightly more no-nonsense way of living your life. There’s nothing wrong with any of that! But here’s the thing: your strict policy of living by the book can make it hard to be spontaneous, and spontaneity can often lead to the most fun. You don’t have to constantly push yourself to be more open-minded and carefree, but every once in a while, try to break the rules and do something out of the box. Even if it’s just once, this could open new doors for you!

ESTJ: Tell Someone How You Feel

An ESTJ personality type lives life by the rule book and has very strict ideas on how things should be. Unfortunately, you also have significant trouble showing your emotions and opening up to other people. This could be holding you back from making deeper connections with others or even from getting what you want out of a situation or relationship. Make it a point to tell someone how you genuinely feel about something, even if it’s tough. Being a little more emotional could definitely improve your life.

ISFJ: Celebrate Your Success

As an ISFJ personality type, you know how to get things done. But, uh, you don’t know how to take credit for doing so. You’re hard-working and successful, but if you can’t own up to your accomplishments, then how is that fair to you? With more introverted tendencies, you may have trouble speaking up for yourself, but celebrating your own successes is so important. Improve your own feelings of self-worth by taking credit for a job well done and learning how to congratulate yourself. Maybe even write up a Facebook post or Instagram caption to do a little humble bragging. You deserve it!

ESFJ: Take A Social Media Break

ESFJ personality types are often known for being popular and friendly. The downside to getting so much attention all the time, though, is that you start to crave it a little too much. ESFJ types tend to put way too much focus and energy on who likes them, who is giving them positive attention, and how other people are seeing them. ESFJs also have trouble dealing with criticism of any kind, which often comes with being popular. So, in the new year, try to take a break from social media, for a week or maybe even a few hours each day. Social media enables you to keep track of who’s watching and what others think, and you would benefit from getting a break from that.

ISTP: Get Closer To Someone

ISTPs are smart, practical, laid-back, and full of energy. But you are also a true introvert. You like to be on your own, keep your thoughts to yourself, and you don’t like to open up to anyone. You hate discussing your feelings and you’re not the biggest fan of commitment. Okay, fair, but opening yourself up to at least one other person could really benefit you. This year, make an attempt to get closer to at least one person, whether it’s a close friend or family member or a stranger.

ESTP: Think More, Do Less

As an ESTP, you’re a major doer — you get bored easily, you say things without thinking them through, you jump into things without a lot of thought, and you’re constantly moving. Just… slow down a little bit. Think things through a little bit more before jumping into them or saying the wrong thing. It won’t come easily for you, but it will improve the way things turn out and will cut down on negative consequences.

ISFP: Focus On Self-Care More

ISFPs, you are fiercely creative and adventurous and passionate. That’s great! But you are also prone to lots of stress and some serious breakdowns if things don’t go the way you wanted them too. You also tend to get down on yourself when it comes to confidence. These are things you can work on by focusing on self-care. Give yourself some time to relax, be zen, and just do things you enjoy without worrying about anything else.

ESFP: Make More To-Do Lists

An ESFP is super creative, fun, outgoing, and entertaining (in fact, you’re known as an entertainer type!). Your weakness? You often have difficult focusing, planning, and doing things in a constructive way. To upgrade your life in 2018, start making more to-do lists. Write one out every morning when you wake up. Writing out your short-term goals for the day and checking them off as the hours go by can help you get things down in the most efficient way. It’s worth a shot!

INTJ: Give Someone A Second Chance

INTJs are a rare personality type. If you fit this description, you’re super smart, logical, and extremely analytical. These are good traits to have, but, uh, you can also be a little arrogant and judgmental, and these things can make it tough for you to have close relationships, especially in the romantic sense. If this is ringing a bell, plan to improve your life by giving at least one person or thing a second chance. Whether it’s a job you’re determined to give up or someone you’re holding a grudge against, pick something. It might not be in your nature to do so, but it could also help in the long run.

ENTJ: Give Up Control Of One Thing

You’re a natural born leader, and that’s awesome. Here’s the thing, though: that tendency to always want to be the leader also makes you stubborn, demanding, and often tough to be around. To upgrade your life, you’re going to need to give up control of at least one thing. Maybe it’s a project at work, something you’ve been trying to change about a partner, or even a silly fight with a friend. Whatever it is, try to stop taking the reigns on absolutely everything.

INTP: Talk To Someone New

As an INTP, you’re really smart, creative, imaginative, and hard-working. You are also a serious introvert who hates to go out and who may, uh, also hate people. Okay, the last one might be a bit extreme, but seriously – one way to upgrade your life is to go out and talk to someone new or be a little bit more social. Go to one party. Or, if that sounds awful, go to a coffee house. Go somewhere! Make friends with someone new! Or if that’s a huge no, make more plans with a friend you already have.

ENTP: Meditate More

The ENTP can also be called the “debater.” This is a nice way of saying you can be argumentative, intolerant, and you might tend to think you’re always right. You also have trouble focusing. So, to improve your lifestyle, start trying to meditate. Sure, you might hate the idea, but give it a shot — you might find that it helps you focus more and feel more tolerant about the opinions and thoughts of others.

INFJ: Take Breaks More Often

As an INFJ, you’re super hard-working and passionate about everything you do. But you’re also a serious perfectionist and you’re really, really hard on yourself when you mess up. You also work yourself so much that you tend to burn out. It might sound weird, but one way to upgrade your life is to take more breaks, not less. Give yourself a few hours each way to do absolutely nothing — sit back, read, relax, watch a movie, anything. Just give yourself some rest!

ENFJ: Do Something Selfish

The ENFJ personality type is a strong one: you love to be there for others. You’re kind, generous, you help everyone, and you always put others first. That’s great, it’s just that… you have to put yourself first sometimes, and you have a hard time doing that. As a result, you tend to have confidence issues and you can find yourself stressed out and sad at times. Make it a point to do something just for you once in a while, even if it feels selfish.

INFP: Make A Structured List Of Goals

As an INFP, you tend to live in your head a bit. You’re really passionate and creative, but you’re also very idealistic, which can be a good and bad thing. It can leave you acting a bit impractical, which isn’t going to lead to success. So, make a list of goals for the upcoming year, but get super specific with it. Make different lists, of long-term and short-term goals. Try to make a schedule. The more specific, the easier it will be to follow in a realistic way.

ENFP: Sign Up For Yoga

You’re a free spirit who is also friendly, lovely to be around, and very popular. Lots of great personality traits there! But you also find it hard to focus and stay motivated, you get stressed out way too easily, you overthink everything, and you have emotional outbursts because you don’t know how to deal with your emotions. Something that will upgrade your life and benefit you is yoga practice. It can help you focus and feel more serene, it will keep you from feeling stressed and help with overthinking, and it’s a good way to channel all of that emotional energy.

INTP vs INTJ: 5 Ways to Truly Tell Them Apart

I have a working theory that every type in the Myers-Briggs system is integral to social ecology. It doesn’t matter if a specific type drives you crazy, they are necessary to keep us balanced as humans.

 

When we’re trying to figure out our own type it can be difficult when two (or more) types fill a relatively similar role in society.

 

I mentioned in the article about INFPs vs INFJs that these two types are here to help us gain greater emotional intelligence, but they do so in slightly different (and necessary) ways.

 

The same could be said of INTPs and INTJs. Both types blow me away with their ability to manage extraordinary amounts of information while trying to avoid cognitive biases. I believe they’re both intended to question common sense to prevent mental stagnation.

 

While the service these two types perform for humanity is similar, they help us calibrate to new ways of thinking in different ways.

 

This article is intended to be a deep-dive, side-by-side comparison of their similarities and differences.

 

(If you’re in the middle of trying to figure out whether or not you’re an INTJ or an INTP, remember that these aren’t intended to describe your individual interests or values, but rather how the two types are ‘wired’ differently.)

 

5 Crucial Differences Between INTPs and INTJs

1. INTP vs INTJ: Different “Driver” processes

The Driver process can also be called the “dominant cognitive function.” It’s the mind’s first point of contact and the primary lens through which everything gets filtered.

 

For an INTJ, this dominant process is technically called Introverted Intuition, but we’ve nicknamed it “Perspectives.”

 

personalityhacker_third-eyePerspectives is a learning function (technically called a “perceiving function”), and works by watching one’s own mind form patterns. After years of use, eventually Perspectives begins to see the ‘pattern of the patterns’ and understands that what is happening inside of themselves cognitively is also happening for other people.

 

INTPs, on the other hand, lead with a process called Introverted Thinking, which we call “Accuracy.”

 

personalityhacker-intp-vs-intj_mental-frameworksAccuracy is a decision-making function (technically called a “judging function”), and works by creating a framework and then sifting through all the data within that framework, scanning for incongruities and inconsistencies. Its ultimate goal is to find things that make sense to the user, and once clarity is gained then the INTP knows the right course of action to take.

 

Because both are Thinking types – meaning, they both make decisions based on impersonal, analytical criteria – it’s important to both INTJs and INTPs to be intellectually honest. And while both have this same desired outcome, there’s an important nuance between the relationship each has with data.

 

Since INTJs are leading with an intuitive process there is more credence given to creative internal thought. They aren’t scanning for content that could be wrong, they’re scanning for new patterns that could be right.

 

This is why INTJs

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