5 Red Flags They Are Not Trustworthy

When we talk about relationships, the conversation always comes back to trust. I might have said that love is the most important thing, but we can have trust without love–we can’t have love without trust.

I’m not down on relationships. Quite the opposite, I think humans are social creatures and need relationships to thrive. And because those relationships are so vital to our happiness, here are some red flags to look for that may indicate they can’t be trusted.

THEY ISOLATE YOU
People who can’t be trusted don’t want to put themselves into situations where they can get caught. To lower that risk they are more likely to separate you from your friends and family and keep you to themselves. It’s harder to catch a snake alone than when you have help. So if there are indications that they want you to drop your friends or keep finding reasons to avoid your family, it’s time to start wondering why.

THEY SAY EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO HEAR
Serial narcissists (people who put their needs and wants ahead of everyone else’s) are great examples of people who manipulate you by telling you all the things you want to hear. If someone seems too good to be true, they might be. I don’t mean that there aren’t good, sensitive people out there, but it’s also okay to scratch beneath the surface of too many feel-good conversations.

THEY LIE
A little lie here and there is normal, right? Sure, I guess. But some people lie too easy and too frequently to be trusted. For instance, a “pathological liar” is someone who lies all the time. Lying comes as easily as breathing. Their stories always change, they say anything to get attention, and usually they don’t have many friends because they’ve burned people out of their lives with their lying. If you see signs of pathological lying, it’s not up to you to fix it. Your best bet is to move on. This is a problem they have to fix for themselves.

YOUR TRUSTED ONES DON’T LIKE THEM
If you are lucky enough to have a great friend in your life or are close with your family, it’s a good idea to rely on their instincts when it comes to other people in your life. I’m not suggesting they are always right, but if your BFF and your sister both agree that your partner seems shady–take that to heart. They could be wrong, but it’s worth it to confront that possibility and either disprove it or uncover it now so you can move on.

THERE ARE LOOSE ENDS
Do their past relationships have a lot of loose ends? That is, have they not resolved things with previous lovers? If people are calling, texting, poking or messaging them, or talking about them because they need closure, that’s a bad sign. It means they fear confrontation so much that they would rather leave someone hurt than have the courage to do what’s right. If someone has bad judgement or is more concerned with avoiding unpleasant situations than doing the right thing, can you really trust someone like that when it matters most? I don’t think so.

A school counselor I had in high school gave me some very good advice. He said, “Trust your instincts.” Now, sure, he was wearing a Star Wars t-shirt, but it was good advice nonetheless. Our instincts are those little red flags that go up when something doesn’t feel quite right. Those senses are there for a reason. They tell us when something requires close examination. You might learn you were just being paranoid, or you might just save yourself from someone who really can’t be trusted.

Why Women Lose Passion With the Men They Love

Passion, sad to say, has its curfew. It’s normal for the passion to simmer down between long-term couples. What’s also possible is for women to lose passion for their men even if their relationship hasn’t passed its long-term status, and here’s why.

She’s seen your true colors
It doesn’t matter how long a woman and her partner have been together. Once she catches a glimpse of the type of person he really is and she doesn’t like it, the passion will undoubtedly slip away.

She’s too used to the way things are
It’s so easy to lose passion when things become a routine. Not everything should be predictable. Who doesn’t love a bit of excitement in their lives?

He’s barely there
If a woman really loves her man or is super interested in him, but he doesn’t spend time with her often — that interest alone can slowly start to melt away. Who wants a companion in life when he’s not really there anyway?

She’s going through something
There are many events that can take place that can turn a woman off of many aspects of her life, including her partner. If there is a significant change in her life that has taken its toll on her, it’s possible she just needs some support.

She doesn’t feel desired
On top of romance and intimacy, a woman loves to feel totally and utterly desired by her man. She wants her inner goddess to flourish when she’s with him. She craves special moments that will help maintain the connection.

Stop Doing These 17 Things in 2018

2018 will be a selfish year. My time will be invested on me. On improving myself. I want to become a better person physically and mentally.

1. Stop living life that always stays still, a life where you only watch other people run after the things they truly want in life while you just lay back because you’re too scared of even giving it a try.

2. Stop  just having 4 hours of sleep every night. Have you ever noticed how irritable you get after you’ve been sleep-deprived for too long? No matter how busy you are, take out at least 8 hours of sleep in a day. You can watch that season tomorrow. You can scroll through your news-feed in the morning. And you can chat with your friends when you’ve gotten some rest.

3. Stop thinking that fear is something that should be avoided at all times. In some situations, fear is actually our heart’s way of letting us know about the things we truly want in life, but are scared of pursuing because of how people will perceive them or how we might end up failing. If your heart begins to pound the minute you think about signing up for those dance lessons or applying for that new job or even making amends with that long-lost friend, then it’s time to truly listen. Start embracing your fears. I guarantee you won’t regret it.

4. Stop putting up with people who have clearly been taking you for granted, people who can’t even meet you half-way, and people who keep expecting you to constantly be there for them but will not even message to ask if you’re okay in your time of need.

5. Stop putting up with a life where you always have to hide your true mental state, whether it’s some form of depression, anxiety, OCD or anything in the world. Stop making yourself believe that you’re a burden on this world. Stop telling yourself that the things you’re feeling are something you should be ashamed of. And stop assuming that no one and nothing can help you get out of this.

6. Stop putting up with a job that constantly makes you want to kill yourself, only because you feel convinced that this is the only one you’re capable of getting.

7. Stop putting up with a body that keeps making you feel like there’s something wrong. If you think you’re being unhealthy, start putting in efforts to change that. Take out some time to exercise every day. Start eating less outside and incorporate healthy food such as fruits and vegetables into your diet. Keep reminding yourself that sometimes, one drink is enough for you. Take the stairs instead of waiting a long time for the lift to come. And walk as much as you can instead of lying in your bed all day.

8. Stop putting up with days that will have no significance in your life. Life is short and you have very little time to keep wasting. It’s true that at times, we all need to just take some time away- time where we can just relax and do absolutely nothing. But if you spend every single weekend just sleeping in your bed all day, or aimlessly scrolling through your Facebook newsfeed or even binge watching a show that you’ve already seen a hundred times before, it’s never going to make you feel happy. Instead, you might end up being filled with emptiness.

9. Stop putting up with people who don’t accept you exactly the way you are, who always give comments or act in ways that reflect how badly they want you to change your personality, and who make you feel like you just can’t ever be good enough for them.

10. Stop putting up with excess. I’m not implying here that you should start feeling guilty about the spa day you treated yourself to after a month of constant tensions or even about buying those amazing shoes you had your eyes on for quite a long time. But maybe it’s time to stop buying clothes that you won’t even wear more than once, to reconsider your decision of getting that expensive phone upgrade you don’t really need, and to make sure you don’t keep buying excess food that you will have to throw away later and feel bad about. Try out a new and simpler lifestyle this year and observe if it has a positive effect on your personality and general outlook in life.

11. Stop putting up with a work environment that makes you feel unimportant, a place that keeps implying that you don’t really matter, a place that keeps ignoring your voice, and a place that treats you like a disposable commodity instead of an actual human being.

12. Stop putting up with a life where you’re constantly on autopilot- where you wake up like a zombie every morning and go to work with zero emotions, where you prefer to play on your phone instead of enjoying an actual conversation when you’re out with friends, where you actually think long and hard before saying anything that’s actually in your heart. It’s time to allow yourself to relax, to start being truly present, and to make the best out of every moment in your life.

13. Stop putting up with toxic social situations. If you get invited to a lunch with people who you know are extremely judgmental and gossipy, people who have more interest in other’s lives than their own, and people who can never be true to you or to anyone else, then don’t force yourself to go out of obligation. Decline their offer politely and if that’s not possible for some reason, just make an appearance and leave after an hour max. You are not obligated to keep giving more of your time and energy to people who don’t deserve them.

14. Stop putting up with being the person who is just an ‘okay’ friend to others. If a friend is in a bad place in their life where they just can’t seem to find a reason to smile, then show up to their place with some ice cream and don’t leave them alone to their thoughts until you feel like they’re ready. If your friend is doing something you don’t approve of, try to understand their reasons behind it without immediately judging them or writing them off. If your friend has done something wrong to you, give them a chance to explain and if they actually apologize, forgive them. Just remember that most of the awful things a friend has done to you, you probably did them to someone else once.

15. Stop putting up with always placing a mediocre effort into everything you do. Life isn’t just about doing the bare minimum- showing up to your job and waiting for the evening to go home instead of actually working hard to give back to your organization, or studying just enough to get a passing grade instead of working to achieve your full potential. Keep challenging yourself. Keep forcing yourself to grow. And keep working towards becoming the best possible version of yourself.

16. Stop putting up with always maintaining a negative attitude about things in your life that aren’t actually that bad or negative. If your professor didn’t give you the marks you were hoping for in a paper you worked hard on, go and talk to him about how you can do things differently next time. If someone at office was rude to you, understand that they might be going through a rough day and then just forget about it. If it’s extremely hot outside, remind yourself about how lucky you are to be sitting in an air-conditioned room with a roof above your head. If the traffic is really terrible, appreciate how this is one of the uncommon times when you really have nothing else to do but think freely about yourself and your life.

17. Stop putting up with the thought that happiness is some kind of end goal to achieve in life instead of a constant state of being. You can keep running after that promotion you always wanted but once you get it, you’ll just start looking for a higher post to achieve. You can keep pursuing that girl you always wanted to date but once she finally says yes and enters into a normal relationship with you, things will start to feel pretty ordinary instead of being as exciting as they once looked. You can keep trying to grab some fame, power or general praise in life but at what point will you finally feel like it’s enough? At one point or the other, you need to accept the fact that if you continue chasing things in life, you will just keep coming up with something new and better that you NEED to have. But if you actually focus on the sheer joy of being, you will have a much easier time discovering some real happiness. Happiness is right there with you. You just have to stop for a minute and start feeling it.

7 things girls do after a breakup

What do you do after a breakup?

Well, breakups aren’t all that easy. If you’ve been with someone long enough, you get habitual of them. Their absence starts to make you desperate. The memories start to haunt you and there is this perpetual pain that never ceases to end, but it’ll pass, trust me. Everything is temporary, if happiness can be severed by time, so can pain.

Some of these behaviours are shown by girls after a breakup and some of them are actually really crazy but desperation has always been ugly and when someone doesn’t want you as much as you want them, you end up doing stuff which will be quite ridiculous to you in the imminent future. Nonetheless, you have to pass this phase and just laugh it off when you’re past it.

Here are some things girls do after a breakup.

  1. Stalking

In the age of social media, instead of driving around their home or perusing their every action like a creep, people tend to take the help of social media for this special stealthy task. If they have blocked you, you might even ask your friend for their account so you can just check what they’re up to. Whatever the case may be, it’s actually pretty fun. You’re dying from the inside but still misery is sometimes funny. No judgments here, I just have a crooked sense of humour.

  1. Visit Old spots

Do you ever just pass by an old hangout spot and kind of break inside for a couple of minutes? I know how it feels. Girls tend to visit rooftops where they just gazed at the stars and held hands with him in the dimming light of the moon. It can be any place; a garbage dump can become memorable if you’ve shared a moment with someone special there.

  1. Getting their drink on

We underestimate the power of a couple of drinks. Throw up and do crazy stuff and say ridiculous man-hating things, well that’s part of the fun. This is actually quite an essential thing to do after a breakup because sometimes all those emotions need some numbing. What better way to do that than to get out of hand in a bar and make a scene?

  1. Listens to crappy love songs

Love songs, ah this is really cliché. Music has a way to touch your soul and listening to your favourite playlist and just lying there idle in your bed for hours and shedding a few tears depending upon the enormity of your breakup, it’s all part and parcel of a breakup. You don’t want to get out of your bed and face the world because you find everything cringe-worthy. Here’s where your best friends come in and drag you out to this messed up world.

  1. Gossiping about the ‘Horrible’ Ex

Well, if the guy really treated a girl badly, then she will not hold back much after the breakup. You will find a confidant or sometimes, the desperation gets the best of you and you just tell everyone what kind of an a**hole the guy was. You even end up telling their bad toilet habits, sometimes. Even if it makes the other person awkward, you just want to let it out.

  1. Binge-watching

When the whole world seems like a corrupt place, where do you find solace? Well, in your favorite TV shows or movies. You just binge watch them for hours just to keep yourself busy and pass the time and it is quite helping because some shows like Game of Thrones and The Walking Dead have the power to get your ex out of your head for some time. They are just that good. It’s 3 am and you’re on the verge of closing your eyes but you’re so hooked that you just want to squeeze in one more episode before you doze off. I surely wouldn’t blame you as I am guilty of the same habits.

  1. Just take the car Keys and go on a long drive

“No longer to be poisoned by civilization, she flees, and walks alone upon the land to become lost in the wild.”

Sometimes, things become so horrible and every part of your body aches so much that you just want to run away from everything and take a trip into oblivion. A place where there’s no one, just you and nature. So, what do you do? You just take your car keys and go for a long drive. There’s no destination in your mind, you’re just a wanderer finding a place which will give meaning to your condition. It might be a couple of miles away or in another city. You have no clue about anything but you’re still driving on.

Here’s Which Disney Heroine You’re Most Like, Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

ISTP

Meg from Hercules 

Hercules

Independent. Stubborn. Savvy. Cool. Witty.

“I’m a damsel. I’m in distress. I can handle this. Have a nice day.”

ESTP

Merida from Brave

Brave

Adventurous. Quick. Daring. Open. Competitive.

“There are those who say fate is something beyond our command. That destiny is not our own, but I know better.”

INTP

Alice from Alice in Wonderland

Alice in Wonderland

Inquisitive. Skeptical. Absent-minded. Bright. Rational.

“It would be so nice if something would make sense for a change.”

ENTP

Jane from Tarzan

Tarzan

Insightful. Innovative. Charismatic. Sharp. Bold.

“Oh, Tarzan, you have no idea what’s in store for you. You’re going to see the world, and all kinds of people will want to meet you. Leaders, scientists, writers.”

INFP

Belle from Beauty and the Beast

Beauty and the Beast

Imaginative. Dreamy. Curious. Brave. Sensitive.

“And for once it might be grand to have someone understand.
I want so much more than they’ve got planned.”

ENFP

Rapunzel from Tangled

Tangled

Enthusiastic. Quirky. Adaptable. Funny. Intuitive.

“I’ve been looking out of a window for eighteen years, dreaming about what I might feel like when those lights rise in the sky. What if it’s not everything I dreamed it would be?”

ISFP

Mulan from Mulan

Mulan

Observant. Modest. Altruistic. Idealistic. Shy.

“With all due respect, Your Excellency, I think I’ve been away from home long enough.”

ESFP

Ariel from The Little Mermaid

The Little Mermaid

Energetic. Excitable. Sincere. Outgoing. Charming.

“I just don’t see things the way he does. I just don’t see how a world that makes such wonderful things could be bad.”

ISFJ

Tiana from The Princess and the Frog

The Princess and the Frog

Loyal. Generous. Dedicated. Determined. Conscientious.

“There’s been tribes and tribulations. You know I’ve had my share, but I’ve climbed the mountain, I’ve crossed the river, and I’m almost there!”

ESFJ

Cinderella from Cinderella

Cinderella

Affable. Exuberant. Patient. Loving. Plucky.

“Oh, well. What’s a royal ball? After all, I suppose it would be frightfully dull, and-and-and boring, and-and completely… Completely wonderful.”

ISTJ

Elsa from Frozen

Frozen

Diligent. Frank. Reserved. Straightforward. Thoughtful.

“You can’t marry a man you just met.”

ESTJ

Nala from The Lion King

The Lion King

Efficient. Responsible. Persistent. Fair. Honest.

“What’s happened to you? You’re not the Simba I remember.”

INTJ

Jasmine from Aladdin

Aladdin

Dynamic. Calm. Ambitious. Collected. Complex.

“How dare you? All of you! Standing around deciding my future? I am not a prize to be won!”

ENTJ

Princess Kida from Atlantis

Atlantis

Fearless. Assertive. Organized. Dignified. Pioneering.

“You are a scholar, are you not? Judging from your diminished physique and large forehead, you are suited for nothing else!”

INFJ

Pocahontas from Pocahontas

Pocahontas

Reflective. Gentle. Intellectual. Emphatic. Diplomatic.

“Look around you. This is where the path of hatred has brought us. This is the path I choose, Father. What will yours be?”

ENFJ

Esmerelda from The Hunchback of Notre Dame

The Hunchback of Notre Dame

Courageous. Just. Selfless. Compassionate. Mature.

“You mistreat this poor boy the same way you mistreat my people. You speak of justice, yet you are cruel to those most in need of your help.”

The Four Steps You Need To Get A Date With Any Myers-Briggs Personality Type

4 steps to getting on a date
Master of None

ISFJ

1. Make it seem like you don’t have time for relationships because you’re too busy saving the world.
2. Ask an ISFJ how normal people even have time to eat.
3. Ask an ISFJ if they’re free for a date because you need to be somewhere right now but you need help figuring out how to take care of yourself.
4. An ISFJ will meet you anytime at your convenience (so you better bring some stories about the orphans you’re saving).

INFJ

1. Make yourself seem like damaged goods with a complicated backstory.
2. Ask an INFJ what a normal family looks like.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date to psychoanalyze your relationship with your parents because you have no idea who you even are anymore.
4. They will meet you with open ears and a tissue box (so you better bring some childhood wounds).

ISFP

1. Make yourself seem free-spirited and mysterious AF.
2. Ask them if they know about your super obscure hobby
3. Ask if they’re free for a date to discuss it because you need help figuring it out and you want a second opinion on it.
4. An ISFP will meet you with an explosion of ideas (so you better take pics of your bajillion side hobbies so they can be your conversation-starters).

INFP

1. Make yourself seem like you have a lot of emotional baggage that you can’t share with just ANYONE.
2. Ask an INFP if they’ve ever had their heart broken before.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you want to explore your thoughts and feelings with them.
4. An INFP will meet you with tears that will pour on-cue (so you better bring some deep scars for your dinner date).

INTJ

1. Make yourself seem like you’re in your own world
2. Ask for their opinion on a very very complicated and multi-faceted topic and low-key ask what they’re doing next weekend.
3. Ask an INTJ to meet you next Saturday because they just said they’re free next Saturday so since both of you are free, both of you should just meet up for dinner. 😉
4. An INTJ will meet you with lots of skepticism (so you better bring some interesting insights into philosophy, science, or politics),

ISTJ

1. Make yourself seem normal but with a little spontaneity.
2. Ask them for their opinion on food,
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because everybody needs to eat food and both of you are people, right? 😉
4. An ISTJ will meet you with a list of food places you should try out (so you better bring an appetite and a half).

ISTP

1. Make yourself look sexy AF.
2. Ask them for their opinion on sex.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you heard that sky-diving is usually done in pairs and you need a second person.
4. An ISTP will meet you there—as your sky-diving instructor and partner (so you better bring a copy of your will in case it goes south).

INTP

1. Make yourself not-wallpaper.
2. Ask for their opinion on a hotly debated topic in math/physics/science.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date sometime Sunday to Sunday. If they’re not free that week, keep asking and keep asking and keep asking until they agree.
4. An INTP will meet you with lots of reminders on your part about the date (so you better be prepared for some abstract conversation).

ESTJ

1. Make yourself as submissive as possible.
2. Ask them why they’re always so right about everything.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date so they can give you some pointers on how to do everything in your life better.
4. ESTJ will meet you with a thick stack of notes (so you better be prepared to make some huge life changes).

ENTJ

1. Make yourself seem PERFECT AF.
2. Ask about how they weigh pros and cons in an investment situation.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because one little date is a super low-investment which can lead to a very high reward. 😉
4. An ENTJ will meet you with a dating questionnaire for you to fill out (so you better study for the test 3 days in advance).

ESFJ

1. Make it seem like you have your shit together.
2. Ask them how people always seem to have their shit together because you certainly don’t.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you have trouble taking care of yourself since you’re so busy being successful.
4. An ESFJ will meet you with a bullet journal to help you organize your life (so you better be ready for ESFJ to move in).

ESTP

1. Make yourself look easily amused by everything.
2. Ask them for their opinion on LITERALLY ANYTHING and nod.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you don’t know how to do that thing that they know how to do and you want them to help you.
4. An ESTP will meet you with lots of tips on how to help you out (so you better look like you have no idea what you’re doing).

ENTP

1. Make yourself visible (no strobe lights please).
2. Ask them for their opinion on a hotly debated topic in politics.
3. Ask an ENTP if they’re free for a date and tell them that according to the Schrödinger’s cat experiment, there’s already a version of them that has already accepted and rejected the date so it’s up to ENTP to decide which reality they want.
4. An ENTP will meet you on a whim (so you better come prepared with some strong arguments and points).

ENFJ

1. Make yourself seem like you have a troubled past.
2. Ask if they’ve ever wished they could go back in time to change their past.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you want to try being more open to people this time around and ENFJ might be able to help.
4. An ENFJ will meet you at any time or place with lots of questions (so you better bring a deeply moving backstory and eye drops for tears)

ENFP

1. Make yourself seem like a challenge.
2. Ask how a recent event has been affecting them.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you happen to be free next Saturday and you want to chill with someone interesting for a change.
4. An ENFP will meet you at the WRONG PLACE (so you better schedule the reservation for 7pm even though you told them to meet at 6pm).

ESFP

1. Make yourself look sexy and available.
2. Ask them nothing, just wait for an ESFP to come to you.
3. Ask if they’re free for a date because you heard that they were a good dinner date and you wanted to experience it for yourself.
4. An ESFP will meet you either with NO MONEY or ALL THE MONEY (so be prepared for either option .. and also the option that a 3rd person may up end up paying for all the food).

30 Things That Introverts Wish You Knew About Them

30 Things That Introverts Wish You Knew About Them
Alexandru Zdrobău
Found on AskReddit.

1. ‘Nothing planned’ means I plan to do nothing.

“Nothing planned =/= I’m free to hang out.

It means I plan to do nothing.”

nagol93


2. I’m perfectly happy being alone.

“I’m perfectly happy being alone. Don’t try to convince me otherwise.”

rscottyb86


3. Don’t ever ask me why I’m quiet; it will make me quieter.

“Don’t ever ask me why I’m quiet or remark on how quiet I am. I know I’m quiet and the awkwardness of your question will make me even quieter.”

GreyGardens88


4. I look bored because I AM BORED.

“I look bored because I AM BORED. I don’t know anything about the topics being discussed, so I haven’t done any prep work for the conversation. I’m sitting at a table listening to you all yuk it up about something I know nothing about, and can’t contribute to the dialogue meaningfully. That’s why I look like I want to go home. You are draining my fucking batteries and nothing is happening.”

Dan_Fendi


5. Getting me drunk won’t make me an extrovert.

“Getting me drunk won’t make me an extrovert; it’ll just make me a drunk introvert.”

Barack-YoMama


6. I know that you rest, relax, and recharge through interaction with others; I don’t.

“Being introverted doesn’t mean that I never want to socialize; it just means that I rest, relax, and recharge when I’m by myself. I know that you rest, relax, and recharge through interaction with others; I don’t.

I’m happy to join you on social occasions, but I’m going to tire quickly and need somewhere quiet to retreat to.

Also, when I retreat to my study during a social occasion, it’s not because I think you don’t want me around and need you to ‘make me feel comfortable.’ Please do NOT follow me.”

Werrf


7. Being an introvert is not some kind of personality flaw that needs to be fixed.

“Being an introvert is not some kind of personality flaw that needs to be fixed.

I dated a guy very briefly who treated my introversion like it was a disease. He would constantly say things like, ‘My dad and brother are introverts. I’ve dealt with it my whole life and I’m not going to stand for it anymore!’ Uh, sorry you feel I’m inherently flawed because I don’t feel the need to ‘open up’ when I literally have nothing to open up about…?”

hagther


8. Don’t show up to my house uninvited.

“Please please please do not show up to my house without an invite…or at least giving me some warning.”

Cptn_Canada


9. I don’t always feel like talking.

“I’m not being rude. I just don’t always feel like talking.”

redneckotaku


10. Just because I’m sitting quietly doesn’t mean I’m bored or upset.

“Just because I’m sitting quietly doesn’t mean I’m bored or upset. In fact, that’s probably one of my happiest moments.

This is also (especially!!!) true if I’m reading! I am not bored. I am EXTREMELY happy…please leave me alone.”

bookwormlou


11. If I disappear at a party, I’m recharging.

“If I disappear for a while at a party to go to the bathroom, I’m not pooping. I’m gathering myself to go back out to all those people.”

dont_spank_the_pizza


12. Please give advance notice if you want me to go anywhere.

“For the love of God please give advance notice if you want me to go anywhere.

A spur-of-the-moment invite to a party is my worst nightmare, but if you give me a few days heads up that you’re having people over, I can probably persuade myself into going.”

peanutbuttersucks


13. It’s okay to be in a room with someone else without constantly talking.

“It’s okay to be in a room with someone else without constantly talking. I promise.”

Kay_Elle


14. Quit extending this ‘business meeting’ until the wee hours.

“I would like them to know that after a full day of meetings with you and your team, that it is not cool to then schedule a dinner at 7 PM. And at the conclusion of that dinner, suggesting to go out for drinks is just torture.

We get it, you get all jazzed up by being with people. There are plenty of people in the world. It doesn’t have to be me.”

remarqer


15. We WANT to be included, but we find it difficult to get involved.

“A lot of the time, we WANT to be included, but we find it difficult to get involved. A friendly invitation would do a lot to help us out.”

DastardlyDan


16. It takes me a while to warm up to new people.

“I’m not a bitch just because I’m not super-friendly right off the bat. It takes me a while to warm up to new people.”

myotheroneders


17. We need to be home and mostly alone to recharge.

“That we’re not lazy. We love going out and being social, but we need to be home and (mostly) alone to recharge. We can’t spend all day, every day out with people.

The next time one of your introvert friends says he doesn’t want to go out, don’t force him. He needs to recharge his mind because you people are mentally tiring to us.”

__celli


18. Please don’t mock the things I do to relax after a stressful day of dealing with you.

“Please don’t mock the things I do to relax after a stressful day of dealing with you.”

moronicuniform


19. We can actually feel good when we are left alone.

“That we can actually feel good when we are left alone, or with fewer people around.”

pink4ever4u


20. Recharging is a BIG deal.

“Recharging is a BIG deal. No matter how much I like hanging with someone, I think sometimes people take it personally when I decline an offer to hang out. If I have a guest crashing for a few days, some of those days I may spend alone in my room just resting from mental exertion. Thankfully my close friends understand this. This is usually a problem when I first meet people and they want to go and do this or that all the time so they prob think I’m a flake or just don’t like them…I’m also not the best at keeping friendships ‘watered’ (i.e., texting for fun, chatting on the phone much) but I do welcome the exchange when I have the energy for it.”

beekay6192


21. I need ‘me’ time; don’t take it personally.

“I am an introvert, at least according to my Myers-Briggs analysis (ISTP). This doesn’t mean that I am bad at social interactions, or don’t enjoy them, or am a loner. I enjoy spending time with friends—in moderation. I enjoy social gatherings—in moderation. I love spending time with my wife (an ENFJ) and toddler, but even that requires some bit of moderation as well. However, to recharge my batteries, per se, I need me time. Not even me and my wife time, but just me time. Some people use time with friends, family, or others to recharge their batteries; I am the opposite. To me, this is what being an introvert means.”

razobak09


22. We have a limit of social interaction, at which point we need to break and hit the reset button.

“Introverts can be extremely social for a period of time. We’re not all socially awkward, shut-ins, hermits, or rude.

We can be performers, musicians, and public figures; we can be showmen, salesmen, and anything else requiring periods of extreme sociality or being the focus of a crowd. We can even feed off of the energy of a crowd like extroverts do.

What we can’t do is run on that energy forever like extroverts. We need time to decompress, spent alone or with people we’re really close to, so we can recharge and reorganize our headspace. A crowd might give you a little kick, but you’re still being discharged.

Extroverts can keep feeding off of people’s social energy, or a crowd’s focused energy, for a long time; introverts have a limit at which they need to break from that and hit the reset button.”

era–vulgaris


23. STOP GUILT-TRIPPING US TO GO OUT TO EVENTS.

“STOP GUILT-TRIPPING US TO GO OUT TO EVENTS. I have bad anxiety days and sometimes just want to be at home, comfortable, and doing my own thing. I also feel guilt to the extreme. I hate when people keep pushing me to go even though I honestly say no, I really don’t want to do that. Guilt-tripping sucks.”

pandagirl420_69


24. I need alone time. It’s seriously nothing against you.

“I need alone time. It’s seriously nothing against you. But I need to be able to breathe and that’s how I breathe. Guilt-tripping me into coming out will only make me more uncomfortable and less likely to willingly come out next time.”

jmd10of14


25. If I’m not talking, don’t ask me if I’m OK.

“Being introverted doesn’t mean I don’t like to talk or be social and I can be ‘on’ just as much as an extrovert. I’m quite chatty and I don’t have a problem talking to people and making conversation. It comes quite naturally to me. I like to go out to parties, to social gatherings, to clubs, but I also like to just sit by myself and not have to talk at all. I like my alone time and my quiet time.

I hate it when people ask me if I’m OK when I’m not talking in a group of people. I’m OK but if I wasn’t OK, I wouldn’t want someone to ask me in front of everyone like that.”

crowdedinhere


26. Strangers don’t owe you a listening ear when you’re feeling chatty.

“Extroverts don’t understand how frustrating their over-proximity is. If someone isn’t engaging you, fucking leave them alone. At work, there’s this guy who is constantly trying to make conversation, but I’m busy. He never takes my cues, and what can you say to someone that doesn’t come off as rude or dismissive? This is extremely stressful. I’m not an asshole, but trying to remove myself from conversations I don’t want to have often makes me feel like an asshole. I don’t want to talk to fucking anyone at the gym. Ever. But when people try to chat with me, same thing. They don’t pick up on cues like me giving one-word answers, not making eye contact, and even wearing headphones.

It’s fucked up to make someone else feel like the bad guy for not engaging with you. It’s overbearing, and strangers don’t owe you a listening ear when you’re feeling chatty.”

BreakfastLover92


27. I don’t need a rich social life.

“We’re not all socially inept people rationalizing a separate anxiety disorder through low levels of social openness. Some of your best friends might be introverts and you’d never know it because we are completely normal.

I’m as introvert as they come. I can, and have, gone weeks, one time months, without being in the same room with any of my friends and never once felt lonely or that my friends hated me. Then, I got invited to a party, went to the party got a bunch of ‘I haven’t seen you in so long, what have you been up to?’ Since then I’ve had a healthy social life again, and usually hang out with somebody once a week and a large group of people twice a month.

I’ve come to realize that, while I have a rich social life (and I am very glad I have it), it’s not a need for me. If people don’t invite me to do things and I never seek them out, but still care for them and think fondly of them in my life all the same. I am still an ‘introvert’ and I’ll do marathon runs after neglecting some friends for too long, but being too social usually burns me out way faster than I plan for, and an inability to include all the people I care for in my life has lost me some friends.”

ereg


28. I just desperately need to recharge after being professionally social in an office all day long.

“I don’t hate you, or people, or being social. I just desperately need to recharge after being professionally social in an office all day long.

If you cart me around all over the place and bully me into being social, I will have a 2-3 week recovery period. That’s just the way it is.”

theredgoldlady


29. Small talk is pointless and energy-consuming.

Small talk is pointless and energy-consuming. I’d rather talk about important crap, thank you very much.”

RoyalAlchemistYT


30. I love solitude just like you love socializing.

“Garrulity. I will indulge in your inclination for socializing if you’ll also take into consideration my love of solitude. Sometimes I like to sit in companionable silence without incessant chattering that extroverts seem to require as ambiance before they can relax.

It’s not effrontery to want to be alone for a few hours after university; that’s how I unwind. I’m not deliberately ignoring you, I just don’t like to be engrossed in my phone in every minute of leisure time we have.

Designated socializing is better for me; I’m perfectly affable then. Extroverts are too fluid in their interaction times. It’s baffling how after university they go to reinvigorate at a club or local bar.”

Why People Will Fall In Love With You This Fall, Based On Your Personality Type

Pablo Heimplatz

Hi friends, to play this game we all need to take the Myers Briggs personality test I promise it will be worth it, or at least entertaining.

There are 4 types of personality groups: Diplomats, Analysts, Sentinels, finally but definitely not least the Explorers. The Diplomats are the dreamers, the Analysts are the thinkers, the Sentinels please everyone, and the Explorers live to “seize the day”. We are also divided by the personality code. The personality code reads like so, I for introversion or E for extroversion, N for intuition or S for sensing, T for thinking or F for feeling, J for judging or P for perceiving.

ENFP– Campaigner – Diplomat

Daydream Believer

Falling in love with you is like falling in love with a fantasy. They will fall in love with your dreamer aura. Your partner will find themselves taking risks with you, but they will not feel on edge.

They will feel like they are chasing their dream with someone who supports them completely. They will find comfort and adventure with you, something that they never thought was possible before.

You have a contagious charm, you make them feel like a changed person effortlessly.

ESFP- Entertainer – Explorer

Time Of Your Life

You live your best life and when anyone is around you, they live their best life too. In true Explorer nature you live to “seize the day”. ESFP’s truly show us the utter importance of making the most out of our time.

If today was our last day, I would want to live it like an ESFP. Whether they are jumping off a plane with you or just getting day drinks- they can make anything seem exciting. You will always feel on top of the world with them, no matter what you are doing.

No other personality type is as generous and energetic with their time. ESFP’s enjoy taking “centre stage” even if they are exhausted, they will not be happy unless you are having the best time with them.They also will not be happy if they do not have your attention. ESFP’s love being your “favourite”!

INTP- Logician – Analyst

Quality Over Quantity

If you are so lucky that an INTP is interested in you, you should count your blessings now. They are extremely selective people. INTP’s greatly believe in quality over quantity.
They rarely take interest in people and they rarely pursue people, but when they do you know they are in it for the long haul. They believe in doing everything they can for their partner.

Analysts are known to be the “Thinkers” of the personality type. INTP may overthink about everything imaginable, but they never had their doubts about you. INTP’s can seem selfish, because they are so wrapped up on their own personal projects, careers, studies, or passions, but that doesn’t mean they do not care about you. They just get too focused on one thing sometimes. INTP’s have not forgotten about you, they just like putting their full attention in everything they do. Therefore they are very selective, but they have chosen you for a reason.

ESFJ- Consul – Sentinel

Your Cheerleader

ESFJ values social validation more than any other personality type. There will not be a moment where you do not feel appreciated with an ESFJ. They will be at every game with pom poms. ESFJ will plan you a surprise party for your birthday. They will not miss a family holiday and they have already planned your matching costumes for Halloween.

ESFJ’s are natural people pleasers, they could never be happy if you are not. ESFJ’s strongly believe in family and tradition. This is your girl next door white picket fence fantasy.You will fall in love with the life they give you. You never dreamed normal could feel so perfect.

INFP – Mediator – Diplomat

Your Soulmate

INFP’s are magical creatures, we are surprised/thankful you are not extinct by now. In a world filled with doubt they bring you hope. They still believe in falling in love the right way. They believe in soulmates and the perfect partner. INFP’s teaches you not to settle, because true love will never let you down.

INFP’s believe in working together. They are here to “complete you”. If an INFP does not feel like they are a “better” person with you, then you are simply not the one for them. INFP’s love is strong, but their standards are stronger.

ESTP- Entrepreneur – Explorer

Your Psychic

ESTP you kinda scare us and turn us on at the same time? Please stop, turn it off! How do you always know what we are thinking? I swear you are reading the diary we have not even wrote yet.

ESTP’s (like most Explorer types) really know how to get us out of our comfort zone. Explorer types have this insane talent of pushing us and supporting us at the same time.

We throw caution at the wind when we are with you, you make everything seem so exciting …yet calming. You know when to bring us up and when to calm us down. ESTP’s have an incredible knack for reading people. They know when you have fallen in love with them, before you even have.

ENTP- Debater – Analyst

Self- Improvement

ENTP’s are the definition of overachiever. They will make you the better person you never thought you were capable of being. ENTP’s do not live their life day to day. They live their life goal to goal and their partner is a part of that. ENTP’s only want greatness, you will fall in love with their motivation.

ISFJ – Defender – Consul

Rose- Coloured Glasses

You live in a world filled with compliments and cheer. You only know how to say yes and thank you. No is never in your vocabulary. You would break your own back to help us out, but you would never take the credit for it.
Your selflessness is beyond admirable. ISFJ you are the type of person that make this world better.

We fall in love with your beautiful sunny disposition and positive attitude. ISFJ truly live by the rule “ Treat others they way you want to be treated”.

ENFJ- Protagonist – Diplomat

Your Reliability

ENFJ without a doubt in our mind- we know you are there for us. You always put not only your partner first, but really everyone else around you. Your intuitive nature makes you beyond understanding. Although unlike other supportive types, ENFJ is still an extrovert and enjoys taking on a leadership role. Most people are not capable of being as giving and as inspiring as an ENFJ.

Although ENFJ’s hands are often full, they never stop. No matter how busy they are, they will always find the time to help. ENFJ is your one phone call. They are the person you can call in the middle of the night to pick you up, no questions asked.

ISFP – Adventurer – Explorer

Mysterious Brooding Type

You got that bad boy dying to be good charm. No one can really read you and that is the true beauty to you. Falling in love with ISFP is like falling love with a puzzle. It is hard work, but always rewarding. You have no idea how it is going to turn out. There are days where you give up, however you always come back to it. ISFP leaves you with burning curiosity. You can’t sleep, you can’t eat kind of love.

The end result is never what you thought it would be… it’s better.

ENTJ – Commander – Analyst

Pushing Your Buttons (in all the right ways…)

ENTJ’s like control they like to dominate and trust me you will feel that with them. Although ENTJ’s like being in the driver seat, they also can be surprisingly supportive. Like most Analyst types they strive for greatness more than others. This does not fall short in their love life. ENTJ run in the fast lane and to be with them you must keep up.

ENTJ’s enjoy a good project. They find personal satisfaction in moulding others. ENTJ are extremely growth- oriented, they need their partner to grow with them. ENTJ’s will push you to your breaking point- sometimes you will hate them for it, but in the end you will always be grateful. Remember bossiness was a part of their charm, this why you fell in love with them.

ISTJ – Logistician – Sentinel

Slow And Steady Wins The Race

ISTJ’s may not be love at first sight, because they are way too rationale to ever believe in that. You may not fall head over heels for them right away, because their love takes time. Like all good things in the world, you must wait for it. ISTJ teaches you that love is patient, love is kind.

ISTJ’s believe in talking things out, they do not like to repress their emotions or hold back. Honesty is truly the best policy for them. If it is not true…it won’t work for them. ISTJ teaches you how to truly love yourself, before you can fall in love with someone else.

INFJ – Advocate – Diplomat

Deep Waters Ahead

If you are looking for “just fun” or someone to pass the time with, do not bother with an INFJ. INFJ is the most rare personality type, holding less than 1{67b9dc46c2005a2d6d0dc9e883ab6bdb9c47365a25e8ad24adf59fc11de2db4a} of the population. INFJ’s are not here for shallow relationships.
They are here for a good time and a long time. INFJ thrive on personal connections. They will not bother if they do not see a future with you. INFJ’s are that old soul trapped in the social media obsessed millennial world.

INFJ’s are the ones that give you meaning, when you have lost all purpose.

ISTP- Virtuoso – Explorer

Serendipity

In true Explorer nature nothing can be planned with an ISTP. Everything must feel completely natural for it to fall into place. Explorer types are big believers in destiny and fate. You will fall in love with an ISTP when you never saw it coming, because that is what falling in love is. Finding something you were never looking for and letting it change you.

ISTP is the love that changes you no questions asked. You have to allow yourself to overcome that fear, to reap the reward. This is a love where the stars are aligned for you- it was meant to be, because ISTP’s do not fall into the traditional love story. ISTP’s do not really fall into anything, they are rule breakers full heartedly. If they fall in love with you it is genuine, because they are the type to run away from commitment not chase it.

INTJ – Architect – Analyst

Breaking The Mould

Seriously INTJ’s are good at everything…it is kind of creepy. Anything they touch turns to gold, but a relationship could be the exception to this INTJ midas touch.

In true Analyst nature, they analyze and over plan everything to the core, but that is the thing about love it can not be planned. Love is not something you fit into your agenda. It is supposed to be exciting, it is supposed to change you in the best way possible. It is supposed to happen with someone you never planned with.

INTJ’s are truly a rare bred, because they are blessed with the creative soul and the hard working bone. Those two traits are not usually seen put together often. Most artists types can not make a decision to save their lives, but INTJ’s truly break the mould. Their unique imagination and strong work ethic, make them stand out from the crowd.

ESTJ- Executive- Sentinel

What You See, Is What You Get

ESTJ are one of the most up front personality types. They hate secrets. ESTJ believe in nipping things in the bud. They are not known for bottling up feelings or letting things snowball.

ESTJ knows it is the little things in life that matter. From the start you will not be playing games. An ESTJ will tell you what they want, how they want, and in what order.

ESTJ proves the difference between “wanting” and “needing” someone. Their OCD can be a tad much, but at the end of the day we appreciate you for it. You bring us order in a world of chaos, we would be lost without you. I am sorry in advance, if we do not say thank you enough.

In A World That Can’t Stop Talking, Here Are 5 Reasons Why You Should Be Happy You’re An Introvert

Paola Chaaya

I struggled with personality identity for the longest time. You see, the thing is, I didn’t even know I was an introvert. I never really thought about it. However, I found myself trying too hard to fit into situations other people would term as normal. For example, I would go out to a night club and get bored within the first hour. I would attend social events and instead of interacting with others, end up with my friend (also an introvert) at a corner chatting between ourselves.

I would prefer to have weekends in as opposed to hanging out with my friends.
All these things sound normal today, but I kept asking, why am I not like other people? Why can’t I just enjoy a day out? One time, an ex-boyfriend berated me for sitting by myself at a party he had organized, while his friends were laughing their hearts out in a group. He wasn’t happy with my ‘unfriendly’ nature and thought I felt that I was too good for his friends. The truth is, we had spent all day in the company of these friends and I was totally exhausted with human interaction. I really needed some time alone.

A few years ago, I came across Susan Cain’s book; Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. I may sound overly dramatic by saying this book changed my life, but it actually did. It changed my life in the sense that, I accepted my introversion and the benefits that came with this acceptance such as:

1. Brought understanding of introversion.

This well researched book explains how introverts are, why they behave the way they do, and most importantly, that it is okay to be an introvert. Susan Cain spent years interviewing people of different cultures and backgrounds and spent time with them to understand their personality. Being an introvert herself, she relates very well to the people she interviews and explains why she had to leave her career because it constantly clashed with her personality.

2. I got more comfortable with who I am.

When I read this book, I accepted how I am and no longer do I try so hard to be in situations I am not comfortable in. I got comfortable in my skin. I can happily leave a party, or choose a night or a weekend in without apologies, since time alone is really important for me. My further study of introversion led me to understanding the Myers-Briggs personality types (I am ISTP). Among other characteristics, this personality type ‘think’ more than they ‘feel’. These people can be termed as ‘cold’ a word which I was called more than once. While being termed as ‘cold’ used to offend me before, I now understand why I may appear ‘cold’ in some situations and I no longer take offense.

3. It changed my dating life.

In the past, I always dated extroverts. Don’t get me wrong, they are great people, but their outgoing nature and the need to be always around people was really emotionally draining for me. I always dreaded weekends where I would have to compromise and go out with my then boyfriend as opposed to cuddling on the couch watching or reading something.

Now, I am dating an introvert who loves the same things that I do and I have never been happier.

4. I claimed back my life.

Searching for an identity is a long, exhausting journey. At some point you actually lose yourself. After accepting my introversion and getting comfortable in doing what I love, I reclaimed my life such that I do things that please me, whether they looked or sounded socially acceptable or not. I began to read more and realized how much I had missed that. I began to take long drives on weekends as opposed to nights of partying and nursing a hangover the day after. I enjoying cooking in my kitchen while enjoying a glass of wine by myself (sometimes I cook so much food I have to give out some of it to neighbors).

5. I understood extroverts more.

The good thing with Susan Cain’s book is that it also mentions extroverts and why they behave the way they do. When my extroverted friends need to catch up, I ensure I am the best company at that moment (under the influence of some coffee or wine), then recline to my home after some time, having made a friend happy and myself; a win-win situation here.

Ranking The Myers-Briggs Personality Types By Who Loves The Most Unapologetically

mbti and loving unapologetically
@anniejanssen

1. ENFJ

Diplomat—Constantly Checking

ENFJs love honestly. They take relationships seriously and when they are in it, they are planning on staying for a while.

ENFJs are not one for hiding their emotions. They are definitely not the “play it cool” or “hard to get” type. They wear their heart on their sleeve and they are constantly showing their partner how much they care.

Even in the early stages of the relationships, ENFJs are constantly checking up on their partner. They are always asking them how they feel or if there is anything else they can do for them, and they truly mean this altruistically. ENFJs are always willing to do anything if it can make their partner happy. ENFJs are not about games; they always want to be on the same page.

2. ENFP

Diplomat—Hopelessly Devoted

ENFPs are the daydream believers that truly think “love can conquer all.” ENFPs are all about feeling and less about actual thought. This goes back to the F for feeling, over T for thinking. ENFPs think about the outcome, not necessarily the consequences.

ENFPs believe in that fairy tale happy ending, but they do not always register with reality. ENFPs are the most likely to be in a long distance relationship. Remember ENFPs are all about fantasy over reality. This distance “made the heart grow fonder.” They are the most willing to hold onto love. ENFPs are not one to give up. It literally has to blow up in their face for them to give up on you.

ENFPs still and always will have that hope for their love.

3. ESFJ

Sentinel—Cheerleader

ESFJs greatly value social validation more than any other personality type. They know a good compliment goes a long way. No other type is as supportive as an ESFJ. They stand very close to the status quo and traditions. ESFJ can be a bit old fashioned, but it is with good intention.

An ESFJ’s sense of self-worth is extremely important to them. They need constant attention, support, and validation. With that being said, it is most definitely not a one way street for ESFJ.

ESFJ always makes their partner feel like their best possible self. They almost worship their partner to an extent.

ESFJs are not one to hold onto to their pride. They show the whole world how proud they are of their partner every day. ESFJs are always Instagramming their boyfriend #mondaymancrush. They show off their love like a new Chanel bag, expensive but worth it #investment #qualityoverquantity.

4. ISFJ

Sentinel—Givers Not Takers

ISFJs are givers in every aspect of their life. They are always lending the extra hand and helping those in need. They need to be needed. ISFJs genuinely find it satisfying helping someone complete a task. They feel accomplished and proud by feeling helpful. Some people long to be desired—not ISFJ they long to feel needed not wanted.

ISFJ gives and gives, there is no limit to their generosity. However they must realize generosity does not make someone love you.

Being an introvert they are more reserved, however their reserved nature will not save them from heartbreak. The F for feeling over T for thinking still overrides their logic. While ISFJs are not the fools, rushing in type, when they have decided on their partner there is no telling what they are willing to do for them.

The feeling over thinking nature kicks in and they can get lost in heart over matter. Although this makes great emotional intelligence, there is a greater risk for heartbreak with the “feeling” type over the “thinking” type.

5. ISTJ

Sentinel—Pinky Promise

ISTJs are dependable by nature. Although they are more reserved( I for introversion over E for extroversion) when they do commit they love entirely.

ISTJs are not necessarily more selective because they are picky, moreso because they are shy. They simply feel more comfortable loving someone they know. Hence why ISTJs are more likely to date co-workers, schoolmates, or friends of friends.

Some people like the thrill and adventure of someone new. Whereas ISTJ is the complete opposite; they prefer the comfort in something they know.

ISTJs are very rationale. They are not the spur of the moment type. They believe in long-term goals and plans to make a relationship work. Although this may not seem like the most passionate relationship, it can definitely be a successful one. ISTJs may not always be about surprises, but they always keep their promises.<

6. ENTP

Analyst—You Jump, I Jump Jack

ENTPs are strong on improvement. If you are not making them a better person, then you are simply not the person for them. ENTPs believe in growing together. If you have a goal, please share it with your ENTP partner. They not only want to help you achieve your goals, but they want to be a part of your process.

ENTPs are that best friend you take everywhere. They are the little black dress that goes with everything. They are your everyday bag that fits everything you need. ENTPs are your gym partner, your study buddy, your beer pong partner, your travel companion, your everything.

This “learning self-improvement” experience, not only helps your self-growth, but it solidifies your relationship. That process, that experience, is now a part of “us”, not just a part of “you.” This is something you did together and it strengthens your bond.

7. INFJ

Diplomat—Soulmate

INFJ is not seeking for someone to simply pass the time with. They want something much more than companionship. They are only looking for someone who truly completes them. They are only interested in their soulmate.

INFJ is extremely picky, which is why they are not higher on the list, but when they finally find what they are searching for there is no limit to their love.

They love passionately and deeply. They do not just want a spark, they need a connection. INFJs are the furthest from fake. They can only love authentically.

They do not love often, but when they do you know it is genuine. They love with the their whole mind, body, and soul. Their partner is not only with them, but a part of them.

8. ESFP

Explorer—Here Today, Gone Tomorrow

ESFPs are on the fast track for everything in their life, especially their relationships. ESFPs are the people you are referring to when you say “love at first sight”. That is how quickly an ESFP moves. They are not one to doubt themselves, they are not indecisive. They know what they want, when they want it, and they know when they do not want you anymore too.

ESFP can get over someone as quickly as they got under them. Although they are warm and very caring, they can turn cold in a blink of an eye.

ESFPs are very open to love, yet with their Explorer nature they are not easily tied down. Explorer types to tend to flee with the first sight of trouble. Although ESFP has the ability to fall in love unapologetically with their whole heart, who knows how long they will actually stay in love.

9. INFP

Diplomat—Prized Possession

People are not prizes. INFPs are known for being the “dreamer” type. Although INFP is more than a hopeless romantic. They do not fantasize about their perfect partner, they try to create their perfect partner.

They look for a partner like they are shopping with a checklist. They create a “dream boy” in their head, and they are left disappointed when the real thing does not fit the fantasy perfectly.

INFPs are known for their moral compass and high standards however, they are limiting themselves with options. INFPs are capable of loving freely, however they do give their love away easily.

Although they are worth the effort, their love should not always feel like a mountain to climb. It does not always have to be a challenge for it to be rewarding.

10. ISFP

Explorer—Always Running For The Thrill Of It

A listener, not a talker. ISFPs are quite mysterious and it can be difficult for them to open up. ISFPs are Explorers which mean they are a very “go with the flow” type. However they do not like being told what to do. ISFPs need to feel accepted for who they are.

In true Explorer nature ISFPs live in the present. They may not always make great long term partners, but for now they are a lot of fun.

When an ISFP is falling for you, the gloves come off. In public they can act more reserved because of the I for introversion vs. E for extroversion. But behind closed doors there is a beast ready to be unleashed.

ISFP never runs out of ideas, thus you will always be entertained with them. The adventure becomes a competition to the ISFP, each date must be more exciting than the last. They live for the rush and constant need for thrill.

Just be careful and hope the only thing they want is new activities and not a new partner.

11. INTP

Analyst—The Idea Man

INTP bless their kind heart. They have all these ideas about love and relationships, however they are weak with actually coming through. Being an idea man they are filled with wonderful crazy thoughts, however their timidness holds them back. Again this is the I for introversion verse E for Extroversion playing its role. Their ideas can be great, but in true Analyst nature they overanalyze everything to death. They tend to second guess themselves, leading to overthinking and psyching themselves out.

Analysts are thorough in absolutely everything they do. Yet, they must remember they can not plan out love! The more they try to force it, the less natural it is. INTPs are perfectionists and they want everything to be just perfect, but love is anything but perfect. Love is supposed to be messy, unpredictable, and it is supposed to scare you. If it doesn’t it isn’t really love, it is just comfort.

12. ESTJ

Sentinel—Better Safe Than Sorry

It is no secret that ESTJ likes to be in charge. Even in the beginning of the dating phase, they command strict rules. Most Sentinel personalities prefer long term partners and ESTJ takes that rule to heart. ESTJ have extremely high standards and are very picky. When they finally do find someone they like/deem as worthy, you better believe they are holding onto them.

ESTJs are not about wasting time or getting hurt. They like to feel comfortable and they like familiarity. Although ESTJ may not be the wild bunch like Explorers they do enjoy having fun and spontaneity with their partner. They just like having fun with the right people. ESTJs can still be dangerous, they just need be with someone who makes them feel safe.

13. ENTJ

Analyst—In It To Win It

ENTJ may have a fun-loving spontaneous attitude, but do not let them fool you. They are not “going with the flow”, they are extremely calculated. ENTJ is here to make you fall in love with them.

They will be exciting, adventurous, and at the same time they will make you feel committed and safe. They are everything you never knew you wanted, because you didn’t notice but ENTJ is molding to be your type.

ENTJs are very goal-oriented, they not only go for what they want, but their want becomes their obsession. Yet you would never know what they are up to, they play their cool to a tee. They are the master of manipulation. When something or someone becomes their project they must succeed. ENTJs are here to win, they are not here just for fun.

Like most Analyst types, ENTJs are heavy on self-improvement and growth. Thus they will attempt to mold their partner into their image of their perfect person. They believe growing together will bring them closer. ENTJ shows their love for their partner with their goals and experiences they endure together. ENTJ loves to be on top and they need to be successful. Their partner must share or at least want to share these qualities as well with them.

ENTJs are very supportive; they love helping someone achieve a goal. However ENTJs are also extremely time-oriented. Meaning they know when to hit it and quit it, and when to put a ring on it. They know exactly when to hold on tight or when to give up on you.

14. ESTP

Explorer—Less Talking, Little More Action

In true Explorer nature, ESTPs prefer to act than speak. ESTPs can quickly jump into a physical relationship without much emotional remorse. They are very passionate.

As much as an ESTP can love a good debate, they prefer doing something over talking about. They would rather play the sport than watch it on tv.

While they have little restrictions with love, they also have little expectations. ESTPs are here for a day of fun in the sun. If it turns into something more? Great. If it doesn’t? No harm no foul.

15. INTJ

Analyst—Book Smarts, Not Street Smarts

In true Analyst form, they can achieve anything they pretty much set their mind to. However love is the one thing that we can not predict. It does not follow a formal or strict schedule. INTJs succeed with order, plan, and strategy yet the more calculated they become with dating the more they struggle.

INTJs are an extremely rare breed. They have the N for intuition for people reading, the T for thinking logic, and the I for introverted focus. Their only downfall is while their achievements speak volumes, their social skills may come off as “trying too hard.” The truth of the matter is if they learned to let go and live a little looser, everything would become a little bit easier. INTJs do not love as unapologetically because they are simply too calculated. It is not because they care the least—quite the opposite actually. They just have a poor way of expressing their emotions sometimes.

INTJs still treat love like like a game, rather than being themselves they’re playing as an opponent. They need to remember this is a team effort.

INTJs have mastered almost any skill possible they have put their mind to. However, sometimes the more effort you put in love, the less you get out of it.

16. ISTP

Explorer—This Love Is Difficult, But It’s Real

This love is anything but simple. ISTPs are all about the unknown. They dare to be different and they are extremely unpredictable. Which sounds just dandy when it is all fun and games. However it is not so fun when you are falling in love and you are not sure if they are going to catch you.

ISTPs are not the best at expressing their feelings openly. Mostly due to the fact they are constantly changing their mind. In true Explorer nature the jump from one thing/one person to the other.

It can be difficult confronting ISTPs about relationship problems. They absolutely hate anything that feels too forced. Meaning if you force “the what are we talk” on them, that is basically the kiss of the death. “What we are is over now.” Period no question mark needed.

ISTPs need their space like most of us need air. If they feel at all in any way suffocated or their partner is too “clingy” they will end it faster than you can say “check please”.

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