Here’s Which Disney Heroine You’re Most Like, Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type


Meg from Hercules 


Independent. Stubborn. Savvy. Cool. Witty.

“I’m a damsel. I’m in distress. I can handle this. Have a nice day.”


Merida from Brave


Adventurous. Quick. Daring. Open. Competitive.

“There are those who say fate is something beyond our command. That destiny is not our own, but I know better.”


Alice from Alice in Wonderland

Alice in Wonderland

Inquisitive. Skeptical. Absent-minded. Bright. Rational.

“It would be so nice if something would make sense for a change.”


Jane from Tarzan


Insightful. Innovative. Charismatic. Sharp. Bold.

“Oh, Tarzan, you have no idea what’s in store for you. You’re going to see the world, and all kinds of people will want to meet you. Leaders, scientists, writers.”


Belle from Beauty and the Beast

Beauty and the Beast

Imaginative. Dreamy. Curious. Brave. Sensitive.

“And for once it might be grand to have someone understand.
I want so much more than they’ve got planned.”


Rapunzel from Tangled


Enthusiastic. Quirky. Adaptable. Funny. Intuitive.

“I’ve been looking out of a window for eighteen years, dreaming about what I might feel like when those lights rise in the sky. What if it’s not everything I dreamed it would be?”


Mulan from Mulan


Observant. Modest. Altruistic. Idealistic. Shy.

“With all due respect, Your Excellency, I think I’ve been away from home long enough.”


Ariel from The Little Mermaid

The Little Mermaid

Energetic. Excitable. Sincere. Outgoing. Charming.

“I just don’t see things the way he does. I just don’t see how a world that makes such wonderful things could be bad.”


Tiana from The Princess and the Frog

The Princess and the Frog

Loyal. Generous. Dedicated. Determined. Conscientious.

“There’s been tribes and tribulations. You know I’ve had my share, but I’ve climbed the mountain, I’ve crossed the river, and I’m almost there!”


Cinderella from Cinderella


Affable. Exuberant. Patient. Loving. Plucky.

“Oh, well. What’s a royal ball? After all, I suppose it would be frightfully dull, and-and-and boring, and-and completely… Completely wonderful.”


Elsa from Frozen


Diligent. Frank. Reserved. Straightforward. Thoughtful.

“You can’t marry a man you just met.”


Nala from The Lion King

The Lion King

Efficient. Responsible. Persistent. Fair. Honest.

“What’s happened to you? You’re not the Simba I remember.”


Jasmine from Aladdin


Dynamic. Calm. Ambitious. Collected. Complex.

“How dare you? All of you! Standing around deciding my future? I am not a prize to be won!”


Princess Kida from Atlantis


Fearless. Assertive. Organized. Dignified. Pioneering.

“You are a scholar, are you not? Judging from your diminished physique and large forehead, you are suited for nothing else!”


Pocahontas from Pocahontas


Reflective. Gentle. Intellectual. Emphatic. Diplomatic.

“Look around you. This is where the path of hatred has brought us. This is the path I choose, Father. What will yours be?”


Esmerelda from The Hunchback of Notre Dame

The Hunchback of Notre Dame

Courageous. Just. Selfless. Compassionate. Mature.

“You mistreat this poor boy the same way you mistreat my people. You speak of justice, yet you are cruel to those most in need of your help.”

The Four Steps You Need To Get A Date With Any Myers-Briggs Personality Type

4 steps to getting on a date
Master of None


1. Make it seem like you don’t have time for relationships because you’re too busy saving the world.
2. Ask an ISFJ how normal people even have time to eat.
3. Ask an ISFJ if they’re free for a date because you need to be somewhere right now but you need help figuring out how to take care of yourself.
4. An ISFJ will meet you anytime at your convenience (so you better bring some stories about the orphans you’re saving).


1. Make yourself seem like damaged goods with a complicated backstory.
2. Ask an INFJ what a normal family looks like.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date to psychoanalyze your relationship with your parents because you have no idea who you even are anymore.
4. They will meet you with open ears and a tissue box (so you better bring some childhood wounds).


1. Make yourself seem free-spirited and mysterious AF.
2. Ask them if they know about your super obscure hobby
3. Ask if they’re free for a date to discuss it because you need help figuring it out and you want a second opinion on it.
4. An ISFP will meet you with an explosion of ideas (so you better take pics of your bajillion side hobbies so they can be your conversation-starters).


1. Make yourself seem like you have a lot of emotional baggage that you can’t share with just ANYONE.
2. Ask an INFP if they’ve ever had their heart broken before.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you want to explore your thoughts and feelings with them.
4. An INFP will meet you with tears that will pour on-cue (so you better bring some deep scars for your dinner date).


1. Make yourself seem like you’re in your own world
2. Ask for their opinion on a very very complicated and multi-faceted topic and low-key ask what they’re doing next weekend.
3. Ask an INTJ to meet you next Saturday because they just said they’re free next Saturday so since both of you are free, both of you should just meet up for dinner. 😉
4. An INTJ will meet you with lots of skepticism (so you better bring some interesting insights into philosophy, science, or politics),


1. Make yourself seem normal but with a little spontaneity.
2. Ask them for their opinion on food,
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because everybody needs to eat food and both of you are people, right? 😉
4. An ISTJ will meet you with a list of food places you should try out (so you better bring an appetite and a half).


1. Make yourself look sexy AF.
2. Ask them for their opinion on sex.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you heard that sky-diving is usually done in pairs and you need a second person.
4. An ISTP will meet you there—as your sky-diving instructor and partner (so you better bring a copy of your will in case it goes south).


1. Make yourself not-wallpaper.
2. Ask for their opinion on a hotly debated topic in math/physics/science.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date sometime Sunday to Sunday. If they’re not free that week, keep asking and keep asking and keep asking until they agree.
4. An INTP will meet you with lots of reminders on your part about the date (so you better be prepared for some abstract conversation).


1. Make yourself as submissive as possible.
2. Ask them why they’re always so right about everything.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date so they can give you some pointers on how to do everything in your life better.
4. ESTJ will meet you with a thick stack of notes (so you better be prepared to make some huge life changes).


1. Make yourself seem PERFECT AF.
2. Ask about how they weigh pros and cons in an investment situation.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because one little date is a super low-investment which can lead to a very high reward. 😉
4. An ENTJ will meet you with a dating questionnaire for you to fill out (so you better study for the test 3 days in advance).


1. Make it seem like you have your shit together.
2. Ask them how people always seem to have their shit together because you certainly don’t.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you have trouble taking care of yourself since you’re so busy being successful.
4. An ESFJ will meet you with a bullet journal to help you organize your life (so you better be ready for ESFJ to move in).


1. Make yourself look easily amused by everything.
2. Ask them for their opinion on LITERALLY ANYTHING and nod.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you don’t know how to do that thing that they know how to do and you want them to help you.
4. An ESTP will meet you with lots of tips on how to help you out (so you better look like you have no idea what you’re doing).


1. Make yourself visible (no strobe lights please).
2. Ask them for their opinion on a hotly debated topic in politics.
3. Ask an ENTP if they’re free for a date and tell them that according to the Schrödinger’s cat experiment, there’s already a version of them that has already accepted and rejected the date so it’s up to ENTP to decide which reality they want.
4. An ENTP will meet you on a whim (so you better come prepared with some strong arguments and points).


1. Make yourself seem like you have a troubled past.
2. Ask if they’ve ever wished they could go back in time to change their past.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you want to try being more open to people this time around and ENFJ might be able to help.
4. An ENFJ will meet you at any time or place with lots of questions (so you better bring a deeply moving backstory and eye drops for tears)


1. Make yourself seem like a challenge.
2. Ask how a recent event has been affecting them.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you happen to be free next Saturday and you want to chill with someone interesting for a change.
4. An ENFP will meet you at the WRONG PLACE (so you better schedule the reservation for 7pm even though you told them to meet at 6pm).


1. Make yourself look sexy and available.
2. Ask them nothing, just wait for an ESFP to come to you.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you heard that they were a good dinner date and you wanted to experience it for yourself.
4. An ESFP will meet you either with NO MONEY or ALL THE MONEY (so be prepared for either option .. and also the option that a 3rd person may up end up paying for all the food).

30 Things That Introverts Wish You Knew About Them

30 Things That Introverts Wish You Knew About Them
Alexandru Zdrobău
Found on AskReddit.

1. ‘Nothing planned’ means I plan to do nothing.

“Nothing planned =/= I’m free to hang out.

It means I plan to do nothing.”


2. I’m perfectly happy being alone.

“I’m perfectly happy being alone. Don’t try to convince me otherwise.”


3. Don’t ever ask me why I’m quiet; it will make me quieter.

“Don’t ever ask me why I’m quiet or remark on how quiet I am. I know I’m quiet and the awkwardness of your question will make me even quieter.”


4. I look bored because I AM BORED.

“I look bored because I AM BORED. I don’t know anything about the topics being discussed, so I haven’t done any prep work for the conversation. I’m sitting at a table listening to you all yuk it up about something I know nothing about, and can’t contribute to the dialogue meaningfully. That’s why I look like I want to go home. You are draining my fucking batteries and nothing is happening.”


5. Getting me drunk won’t make me an extrovert.

“Getting me drunk won’t make me an extrovert; it’ll just make me a drunk introvert.”


6. I know that you rest, relax, and recharge through interaction with others; I don’t.

“Being introverted doesn’t mean that I never want to socialize; it just means that I rest, relax, and recharge when I’m by myself. I know that you rest, relax, and recharge through interaction with others; I don’t.

I’m happy to join you on social occasions, but I’m going to tire quickly and need somewhere quiet to retreat to.

Also, when I retreat to my study during a social occasion, it’s not because I think you don’t want me around and need you to ‘make me feel comfortable.’ Please do NOT follow me.”


7. Being an introvert is not some kind of personality flaw that needs to be fixed.

“Being an introvert is not some kind of personality flaw that needs to be fixed.

I dated a guy very briefly who treated my introversion like it was a disease. He would constantly say things like, ‘My dad and brother are introverts. I’ve dealt with it my whole life and I’m not going to stand for it anymore!’ Uh, sorry you feel I’m inherently flawed because I don’t feel the need to ‘open up’ when I literally have nothing to open up about…?”


8. Don’t show up to my house uninvited.

“Please please please do not show up to my house without an invite…or at least giving me some warning.”


9. I don’t always feel like talking.

“I’m not being rude. I just don’t always feel like talking.”


10. Just because I’m sitting quietly doesn’t mean I’m bored or upset.

“Just because I’m sitting quietly doesn’t mean I’m bored or upset. In fact, that’s probably one of my happiest moments.

This is also (especially!!!) true if I’m reading! I am not bored. I am EXTREMELY happy…please leave me alone.”


11. If I disappear at a party, I’m recharging.

“If I disappear for a while at a party to go to the bathroom, I’m not pooping. I’m gathering myself to go back out to all those people.”


12. Please give advance notice if you want me to go anywhere.

“For the love of God please give advance notice if you want me to go anywhere.

A spur-of-the-moment invite to a party is my worst nightmare, but if you give me a few days heads up that you’re having people over, I can probably persuade myself into going.”


13. It’s okay to be in a room with someone else without constantly talking.

“It’s okay to be in a room with someone else without constantly talking. I promise.”


14. Quit extending this ‘business meeting’ until the wee hours.

“I would like them to know that after a full day of meetings with you and your team, that it is not cool to then schedule a dinner at 7 PM. And at the conclusion of that dinner, suggesting to go out for drinks is just torture.

We get it, you get all jazzed up by being with people. There are plenty of people in the world. It doesn’t have to be me.”


15. We WANT to be included, but we find it difficult to get involved.

“A lot of the time, we WANT to be included, but we find it difficult to get involved. A friendly invitation would do a lot to help us out.”


16. It takes me a while to warm up to new people.

“I’m not a bitch just because I’m not super-friendly right off the bat. It takes me a while to warm up to new people.”


17. We need to be home and mostly alone to recharge.

“That we’re not lazy. We love going out and being social, but we need to be home and (mostly) alone to recharge. We can’t spend all day, every day out with people.

The next time one of your introvert friends says he doesn’t want to go out, don’t force him. He needs to recharge his mind because you people are mentally tiring to us.”


18. Please don’t mock the things I do to relax after a stressful day of dealing with you.

“Please don’t mock the things I do to relax after a stressful day of dealing with you.”


19. We can actually feel good when we are left alone.

“That we can actually feel good when we are left alone, or with fewer people around.”


20. Recharging is a BIG deal.

“Recharging is a BIG deal. No matter how much I like hanging with someone, I think sometimes people take it personally when I decline an offer to hang out. If I have a guest crashing for a few days, some of those days I may spend alone in my room just resting from mental exertion. Thankfully my close friends understand this. This is usually a problem when I first meet people and they want to go and do this or that all the time so they prob think I’m a flake or just don’t like them…I’m also not the best at keeping friendships ‘watered’ (i.e., texting for fun, chatting on the phone much) but I do welcome the exchange when I have the energy for it.”


21. I need ‘me’ time; don’t take it personally.

“I am an introvert, at least according to my Myers-Briggs analysis (ISTP). This doesn’t mean that I am bad at social interactions, or don’t enjoy them, or am a loner. I enjoy spending time with friends—in moderation. I enjoy social gatherings—in moderation. I love spending time with my wife (an ENFJ) and toddler, but even that requires some bit of moderation as well. However, to recharge my batteries, per se, I need me time. Not even me and my wife time, but just me time. Some people use time with friends, family, or others to recharge their batteries; I am the opposite. To me, this is what being an introvert means.”


22. We have a limit of social interaction, at which point we need to break and hit the reset button.

“Introverts can be extremely social for a period of time. We’re not all socially awkward, shut-ins, hermits, or rude.

We can be performers, musicians, and public figures; we can be showmen, salesmen, and anything else requiring periods of extreme sociality or being the focus of a crowd. We can even feed off of the energy of a crowd like extroverts do.

What we can’t do is run on that energy forever like extroverts. We need time to decompress, spent alone or with people we’re really close to, so we can recharge and reorganize our headspace. A crowd might give you a little kick, but you’re still being discharged.

Extroverts can keep feeding off of people’s social energy, or a crowd’s focused energy, for a long time; introverts have a limit at which they need to break from that and hit the reset button.”



“STOP GUILT-TRIPPING US TO GO OUT TO EVENTS. I have bad anxiety days and sometimes just want to be at home, comfortable, and doing my own thing. I also feel guilt to the extreme. I hate when people keep pushing me to go even though I honestly say no, I really don’t want to do that. Guilt-tripping sucks.”


24. I need alone time. It’s seriously nothing against you.

“I need alone time. It’s seriously nothing against you. But I need to be able to breathe and that’s how I breathe. Guilt-tripping me into coming out will only make me more uncomfortable and less likely to willingly come out next time.”


25. If I’m not talking, don’t ask me if I’m OK.

“Being introverted doesn’t mean I don’t like to talk or be social and I can be ‘on’ just as much as an extrovert. I’m quite chatty and I don’t have a problem talking to people and making conversation. It comes quite naturally to me. I like to go out to parties, to social gatherings, to clubs, but I also like to just sit by myself and not have to talk at all. I like my alone time and my quiet time.

I hate it when people ask me if I’m OK when I’m not talking in a group of people. I’m OK but if I wasn’t OK, I wouldn’t want someone to ask me in front of everyone like that.”


26. Strangers don’t owe you a listening ear when you’re feeling chatty.

“Extroverts don’t understand how frustrating their over-proximity is. If someone isn’t engaging you, fucking leave them alone. At work, there’s this guy who is constantly trying to make conversation, but I’m busy. He never takes my cues, and what can you say to someone that doesn’t come off as rude or dismissive? This is extremely stressful. I’m not an asshole, but trying to remove myself from conversations I don’t want to have often makes me feel like an asshole. I don’t want to talk to fucking anyone at the gym. Ever. But when people try to chat with me, same thing. They don’t pick up on cues like me giving one-word answers, not making eye contact, and even wearing headphones.

It’s fucked up to make someone else feel like the bad guy for not engaging with you. It’s overbearing, and strangers don’t owe you a listening ear when you’re feeling chatty.”


27. I don’t need a rich social life.

“We’re not all socially inept people rationalizing a separate anxiety disorder through low levels of social openness. Some of your best friends might be introverts and you’d never know it because we are completely normal.

I’m as introvert as they come. I can, and have, gone weeks, one time months, without being in the same room with any of my friends and never once felt lonely or that my friends hated me. Then, I got invited to a party, went to the party got a bunch of ‘I haven’t seen you in so long, what have you been up to?’ Since then I’ve had a healthy social life again, and usually hang out with somebody once a week and a large group of people twice a month.

I’ve come to realize that, while I have a rich social life (and I am very glad I have it), it’s not a need for me. If people don’t invite me to do things and I never seek them out, but still care for them and think fondly of them in my life all the same. I am still an ‘introvert’ and I’ll do marathon runs after neglecting some friends for too long, but being too social usually burns me out way faster than I plan for, and an inability to include all the people I care for in my life has lost me some friends.”


28. I just desperately need to recharge after being professionally social in an office all day long.

“I don’t hate you, or people, or being social. I just desperately need to recharge after being professionally social in an office all day long.

If you cart me around all over the place and bully me into being social, I will have a 2-3 week recovery period. That’s just the way it is.”


29. Small talk is pointless and energy-consuming.

Small talk is pointless and energy-consuming. I’d rather talk about important crap, thank you very much.”


30. I love solitude just like you love socializing.

“Garrulity. I will indulge in your inclination for socializing if you’ll also take into consideration my love of solitude. Sometimes I like to sit in companionable silence without incessant chattering that extroverts seem to require as ambiance before they can relax.

It’s not effrontery to want to be alone for a few hours after university; that’s how I unwind. I’m not deliberately ignoring you, I just don’t like to be engrossed in my phone in every minute of leisure time we have.

Designated socializing is better for me; I’m perfectly affable then. Extroverts are too fluid in their interaction times. It’s baffling how after university they go to reinvigorate at a club or local bar.”

Why People Will Fall In Love With You This Fall, Based On Your Personality Type

Pablo Heimplatz

Hi friends, to play this game we all need to take the Myers Briggs personality test I promise it will be worth it, or at least entertaining.

There are 4 types of personality groups: Diplomats, Analysts, Sentinels, finally but definitely not least the Explorers. The Diplomats are the dreamers, the Analysts are the thinkers, the Sentinels please everyone, and the Explorers live to “seize the day”. We are also divided by the personality code. The personality code reads like so, I for introversion or E for extroversion, N for intuition or S for sensing, T for thinking or F for feeling, J for judging or P for perceiving.

ENFP– Campaigner – Diplomat

Daydream Believer

Falling in love with you is like falling in love with a fantasy. They will fall in love with your dreamer aura. Your partner will find themselves taking risks with you, but they will not feel on edge.

They will feel like they are chasing their dream with someone who supports them completely. They will find comfort and adventure with you, something that they never thought was possible before.

You have a contagious charm, you make them feel like a changed person effortlessly.

ESFP- Entertainer – Explorer

Time Of Your Life

You live your best life and when anyone is around you, they live their best life too. In true Explorer nature you live to “seize the day”. ESFP’s truly show us the utter importance of making the most out of our time.

If today was our last day, I would want to live it like an ESFP. Whether they are jumping off a plane with you or just getting day drinks- they can make anything seem exciting. You will always feel on top of the world with them, no matter what you are doing.

No other personality type is as generous and energetic with their time. ESFP’s enjoy taking “centre stage” even if they are exhausted, they will not be happy unless you are having the best time with them.They also will not be happy if they do not have your attention. ESFP’s love being your “favourite”!

INTP- Logician – Analyst

Quality Over Quantity

If you are so lucky that an INTP is interested in you, you should count your blessings now. They are extremely selective people. INTP’s greatly believe in quality over quantity.
They rarely take interest in people and they rarely pursue people, but when they do you know they are in it for the long haul. They believe in doing everything they can for their partner.

Analysts are known to be the “Thinkers” of the personality type. INTP may overthink about everything imaginable, but they never had their doubts about you. INTP’s can seem selfish, because they are so wrapped up on their own personal projects, careers, studies, or passions, but that doesn’t mean they do not care about you. They just get too focused on one thing sometimes. INTP’s have not forgotten about you, they just like putting their full attention in everything they do. Therefore they are very selective, but they have chosen you for a reason.

ESFJ- Consul – Sentinel

Your Cheerleader

ESFJ values social validation more than any other personality type. There will not be a moment where you do not feel appreciated with an ESFJ. They will be at every game with pom poms. ESFJ will plan you a surprise party for your birthday. They will not miss a family holiday and they have already planned your matching costumes for Halloween.

ESFJ’s are natural people pleasers, they could never be happy if you are not. ESFJ’s strongly believe in family and tradition. This is your girl next door white picket fence fantasy.You will fall in love with the life they give you. You never dreamed normal could feel so perfect.

INFP – Mediator – Diplomat

Your Soulmate

INFP’s are magical creatures, we are surprised/thankful you are not extinct by now. In a world filled with doubt they bring you hope. They still believe in falling in love the right way. They believe in soulmates and the perfect partner. INFP’s teaches you not to settle, because true love will never let you down.

INFP’s believe in working together. They are here to “complete you”. If an INFP does not feel like they are a “better” person with you, then you are simply not the one for them. INFP’s love is strong, but their standards are stronger.

ESTP- Entrepreneur – Explorer

Your Psychic

ESTP you kinda scare us and turn us on at the same time? Please stop, turn it off! How do you always know what we are thinking? I swear you are reading the diary we have not even wrote yet.

ESTP’s (like most Explorer types) really know how to get us out of our comfort zone. Explorer types have this insane talent of pushing us and supporting us at the same time.

We throw caution at the wind when we are with you, you make everything seem so exciting …yet calming. You know when to bring us up and when to calm us down. ESTP’s have an incredible knack for reading people. They know when you have fallen in love with them, before you even have.

ENTP- Debater – Analyst

Self- Improvement

ENTP’s are the definition of overachiever. They will make you the better person you never thought you were capable of being. ENTP’s do not live their life day to day. They live their life goal to goal and their partner is a part of that. ENTP’s only want greatness, you will fall in love with their motivation.

ISFJ – Defender – Consul

Rose- Coloured Glasses

You live in a world filled with compliments and cheer. You only know how to say yes and thank you. No is never in your vocabulary. You would break your own back to help us out, but you would never take the credit for it.
Your selflessness is beyond admirable. ISFJ you are the type of person that make this world better.

We fall in love with your beautiful sunny disposition and positive attitude. ISFJ truly live by the rule “ Treat others they way you want to be treated”.

ENFJ- Protagonist – Diplomat

Your Reliability

ENFJ without a doubt in our mind- we know you are there for us. You always put not only your partner first, but really everyone else around you. Your intuitive nature makes you beyond understanding. Although unlike other supportive types, ENFJ is still an extrovert and enjoys taking on a leadership role. Most people are not capable of being as giving and as inspiring as an ENFJ.

Although ENFJ’s hands are often full, they never stop. No matter how busy they are, they will always find the time to help. ENFJ is your one phone call. They are the person you can call in the middle of the night to pick you up, no questions asked.

ISFP – Adventurer – Explorer

Mysterious Brooding Type

You got that bad boy dying to be good charm. No one can really read you and that is the true beauty to you. Falling in love with ISFP is like falling love with a puzzle. It is hard work, but always rewarding. You have no idea how it is going to turn out. There are days where you give up, however you always come back to it. ISFP leaves you with burning curiosity. You can’t sleep, you can’t eat kind of love.

The end result is never what you thought it would be… it’s better.

ENTJ – Commander – Analyst

Pushing Your Buttons (in all the right ways…)

ENTJ’s like control they like to dominate and trust me you will feel that with them. Although ENTJ’s like being in the driver seat, they also can be surprisingly supportive. Like most Analyst types they strive for greatness more than others. This does not fall short in their love life. ENTJ run in the fast lane and to be with them you must keep up.

ENTJ’s enjoy a good project. They find personal satisfaction in moulding others. ENTJ are extremely growth- oriented, they need their partner to grow with them. ENTJ’s will push you to your breaking point- sometimes you will hate them for it, but in the end you will always be grateful. Remember bossiness was a part of their charm, this why you fell in love with them.

ISTJ – Logistician – Sentinel

Slow And Steady Wins The Race

ISTJ’s may not be love at first sight, because they are way too rationale to ever believe in that. You may not fall head over heels for them right away, because their love takes time. Like all good things in the world, you must wait for it. ISTJ teaches you that love is patient, love is kind.

ISTJ’s believe in talking things out, they do not like to repress their emotions or hold back. Honesty is truly the best policy for them. If it is not true…it won’t work for them. ISTJ teaches you how to truly love yourself, before you can fall in love with someone else.

INFJ – Advocate – Diplomat

Deep Waters Ahead

If you are looking for “just fun” or someone to pass the time with, do not bother with an INFJ. INFJ is the most rare personality type, holding less than 1{67b9dc46c2005a2d6d0dc9e883ab6bdb9c47365a25e8ad24adf59fc11de2db4a} of the population. INFJ’s are not here for shallow relationships.
They are here for a good time and a long time. INFJ thrive on personal connections. They will not bother if they do not see a future with you. INFJ’s are that old soul trapped in the social media obsessed millennial world.

INFJ’s are the ones that give you meaning, when you have lost all purpose.

ISTP- Virtuoso – Explorer


In true Explorer nature nothing can be planned with an ISTP. Everything must feel completely natural for it to fall into place. Explorer types are big believers in destiny and fate. You will fall in love with an ISTP when you never saw it coming, because that is what falling in love is. Finding something you were never looking for and letting it change you.

ISTP is the love that changes you no questions asked. You have to allow yourself to overcome that fear, to reap the reward. This is a love where the stars are aligned for you- it was meant to be, because ISTP’s do not fall into the traditional love story. ISTP’s do not really fall into anything, they are rule breakers full heartedly. If they fall in love with you it is genuine, because they are the type to run away from commitment not chase it.

INTJ – Architect – Analyst

Breaking The Mould

Seriously INTJ’s are good at everything…it is kind of creepy. Anything they touch turns to gold, but a relationship could be the exception to this INTJ midas touch.

In true Analyst nature, they analyze and over plan everything to the core, but that is the thing about love it can not be planned. Love is not something you fit into your agenda. It is supposed to be exciting, it is supposed to change you in the best way possible. It is supposed to happen with someone you never planned with.

INTJ’s are truly a rare bred, because they are blessed with the creative soul and the hard working bone. Those two traits are not usually seen put together often. Most artists types can not make a decision to save their lives, but INTJ’s truly break the mould. Their unique imagination and strong work ethic, make them stand out from the crowd.

ESTJ- Executive- Sentinel

What You See, Is What You Get

ESTJ are one of the most up front personality types. They hate secrets. ESTJ believe in nipping things in the bud. They are not known for bottling up feelings or letting things snowball.

ESTJ knows it is the little things in life that matter. From the start you will not be playing games. An ESTJ will tell you what they want, how they want, and in what order.

ESTJ proves the difference between “wanting” and “needing” someone. Their OCD can be a tad much, but at the end of the day we appreciate you for it. You bring us order in a world of chaos, we would be lost without you. I am sorry in advance, if we do not say thank you enough.

In A World That Can’t Stop Talking, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be Happy You’re An Introvert

Paola Chaaya

I struggled with personality identity for the longest time. You see, the thing is, I didn’t even know I was an introvert. I never really thought about it. However, I found myself trying too hard to fit into situations other people would term as normal. For example, I would go out to a night club and get bored within the first hour. I would attend social events and instead of interacting with others, end up with my friend (also an introvert) at a corner chatting between ourselves.

I would prefer to have weekends in as opposed to hanging out with my friends.
All these things sound normal today, but I kept asking, why am I not like other people? Why can’t I just enjoy a day out? One time, an ex-boyfriend berated me for sitting by myself at a party he had organized, while his friends were laughing their hearts out in a group. He wasn’t happy with my ‘unfriendly’ nature and thought I felt that I was too good for his friends. The truth is, we had spent all day in the company of these friends and I was totally exhausted with human interaction. I really needed some time alone.

A few years ago, I came across Susan Cain’s book; Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. I may sound overly dramatic by saying this book changed my life, but it actually did. It changed my life in the sense that, I accepted my introversion and the benefits that came with this acceptance such as:

1. Brought understanding of introversion.

This well researched book explains how introverts are, why they behave the way they do, and most importantly, that it is okay to be an introvert. Susan Cain spent years interviewing people of different cultures and backgrounds and spent time with them to understand their personality. Being an introvert herself, she relates very well to the people she interviews and explains why she had to leave her career because it constantly clashed with her personality.

2. I got more comfortable with who I am.

When I read this book, I accepted how I am and no longer do I try so hard to be in situations I am not comfortable in. I got comfortable in my skin. I can happily leave a party, or choose a night or a weekend in without apologies, since time alone is really important for me. My further study of introversion led me to understanding the Myers-Briggs personality types (I am ISTP). Among other characteristics, this personality type ‘think’ more than they ‘feel’. These people can be termed as ‘cold’ a word which I was called more than once. While being termed as ‘cold’ used to offend me before, I now understand why I may appear ‘cold’ in some situations and I no longer take offense.

3. It changed my dating life.

In the past, I always dated extroverts. Don’t get me wrong, they are great people, but their outgoing nature and the need to be always around people was really emotionally draining for me. I always dreaded weekends where I would have to compromise and go out with my then boyfriend as opposed to cuddling on the couch watching or reading something.

Now, I am dating an introvert who loves the same things that I do and I have never been happier.

4. I claimed back my life.

Searching for an identity is a long, exhausting journey. At some point you actually lose yourself. After accepting my introversion and getting comfortable in doing what I love, I reclaimed my life such that I do things that please me, whether they looked or sounded socially acceptable or not. I began to read more and realized how much I had missed that. I began to take long drives on weekends as opposed to nights of partying and nursing a hangover the day after. I enjoying cooking in my kitchen while enjoying a glass of wine by myself (sometimes I cook so much food I have to give out some of it to neighbors).

5. I understood extroverts more.

The good thing with Susan Cain’s book is that it also mentions extroverts and why they behave the way they do. When my extroverted friends need to catch up, I ensure I am the best company at that moment (under the influence of some coffee or wine), then recline to my home after some time, having made a friend happy and myself; a win-win situation here.

Ranking The Myers-Briggs Personality Types By Who Loves The Most Unapologetically

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Diplomat—Constantly Checking

ENFJs love honestly. They take relationships seriously and when they are in it, they are planning on staying for a while.

ENFJs are not one for hiding their emotions. They are definitely not the “play it cool” or “hard to get” type. They wear their heart on their sleeve and they are constantly showing their partner how much they care.

Even in the early stages of the relationships, ENFJs are constantly checking up on their partner. They are always asking them how they feel or if there is anything else they can do for them, and they truly mean this altruistically. ENFJs are always willing to do anything if it can make their partner happy. ENFJs are not about games; they always want to be on the same page.


Diplomat—Hopelessly Devoted

ENFPs are the daydream believers that truly think “love can conquer all.” ENFPs are all about feeling and less about actual thought. This goes back to the F for feeling, over T for thinking. ENFPs think about the outcome, not necessarily the consequences.

ENFPs believe in that fairy tale happy ending, but they do not always register with reality. ENFPs are the most likely to be in a long distance relationship. Remember ENFPs are all about fantasy over reality. This distance “made the heart grow fonder.” They are the most willing to hold onto love. ENFPs are not one to give up. It literally has to blow up in their face for them to give up on you.

ENFPs still and always will have that hope for their love.



ESFJs greatly value social validation more than any other personality type. They know a good compliment goes a long way. No other type is as supportive as an ESFJ. They stand very close to the status quo and traditions. ESFJ can be a bit old fashioned, but it is with good intention.

An ESFJ’s sense of self-worth is extremely important to them. They need constant attention, support, and validation. With that being said, it is most definitely not a one way street for ESFJ.

ESFJ always makes their partner feel like their best possible self. They almost worship their partner to an extent.

ESFJs are not one to hold onto to their pride. They show the whole world how proud they are of their partner every day. ESFJs are always Instagramming their boyfriend #mondaymancrush. They show off their love like a new Chanel bag, expensive but worth it #investment #qualityoverquantity.


Sentinel—Givers Not Takers

ISFJs are givers in every aspect of their life. They are always lending the extra hand and helping those in need. They need to be needed. ISFJs genuinely find it satisfying helping someone complete a task. They feel accomplished and proud by feeling helpful. Some people long to be desired—not ISFJ they long to feel needed not wanted.

ISFJ gives and gives, there is no limit to their generosity. However they must realize generosity does not make someone love you.

Being an introvert they are more reserved, however their reserved nature will not save them from heartbreak. The F for feeling over T for thinking still overrides their logic. While ISFJs are not the fools, rushing in type, when they have decided on their partner there is no telling what they are willing to do for them.

The feeling over thinking nature kicks in and they can get lost in heart over matter. Although this makes great emotional intelligence, there is a greater risk for heartbreak with the “feeling” type over the “thinking” type.


Sentinel—Pinky Promise

ISTJs are dependable by nature. Although they are more reserved( I for introversion over E for extroversion) when they do commit they love entirely.

ISTJs are not necessarily more selective because they are picky, moreso because they are shy. They simply feel more comfortable loving someone they know. Hence why ISTJs are more likely to date co-workers, schoolmates, or friends of friends.

Some people like the thrill and adventure of someone new. Whereas ISTJ is the complete opposite; they prefer the comfort in something they know.

ISTJs are very rationale. They are not the spur of the moment type. They believe in long-term goals and plans to make a relationship work. Although this may not seem like the most passionate relationship, it can definitely be a successful one. ISTJs may not always be about surprises, but they always keep their promises.<


Analyst—You Jump, I Jump Jack

ENTPs are strong on improvement. If you are not making them a better person, then you are simply not the person for them. ENTPs believe in growing together. If you have a goal, please share it with your ENTP partner. They not only want to help you achieve your goals, but they want to be a part of your process.

ENTPs are that best friend you take everywhere. They are the little black dress that goes with everything. They are your everyday bag that fits everything you need. ENTPs are your gym partner, your study buddy, your beer pong partner, your travel companion, your everything.

This “learning self-improvement” experience, not only helps your self-growth, but it solidifies your relationship. That process, that experience, is now a part of “us”, not just a part of “you.” This is something you did together and it strengthens your bond.



INFJ is not seeking for someone to simply pass the time with. They want something much more than companionship. They are only looking for someone who truly completes them. They are only interested in their soulmate.

INFJ is extremely picky, which is why they are not higher on the list, but when they finally find what they are searching for there is no limit to their love.

They love passionately and deeply. They do not just want a spark, they need a connection. INFJs are the furthest from fake. They can only love authentically.

They do not love often, but when they do you know it is genuine. They love with the their whole mind, body, and soul. Their partner is not only with them, but a part of them.


Explorer—Here Today, Gone Tomorrow

ESFPs are on the fast track for everything in their life, especially their relationships. ESFPs are the people you are referring to when you say “love at first sight”. That is how quickly an ESFP moves. They are not one to doubt themselves, they are not indecisive. They know what they want, when they want it, and they know when they do not want you anymore too.

ESFP can get over someone as quickly as they got under them. Although they are warm and very caring, they can turn cold in a blink of an eye.

ESFPs are very open to love, yet with their Explorer nature they are not easily tied down. Explorer types to tend to flee with the first sight of trouble. Although ESFP has the ability to fall in love unapologetically with their whole heart, who knows how long they will actually stay in love.


Diplomat—Prized Possession

People are not prizes. INFPs are known for being the “dreamer” type. Although INFP is more than a hopeless romantic. They do not fantasize about their perfect partner, they try to create their perfect partner.

They look for a partner like they are shopping with a checklist. They create a “dream boy” in their head, and they are left disappointed when the real thing does not fit the fantasy perfectly.

INFPs are known for their moral compass and high standards however, they are limiting themselves with options. INFPs are capable of loving freely, however they do give their love away easily.

Although they are worth the effort, their love should not always feel like a mountain to climb. It does not always have to be a challenge for it to be rewarding.

10. ISFP

Explorer—Always Running For The Thrill Of It

A listener, not a talker. ISFPs are quite mysterious and it can be difficult for them to open up. ISFPs are Explorers which mean they are a very “go with the flow” type. However they do not like being told what to do. ISFPs need to feel accepted for who they are.

In true Explorer nature ISFPs live in the present. They may not always make great long term partners, but for now they are a lot of fun.

When an ISFP is falling for you, the gloves come off. In public they can act more reserved because of the I for introversion vs. E for extroversion. But behind closed doors there is a beast ready to be unleashed.

ISFP never runs out of ideas, thus you will always be entertained with them. The adventure becomes a competition to the ISFP, each date must be more exciting than the last. They live for the rush and constant need for thrill.

Just be careful and hope the only thing they want is new activities and not a new partner.

11. INTP

Analyst—The Idea Man

INTP bless their kind heart. They have all these ideas about love and relationships, however they are weak with actually coming through. Being an idea man they are filled with wonderful crazy thoughts, however their timidness holds them back. Again this is the I for introversion verse E for Extroversion playing its role. Their ideas can be great, but in true Analyst nature they overanalyze everything to death. They tend to second guess themselves, leading to overthinking and psyching themselves out.

Analysts are thorough in absolutely everything they do. Yet, they must remember they can not plan out love! The more they try to force it, the less natural it is. INTPs are perfectionists and they want everything to be just perfect, but love is anything but perfect. Love is supposed to be messy, unpredictable, and it is supposed to scare you. If it doesn’t it isn’t really love, it is just comfort.

12. ESTJ

Sentinel—Better Safe Than Sorry

It is no secret that ESTJ likes to be in charge. Even in the beginning of the dating phase, they command strict rules. Most Sentinel personalities prefer long term partners and ESTJ takes that rule to heart. ESTJ have extremely high standards and are very picky. When they finally do find someone they like/deem as worthy, you better believe they are holding onto them.

ESTJs are not about wasting time or getting hurt. They like to feel comfortable and they like familiarity. Although ESTJ may not be the wild bunch like Explorers they do enjoy having fun and spontaneity with their partner. They just like having fun with the right people. ESTJs can still be dangerous, they just need be with someone who makes them feel safe.

13. ENTJ

Analyst—In It To Win It

ENTJ may have a fun-loving spontaneous attitude, but do not let them fool you. They are not “going with the flow”, they are extremely calculated. ENTJ is here to make you fall in love with them.

They will be exciting, adventurous, and at the same time they will make you feel committed and safe. They are everything you never knew you wanted, because you didn’t notice but ENTJ is molding to be your type.

ENTJs are very goal-oriented, they not only go for what they want, but their want becomes their obsession. Yet you would never know what they are up to, they play their cool to a tee. They are the master of manipulation. When something or someone becomes their project they must succeed. ENTJs are here to win, they are not here just for fun.

Like most Analyst types, ENTJs are heavy on self-improvement and growth. Thus they will attempt to mold their partner into their image of their perfect person. They believe growing together will bring them closer. ENTJ shows their love for their partner with their goals and experiences they endure together. ENTJ loves to be on top and they need to be successful. Their partner must share or at least want to share these qualities as well with them.

ENTJs are very supportive; they love helping someone achieve a goal. However ENTJs are also extremely time-oriented. Meaning they know when to hit it and quit it, and when to put a ring on it. They know exactly when to hold on tight or when to give up on you.

14. ESTP

Explorer—Less Talking, Little More Action

In true Explorer nature, ESTPs prefer to act than speak. ESTPs can quickly jump into a physical relationship without much emotional remorse. They are very passionate.

As much as an ESTP can love a good debate, they prefer doing something over talking about. They would rather play the sport than watch it on tv.

While they have little restrictions with love, they also have little expectations. ESTPs are here for a day of fun in the sun. If it turns into something more? Great. If it doesn’t? No harm no foul.

15. INTJ

Analyst—Book Smarts, Not Street Smarts

In true Analyst form, they can achieve anything they pretty much set their mind to. However love is the one thing that we can not predict. It does not follow a formal or strict schedule. INTJs succeed with order, plan, and strategy yet the more calculated they become with dating the more they struggle.

INTJs are an extremely rare breed. They have the N for intuition for people reading, the T for thinking logic, and the I for introverted focus. Their only downfall is while their achievements speak volumes, their social skills may come off as “trying too hard.” The truth of the matter is if they learned to let go and live a little looser, everything would become a little bit easier. INTJs do not love as unapologetically because they are simply too calculated. It is not because they care the least—quite the opposite actually. They just have a poor way of expressing their emotions sometimes.

INTJs still treat love like like a game, rather than being themselves they’re playing as an opponent. They need to remember this is a team effort.

INTJs have mastered almost any skill possible they have put their mind to. However, sometimes the more effort you put in love, the less you get out of it.

16. ISTP

Explorer—This Love Is Difficult, But It’s Real

This love is anything but simple. ISTPs are all about the unknown. They dare to be different and they are extremely unpredictable. Which sounds just dandy when it is all fun and games. However it is not so fun when you are falling in love and you are not sure if they are going to catch you.

ISTPs are not the best at expressing their feelings openly. Mostly due to the fact they are constantly changing their mind. In true Explorer nature the jump from one thing/one person to the other.

It can be difficult confronting ISTPs about relationship problems. They absolutely hate anything that feels too forced. Meaning if you force “the what are we talk” on them, that is basically the kiss of the death. “What we are is over now.” Period no question mark needed.

ISTPs need their space like most of us need air. If they feel at all in any way suffocated or their partner is too “clingy” they will end it faster than you can say “check please”.

What Each Personality Type Looks For In a Best Friend



What Each Personality Type Looks For In a Best Friend

Having a close friend who is there for you, and who understand you- is one of the best feelings in the world. Sometimes it feels like romantic relationships just come and go, but friends can truly last a lifetime. Here is what each personality type is searching for in a best friend.



INFJs want a best friend who they feel comfortable to be themselves around. They struggle to open up to people, but this is often because they know that people can hurt them. When the INFJ loves, they do it very deeply and in a lasting way. They want a best friend who will commit to their friendship, and who will take it just as seriously as they would a romantic relationship. This connection is important to the INFJ, and they want someone who they can feel truly bonded to. This does not mean that the INFJ needs to speak with their best friend constantly, if the connection is there then they can feel it even through the distance. The INFJ wants a friendship where they can support their best friend, but also feel supported in return. Just knowing that their friend cares enough to take time out of their day for the INFJ, means the absolute world to them. Feeling understood is a very big deal for INFJs, and if their best friend can make them feel this way- they will hold onto them forever.


ENFJs want a best friend who is open and honest with them, and who enjoys the same activities as them. ENFJs are also very busy people, so they need a friend who can keep up with them, or who at least does not get upset if the ENFJ cannot be available at all hours of the day. They will certainly attempt to be everything to everyone, but enjoy someone who actually understands and appreciates their effort. Having a best friend who sincerely wants to support the ENFJ as much as they support them, is going to go a long way for them. Someone who can sit and chat with them after they have had a long day, and just share that connection- this is truly important for the ENFJ. Although they are usually friends with just about everyone, the ENFJ reserves a very special spot for their closest friend.


INFPs want a best friend who is loyal and honest with them. They do not want someone who is going to lie to their face, and say something entirely different behind their back. They need someone who has a strong sense of morals, and who understands the importance of trust. INFPs simply want someone who understands them, and does not judge them for being different. They make amazing best friends, and will be the biggest supporter of the people they love. INFPs simply want to feel loved and appreciated by their best friend. They do need space to be alone, but if they care for someone enough- they can actually share this space with them. Sitting in silence, just being near someone special- is actually very energizing for an INFP.


ENFPs want a best friend who is eager to share in their adventures together. They want someone who makes them laugh and who actually wants to bring joy and positivity into their world. Someone who is constantly bringing them down, and doesn’t want to try new things- is going to be difficult for the ENFP to be close to. They want a best friend who enjoys exploring possibilities with them, and who can support them always. ENFPs dislike judgmental people, and because of this they want a best friend who will not judge them. ENFPs are friendly individuals, but might be a bit pickier when it comes to their best friend. They need a partner in crime, someone who they can share their best moments with.



INTJs want a best friend who can come close to keeping up with them. Someone who can spark their mind and keep the conversation interesting- is truly valuable for the INTJ. They do not want a flighty friend, especially when it comes to loyalty and honesty. INTJs want someone they can trust, and who understands them. They need plenty of alone time, and because of this the INTJ needs a friend who can appreciate their need for space. Being able to have long conversations about many different subjects, without getting bored by the other person, that is the most valuable quality for an INTJ.


The most important qualities for an ENTJ are intelligence and loyalty. They want a best friend who is trustworthy, and who won’t turn their back on them. They may not be the most emotional people, but they are actually very supportive and caring towards their loved ones. ENTJs simply want a best friend who is going to stand by their side, even if times get a bit rough. Having someone who they can trust entirely, means the absolute world to them.


INTPs want a best friend who they can share their passions with. Someone who can keep up with their often spiraling train of thought- is one of the most valuable things for the INTP. They want a best friend who can follow their way of thinking and actually provide interesting and thought provoking responses. They also want someone who they can trust and rely on- especially if the INTP decides to disappear for a while. They sometimes need long periods of time spent alone, and having a best friend who understands that is ideal for them.


ENTPs want a best friend who does not try to stifle their creativity, or their excitement. Someone who they can spend time debating with, and who will not get hurt over it. They need a friend who is a bit thick skinned, but who also knows when to draw the line for the ENTP. If they have a best friend who can be their partner in crime, that is the absolute best thing for them. They want someone who can be by their side and help them come up with exciting new ideas. There is nothing better than someone who can keep them entertained, even if it is just with a funny meme or joke.



ISTJs want a best friend who is loyal and honest with them. They want someone who shares their values, and won’t insult the ISTJs life choices. Being able to communicate with someone about their day, and just have relaxing conversations- is very enjoyable for them. They also need a best friend who can appreciate their need for space sometimes. Someone who does not make them feel guilty for wanting to spend some time by themselves, that is very ideal for the ISTJ.


ESTJs need a best friend who shares their same values and ideals. Someone who does not get nervous if the ESTJ goes on a tangent and becomes excited about whatever topic they are discussing. They want a best friend who they can laugh and joke with, and just enjoy their presence. They especially do best having a best friend who knows about their past, and can share memories with them. Ultimately though, ESTJs simply want someone who is loyal and steadfast.


ISFJs need a best friend who can share in their passions and hobbies with them. Someone who will want to go out to the same nice restaurants, or even share a relaxing night in discussing their favorite movies. Whatever the ISFJ likes to do, they want to have a friend who they can share it with. They enjoy having someone to confide in, especially since they work very hard to make their loved ones happy. Having a best friend who listens, as much as they talk, that is absolutely the best thing for an ISFJ.


ESFJs want a best friend who will give just as much as they take. They want someone who will not only share their feelings and thoughts with the ESFJ, but who also WANTS to hear about them in return. They find themselves feeling taken advantage of often, and truly just want a friend who won’t do this. They want someone who enjoys their presence, not what the ESFJ can do for them. A best friend who simply loves them for who they are, and wants the best for them. They also enjoy being able to share certain hobbies with their best friend, so that they can discuss whatever new obsession they have found together.



ISTPs want a best friend who is upfront with them, and who respects their need for space. Having a friend who they can share their hobbies with, is also a great asset. ISTPs are often picky when it comes to who they let into their world. They want someone who they can trust and rely on when they need them. They will likely never ask for help, but just knowing that their friend supports them is the all they really need.


ESTPs want a best friend who can be their partner in crime, and who will be by their side to share in many different adventures. Whether these adventures include going on a long road trip somewhere new, or just driving to get ice cream at midnight. ESTPs just want someone to spend time with, and laugh with about silly things. Having a best friend who will stand by their side no matter what, is definitely what the ESTP is searching for.


ISFPs need a best friend who supports them no matter what. They want someone who is their biggest fan, and who connects with them on a much deeper level. ISFPs support their loved ones, and they simply want to feel this in return. ISFPs do not need a best friend who is just like them, and might even enjoy someone who has many differences. Most of all, they want loyalty and trust when it comes to their best friend.


ESFPs want a best friend who enjoys their presence, and who will stand by them. Someone who likes to have fun, and who won’t judge the ESFP. They want someone they can trust to support their decisions, and who will appreciate them for who they are. ESFPs sometimes do not feel truly understood, even though outwardly they appear very social and likable. ESFPs want a best friend who they can share their secrets with, and who understands who they truly are.

Something That Each Personality Type Hates to Do

Something That Each Personality Hates to Do


Something That Each Personality Type Hates to Do

There are certain things that we avoid at all costs, things that we truly hate to do. Unfortunately, there are times when we have to perform the tasks that we despise- simply because life calls for it. Here is something that each personality absolutely hates to do.



INFJs are certainly a unique collection of people, and because of this they do have a long list of things that get on their nerves. INFJs absolutely hate being forced into a loud situation, or being made to participate in a large crowd event. INFJs prefer quiet interactions, where they can actually get to know people and communicate with others. If they have to endure loud noises and abrasive people for too long, they will become exhausted. INFJs also despise having to be forced into participating in small talk, there are little things more tiresome to them than this. They would much rather have real and meaningful conversation, small talk is possible one of the worst things for the INFJ. Having to be around fake or insincere people, is also something that INFJs hate.


ENFJs are very people focused, which often means that the things they despise are connected to the actions of others. ENFJs are constantly working hard to please their loved ones, so something they hate more than anything is being forced to be around people they do not trust. If the ENFJ has to spend time with disloyal people, it can truly exhaust them quickly. They only want to be around sincere and caring individuals- and hate wasting their time without people who do not fit this description. ENFJs simply despise betrayal, and will become very upset if their friends will not believe them when they explain that someone is not a good person. If they have to pretend at all, the ENFJ will be very unhappy.


INFPs truly hate being forced into social situations, especially with loud or insincere people. If the INFP has to encounter individuals who they believe are attention hogs, it becomes extremely exhausting for them. There are few things worse for an INFP than being forced into a job or career that they deem pointless or heartless. INFPs want to be doing something more valuable and meaningful with their time, and will quickly become frustrated and unhappy. There is really noting that the INFP hates more than being forced into a lifestyle that is not their own choice or design. Sincerity is so important to the INFP, and living a life that doesn’t follow this will truly make them miserable.


ENFPs truly hate having to perform monotonous tasks, the same thing over and over to them is just misery. ENFPs wants to work in a job that inspires them, and makes them feel truly accomplished. They enjoy doing things that showcase their natural skills, and might even impress others. If they have to work in a factory line, or sit at a desk all day- the ENFP will hate this very much. ENFPs hate being stifled as well, and if they are not allowed to feel free to explore new possibilities, they will become rather unhappy.



INTJs truly hate having to perform certain required tasks, such as going to the DMV. If they feel like inefficiency is wasting their time, they will become very frustrated. They understand that these things have to be done, but they often can think of a million ways to improve upon the situation. INTJs often hate having to follow certain social constructs, like gift giving or receiving. They might find these ideas meaningless, and would much rather come up with helpful ways to show appreciation. INTJs want things to be done in a well thought out way, but having to participate in something that seems pointless and lazy- that is truly going to be something that the INTJ hates. They can also become angry if they have to work in a group, and are forced to do this.


There is nothing ENTJs hate more than laziness and inefficiency. If the ENTJ is forced to participate in something that is not put together well, they will certainly despise this. They might attempt to take charge, but if that is not possible they will find themselves very frustrated. Having to be fake in a situation in order to get something done, is certainly something that the ENTJ hates immensely. They believe in getting things done, so they ENTJ will bite their tongue if they must- but oftentimes this leaves them feeling very angry and frustrated.


INTPs actually care very much about their loved ones, but this can be a real hot button for them at times. Feeling like they have to enter into a social situation because it is the “appropriate” thing to do, is truly something that the INTP hates. They dislike having this sort of pressure placed on them, especially since they often prefer being alone. They hate walking into a situation where people pre-judge them before getting to know who they are, which also makes the INTP hate feeling like they have to prove this person wrong. INTPs will truly despise having to perform monotonous tasks, or fit into a job where they do not belong.


ENTPs truly hating having to perform monotonous tasks, so working on some sort of assembly line is something like a scene from a horror film to them. ENTPs thrive when they are in a career that allows them to explore new possibilities and showcase their skills. If the ENTP has to perform the same boring task over and over again, they will become extremely frustrated. ENTPs also hate feeling like they have to bite their tongue in order to make their loved ones happy. ENTPs love being able to debate subjects, and utilize this is a way to learn from and teach others. Being made to keep quiet for the sake of comfort, is not something that ENTPs enjoy.



ISTJs often hate being forced outside of their comfort zone without some sort of practical instructions. They are not afraid of trying something new, as long as they are able to research it beforehand. ISTJs always want to work hard and grow in their career, but dislike being tossed into an unknown situation. They need to be allowed to fully understand a subject or task, before they are forced to dive in. ISTJs are often great at pretty much anything they do, but they require time to study and learn beforehand.


ESTJs often hate being forced to comfort someone emotionally, especially if this person is distraught. They care deeply about their loved ones, but dislike feeling like they can’t really do anything to help. If someone does not have a practical solution to their problem, the ESTJ will feel somewhat lost. Being tossed into a situation like this, is certainly something that the ESTJ hates very much. They want to be able to help, but if they feel like they cannot do this it will frustrate them. ESTJs also despise being made to follow orders from someone who they feel is unintelligent. They also hate being thrown into situations where the people running the place are completely inefficient. Waiting in long lines is something that enrages the ESTJ, since they likely have more important things to do.


ISFJs truly hate having to step too far outside of their comfort zone. They enjoy being able to perform the tasks that they are used to and enjoy. It is not that ISFJs are afraid to take chances, they just know what works well for them. They have often experienced that stepping outside this comfort zone, ends badly for themselves and their loved ones. ISFJs often want a quiet lifestyle, just enjoying time spent with their loved ones and doing the things they love. If someone forces them to try something new or make a decision and it ends badly, the ISFJ will be very upset by this.


ESFJs hate having to do something that feels selfish, especially if it makes their loved ones unhappy. If the ESFJ has to make a decision between the people they care about, it will be extremely frustrating for them. They dislike taking sides, especially between people they care deeply for. Anything that might hurt someone they love, is something the ESFJ will avoid at all costs. They also hate being put on the spot, especially if they feel like they won’t perform well in that situation. ESFJs also hate having to answer questions about themselves, or talk about themselves for very long periods of time.



ISTPs truly hate being forced to follow the rules, especially if they disagree with these rules. They want to be able to do as they please, without having other people’s ideals forced upon them. ISTPs are very independent individuals, making it important for them to follow their own path. Unfortunately, there are times when the law forced the ISTP to follow certain rules or laws that they disagree with. Having to do this, is entirely frustrated for them, and they may even attempt to find a way around it. They also hate being forced into social situations for too long a period of time.


If the ESTP has to perform boring or monotonous tasks all day, they will soon become miserable. ESTPs need to feel free to explore and partake in exciting adventures. If they feel like their job is holding them back and isn’t showcasing their abilities, the ESTP will truly hate this. ESTPs also hate being alone for too long, and will feel stifled in a job or lifestyle where they cannot be around people that they like or care for.


ISFPs truly hate being forced into loud social situations for too long. They enjoy being alone, and really hate having to be in these types of overwhelming surroundings. ISFPs also hate feeling like they have to spend time around people they do not trust or like. If someone is uncaring or inconsiderate, the ISFP will want to be as far away from this person as possible. If they have to work with or spend time around people who are immoral or selfish- the ISFP will certainly hate this.


ESFPs hate being ignored more than anything in the world. If they are forced into a secluded situation for too long, the ESFP will become very unhappy. Not being able to enjoy the company of others, or make people smile- is the ESFPs worst possible scenario. Having to work in a career where the ESFP spends a lot of time by themselves, performing boring or monotonous tasks, is something that the ESFP will truly hate to do.

Here’s How Much You Fear Abandonment, According to Your Personality Type

Here’s How Much You Fear Abandonment, According to Your Personality Type


Here’s How Much You Fear Abandonment, According to Your Personality Type

Most people have a fear of abandonment, even if it is in some small way. Here is how much you likely fear being abandoned, based on your personality type.



INFJs may not outwardly show their fears, but they often fear being abandoned by the people they love most. They often put a lot of pressure on themselves to be perfect, and feel inadequate if they aren’t. This can cause the INFJ to fear being alone, which can hold them back in many ways. They can become saddened by this idea, since all they truly want is to make lasting and sincere connections in life. While INFJs often fear abandonment, this is something they can overcome. In truth they are amazing and lovable people, who need to trust in their intuition to find the right companions.


ENFJs definitely fear abandonment, even if they try not to show this to others. They work hard to be lovable, and are always trying to make others happy. A part of the ENFJ does this because they hope that if they are needed, they won’t be abandoned. They truly just want to connect with their loved ones, and hate the idea of losing those people. ENFJs value the people in their lives, and while they would never abandon those people, they can fear being abandoned themselves.


INFPs are very internal people, who can be rather independent in their choices. While INFPs are perfectly fine being alone, they take the connections they do make very seriously. When they care for someone they certainly don’t want to lose them, which can make this a fear of theirs. INFPs can be somewhat hard on themselves, and will struggle with the idea of not being good enough. While they can survive the loss, INFPs want to hold onto their real connections forever. They hope to bond with people who will stick around when things get difficult.


ENFPs can be very independent people, who often counteract their fear of abandonment by seeking refuge in themselves. It can be challenging for them to trust people fully, especially as the ENFP gets older and encountered heartbreak. They do want to make lasting connections, but at the same time they want to be capable of standing on their own in case things go wrong. ENFPs want to maintain a sense of independence in order to remain strong if they do suffer a loss. While ENFPs can be fearful of abandonment, they are capable of withstanding it.



INTJs are focused on building up their knowledge and reaching a deeper understanding of the world around them. While they don’t find themselves as obsessed with making connections, INTJs do value the sincere connections that they make. Deep down INTJs might have a fear of abandonment when they truly care for someone, which is expressed in their desire to be seen as intelligent and valuable when it comes to their knowledge. While INTJs might not like the idea of being abandoned, they can certainly handle being alone.


ENTJs definitely dislike the idea of abandonment, since they value loyalty in their relationships. ENTJs only want to connect with people who they can trust to be there no matter what. They stand by their loved ones through thick and thin, and simply want the same in return. ENTJs work hard to care for the people they love, and are always pushing themselves to become better for them. While they are more than capable of being alone, they don’t take their relationships lightly. The idea of being abandoned is definitely painful for the ENTJ, and is a major betrayal.


INTPs are independent people, who are more than comfortable being alone. While the INTP enjoys being on their own, they do value the connections they make. INTPs do not let people into their lives lightly, and want to be sure they can trust those individuals. Being abandoned is an unpleasant thought for the INTP, but they often fear that it is very possible. They can have a hard time trusting people completely, and understand that most people can be a bit flighty when it comes to their feelings. INTPs might always have a fear in the back of their minds that their loved ones will abandon them, which can ultimately be the thing that pushes people away.


ENTPs are very independent people, who live most of their lives bouncing from one thing to the next. While they do value their relationships very much, they sometimes have a hard time trusting people completely. ENTPs understand that emotions can be somewhat fleeting, and might always feel that abandonment is possible. They often build their self-confidence based on their own actions, and not the love they receive from others. While abandonment would certainly cause the ENTP great pain, they are more than capable of pushing through it.



ISTJs definitely fear the idea of being abandoned by their loved ones, since they strive to care for them. ISTJs are independent people who can certainly handle life on their own, but at the same time their family means very much to them. They are always working hard to be the best they can for those closest to them, and want to feel like they can trust them. ISTJs are dependable people who would never abandon others, which is why loyalty means so much to them.


While it might not be evident, ESTJs actually have a pretty big fear of abandonment. They are independent people, who often have a hard time expressing their emotions to others. ESTJs actually care deeply for their loved ones, and are always working hard to provide for them. When the ESTJ cares for someone, it is not something they take lightly. They will stand by their loved ones through thick and thin, and simply want to receive this loyalty in return.


ISFJs definitely have a fear of abandonment, and simply want to keep their loved ones close. ISFJs care deeply for others, and are always working hard to maintain their happiness. They don’t want to feel like a burden on others, and try hard to make it easy for maintain their relationships. ISFJs do fear being abandoned by their family members, and truly want to feel like they are loved and valued. ISFJs try hard to make others happy, and are often motivated by this desire.


ESFJs definitely struggle when it comes to their fear of abandonment, and try hard to overcome this constantly. ESFJs are motivated by the people they love, and are always striving to make them happy. A big reason ESFJs are always pushing for perfection in themselves, is because they fear abandonment. They simply want to share their lives with others, and are afraid that people will leave if they are not always perfect. ESFJs work hard to make others happy, and really just want loyalty in return.



ISTPs are very independent people, who aren’t often afraid of abandonment. They don’t mind being alone most of the time, and understand that not every relationship is meant to last. They can handle being abandoned if someone simply doesn’t want to be in their life anymore. ISTPs are often aware that other connections will come along, and the right ones will last. They are more than capable of keeping themselves happy, and don’t like to be held down much anyways.


ESTPs are logical and independent people, but deep down they do often fear abandonment. ESTPs strive to be seen as valuable and are always trying to impress their loved ones. They do not like the idea of being along, and simply want connections that will last. ESTPs can seem a bit flighty though, which is often what scares others away. They sometimes bounce around from relationship to relationship, which can sometimes be a defense mechanism.


ISFPs definitely don’t want to be abandoned by their loved ones, but at the same time they are independent people. They aren’t afraid of being alone, they just want to make connections that are sincere. ISFPs can sometimes be seen as flighty though, bouncing from relationship to relationship. This is often because the ISFP is searching for something that is real, since they don’t want to just settle for the first person that enters their lives.


ESFPs definitely do not like the idea of being abandoned, which is often why they strive to be entertaining to others. ESFPs just want to feel loved by others, and want to be valued for who they are. They are constantly afraid of being ignored or abandoned, and try hard to maintain their relationships. ESFPs can become fearful of this for what seems like no reason at all, which can sometimes push their loved ones away.

Here’s How Important Kindness is to Each Personality Type

Here’s How Important Kindness is to Each Personality Type

Written By Kirsten Moodie

Here’s How Important Kindness is to Each Personality Type

While kindness is universally a positive quality, some people value it in different ways. Here is how important kindness is to each personality type.



INFJs definitely believe that kindness is important, and try to live their lives with compassion. They don’t want to harm others, especially when those people are innocent. INFJs always strive to be kind towards other people, and hate feeling like they have hurt someone. While INFJs believe in kindness, they can also be a bit harsh when they see someone committing an injustice. They are often the type to defend someone who is being attacked, and are capable of flipping their switch and becoming a bit aggressive towards those people.


ENFJS definitely believe in being kind, and try to live their lives always giving and sharing with others. ENFJs don’t enjoy seeing people in pain, and want to do what they can to prevent this. They always try to be compassionate and warm towards others, and believe that sharing kindness is extremely important. ENFJs actually want to make a difference in the world around them, and try to do their part. ENFJs try to always tend to the needs of others, and strive to live a life filled with kindness and giving.


INFPs definitely strive to be kind and loving people, and believe in making a difference in the world. INFPs don’t enjoy seeing others suffering, and become upset by people who are cruel to others. INFPs really believe that they are meant to serve a greater purpose in life, which often ties into helping others. They have very strong inner morals which they strive to follow and can be rather hard on themselves if they fail. INFPs simply believe that being kind is an important part of living a positive and valuable life.


ENFPs can be playful and even a bit teasing to their loved ones, but in truth they believe in being kind to others. When it truly matters the strong inner morals of the ENFP will come out, and they will certainly show kindness to others. They don’t enjoy causing others pain, and feel truly good when they can make someone feel good about themselves. ENFPs are charming people who have a knack for saying the right thing to make people smile. They believe in being kind to those who need it, and want to make a difference for others.



INTJs may be seen as cold people, but this is simply because they aren’t overly expressive when it comes to emotions. INTJs do believe in kindness, they just evaluate what it means to be kind in different ways than others. For the INTJ spreading knowledge and educating people is actually one of the kindest things you can do for someone. They value knowledge and strive to remove ignorance in themselves, so giving this gift to someone else is truly a deep kindness. INTJs also believe that honesty towards someone is showing kindness and respect towards that person, even if it doesn’t seem tactful to others.


ENTJs value efficiency more than anything else, which can sometimes trump their desire for kindness. ENTJs value kindness in different ways, and often believe that helping someone learn and better themselves is one of the biggest signs of respect they can show. ENTJs want to be honest with the people they care for, and often believe that is more important than tact. Being sincere and upfront is being kind in the eyes of the ENTJ.


INTPs may appear cold and closed off to others, but deep down they feel things in a very powerful way. INTPs simply aren’t open to express their emotions, and can even struggle to understand them. While INTPs might not be the most emotional people, they do believe in being kind to others. They are often very respectful to strangers and try to give everyone plenty of space. While INTPs want to be kind, they often see honesty and information as an important way to show that they care for someone. They might not be the most tactful people, which seems to others like they are being unkind. This is simply because the INTP wants to actually help make a difference in the lives of others, and they realize that honesty can do that.


ENTPs are independent people, who value logic and reason above many other things. While ENTPs try to be kind towards others, they can often lack tact which ultimately hurts others. They don’t want to upset people, they just value knowledge above most other things. For the ENTP it is important to be honest with their loved ones, in order to help them grow and become better. They have their own idea of what it means to be kind, and sometimes that can lack sensitivity.


ISTJs are hardworking people, who do know how to show a certain level of respect towards others. They are often surprisingly kind people, even if they aren’t very emotionally expressive. They have strong inner morals and actually strive to do what they believe is right and good. ISTJs are always trying to provide for their loved ones, and believe in doing what they can for them. This is their way of showing kindness, which is why ISTJs work so hard to improve themselves.


ESTJs value efficiency above most other things, and will often rank it above kindness. They do want to make their loved ones happy, and will always strive to improve their lives. For the ESTJ helping others is important, but they can sometimes lack tact when it comes to how they communicate. They simply want to assist their loved ones in improving their lives and becoming better, which to them is showing a sense of kindness. ESTJs also work hard to provide for others, which is their way of being kind and giving.


For ISFJs kindness is very important, and they always strive to be warm and compassionate towards others. ISFJs do not want to harm people, and try to always be sensitive to their feelings. They have big hearts, which is why they value kindness and compassion so much. ISFJs are respectful people, who would rather bite their tongue than say something that might hurt someone else’s feelings. For the ISFJ being kind means providing for the needs of those around them, and always being sensitive to their emotions.


Kindness is extremely important to ESFJs, and is one of their biggest values in life. They strive to care for their loved ones, and always want to be sensitive to their emotions. ESFJs also try to be kind to strangers, and dislike doing anything that could possibly harm someone. They try hard to be good to people, and want to extend kindness to anyone they can. ESFJs feel happiest when they are giving to others and want to spread that kindness when they can.



ISTPs value honesty and logic much more than they value insincere kindness. They do respect people and don’t seek to harm others, they just won’t hold back the truth in order to be sensitive. For ISTPs loyalty and sincerity is showing a greater kindness than fake words. They aren’t the most emotionally expressive people but they will certainly do what they can for the people they love. ISTPs prefer to have space most of the time, and believe that it is kind to show respect for other people’s space.


ESTPs can be somewhat tactless, which makes them seem less kind to others. They simply value knowledge and facts, and strive to teach others when they can. They won’t be unnecessarily rude, but they also won’t go out of their way to be kind to strangers. ESTPs are giving and loving people when it comes to those closest to them, and will always try and provide for those people. ESTPs simply aren’t the most sensitive people, so they can seem a little harsh at times.


ISFPs are moral people, who certainly believe in being kind to others. They always strive to do the right thing, and are very sensitive to the feelings of other people. ISFPs dislike causing harm, and simply want to live their lives with a sense of peace and kindness. They can sometimes get caught up in the moment, even still the ISFP always tries to show kindness when they can.


ESFPs definitely believe in being kind to others, and they want to receive that same kindness in return. They try to do what they can to make people happy, and don’t want to say or do anything hurtful. While ESFPs do strive to be kind people, they can sometimes say things that are a bit harmful. This is not their intention most of the time, ESFPs simply live in the present moment without much thought to their words or actions beforehand. They follow their instincts, which can create a bit of a problem sometimes.

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