Apparently, Men Are Threatened by Smart Women, Because of Course They Are

Today in “Studies That Might As Well Have Been Conducted in 1955,” we have a soon-to-be-published report from the November issue of Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin concluding that when it comes to dating, men have a little bit of an issue with dating intelligent women.

The study found that while men are theoretically into the idea of dating intelligent women — you know, like, in a hypothetical dream world in which masculinity isn’t so fragile and threatened by the slightest displays of female power — in the reality of day-to-day life, they’d vastly prefer dating a woman who’s less intelligent than them.

Good job, guys! Good effort!

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Source: YouTube

Researchers from the University of Buffalo, California Lutheran University and University of Texas at Austin carried out several studies with 105 male participants who answered questions about what they find attractive in women. The questions originated from a set of hypothetical scenarios in which the researchers posited that some women performed better than men in English or math classes.

At first, the results were somewhat encouraging: The men “are attracted to women who are smarter than them when she is psychologically distant,” lead author Lora Park told Mic. The “psychologically distant” jargon in this context means that the men found the smart targets (i.e. women) attractive in the abstract, i.e. from a distance. Which is great. These men appreciated a girl with a brain. Awesome.

But now for the depressing twist! “Men show less attraction to a woman when she is psychologically near and outperforms him in the intellectual domain,” Park said. “Some preliminary evidence suggested that this was due to men feeling more threatened — in terms of feeling less masculine — after the woman outsmarted them when she was closer to him.”

In other words: All those smarts are actually a turnoff IRL, so, well, FML, #MasculinitySoFragile.

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Source: YouTube

This isn’t the first time research has reinforced the annoyingly gendered idea that men are easily threatened by female intelligence. A 2013 study determined that some straight men were uncomfortable with their female partners’ successes. “This research found evidence that men automatically interpret a partner’s success as their own failure,” lead researcher Kate Ratliff said. “Even when they’re not in direct competition.”

While intelligence and success are often not the same thing, both of these studies point to a general discomfort that some men have with women who wield any form of power or are in any way “superior” to them.

But it’s not all doom and gloom for women who unabashedly own their smarty-pants status! Earlier this year, professor David Bainbridge of the University of Cambridge determined that “the main thing that men are looking for is intelligence. Surveys have shown time and time again that this is the first thing that men look for,” he said.

Celebrities like George Clooney and Meek Mill have also come out in favor of dating strong, independent women. In an interview with Late Show host Stephen Colbert, Clooney joked he was the “arm candy” to his accomplished human rights lawyer wife Amal Clooney, adding that she was “a very serious person.” Clooney told Colbert he feels “shiny and pretty. That’s mostly what I do now.”

Meek Mill similarly praised his girlfriend Nicki Minaj’s smarts and ambition in an interview with GQtelling the magazine he was attracted to her because she was a “hustler” who was “doing [her] thing.” “People don’t really have a girlfriend that’s doing more than them or the same thing,” Mill told GQ, essentially summing up the position of the men polled in this study. “I like girls that hustle. She a boss. She’s pretty as fuck. Bad as shit. Ambitious. What else do you want?”

Source: Mic/GQ
Source: Mic/GQ

Hopefully as time goes on, the Meek Mills and the Clooneys of the world will increase exponentially. And as for men like the 105 men polled in this study? They’ll slowly become extinct, like the dodos they are.

I DO NOT DATE WOMAN WHO HAVE ANY OF THESE 15 RED FLAGS

 it’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.” -Bruce Lee 

The above is a quintessential Bruce Lee quote that I live by. In a world where busy is sexy and flaunted as a status symbol, we must channel fortitude in our everyday life to do less; particularly, when it comes to selecting women.

It’s near impossible to find quality LTR women nowadays. but being mindful of the points below, we eliminate a plethora of time-sucks and low quality mates, thereby saving precious time and energy for the best women out there.

1A woman who has slept with much older men and prefers it. Would a father or male role model allow his teenage girl be taken by men decades older unless there was a specific reason?

2. A woman who falls for “black guy” game. She will tend to be loud, hyper-aggressive, and impulsive.

3. A woman who dances Salsa, Bachata, Kizomba. Basically any Latin dance, because all it comprises of suggestive lyrics and skimpy attires, where men lead women intimately and rub and touch them. It’s kinda like foreplay to sex.

4A woman who keeps in touch with her ex-boyfriends and casual sex partners. She should want to let go of any man besides you, because you are her world, and vice-versa.

5. A woman who entertains a swarm of beta-male orbiters, and acts aloof about it. She’s an attention whore who needing constant validation and connection.

6. A woman who flirts with other men overtly or covertly, and doesn’t resist another man’s game. The man’s subconscious rationalizes it as a green light and presses her with bolder moves.

7. A woman who doesn’t have a strong relationship with her family. Strong parenting is the antidote to sluts. Fathers and mothers, please take time to show your girls what they should expect while dating and how they should carry themselves as well how to find lifelong mates.

9. A woman who doesn’t have good, healthy examples of what a real, committed, long-term relationship looks like. Otherwise they believe that a relationship is always easy with no troubles, disagreements, or fights. And the moment it gets difficult, they deem you as being “controlling” and they move on to the next guy.

10. A woman who has a career in massage, dance, modeling, or acting. It’s a bad sign if she needs to use her physical body or looks to get paid.

11. A woman who lies to you and withholds information from DAY 1 or DAY 100. Self-explanatory.

12. A woman who never fights for your time, attention, and love. But gives the whole world unceasing empathy and unconditional love.

13. A woman who moved out really early from her parents home or lived in a different country and traveled to many cities. Yes, she has slept with lots of men that you know nothing about, and still thinks she deserves a solid, good man.

14. A woman who values the opinions of her girlfriends or anyone else, over yours. Not a keeper!

15. And most importantly, a woman who doesn’t want to grow in all areas of her life, every single day. Instead she might use logic, such as “you don’t like me the way I am” or “you’re trying to change me” or some sort of bullshit along those lines. Nope! “I love who you are, but I also want you to keep improving yourself everyday girl. And I’ll promise to do the same.”

We men must realize that meeting good women is not about doing more, but having the patience and perseverance to do less. Good luck out there my brothers.

Your Myers-Briggs Totally Determines How you Clean

Your Myers-Briggs Totally Determines How you Clean

Your Myers-Briggs Totally Determines How you Clean

(Excuse me, what is Myers-Briggs? Myers-Briggs is an assessment that helps identify a person’s preferred way of doing things in four key areas. If you’re not familiar, you can scope it out here or take an unofficial assessment here.)

ISTJ

Your home may look like chaos incarnate, but you know that your deodorant stick is right where it always is—on the floor next to your stack of Sudoku books in the back left corner of your bedroom—and that’s all that matters. When the mess at home finally becomes too much, you order everyone out of the house and cancel your plans for the day, because that’s how long it will take you to clean everything the right way. (Your way, obviously.) Your office, on the other hand, looks like a picture from a Staples catalog.

ISTJ

ISFJ

Everyone can go do what they want to do and leave you to clean. Like the Barefoot Contessa in a Guatemalan vanilla forest, this is your happy place. Who needs a therapist when you’ve got shoe bins to organize?

ISFJ

INFJ

A thorough cleaning is important, but like calling a difficult family member, it’s best left as a once a week, or once a month (What?? You never claimed to be a saint!), activity when you’re feeling motivated. If you find yourself cleaning throughout the week, you’re probably avoiding other work you’re supposed to be doing, because you “won’t be able to focus until it’s clean”. (So weird, you had no trouble focusing on Game of Thrones…)

INFJ

INTJ

Your house appears to be in a consistent state of cleanliness–counters wiped, sink clear–but inside every drawer and closet is an intricate jumble of objects worthy of a 2-page spread inside the next I Spy book. No matter, you just gently whisper “Scourgify” as you shut the drawer and voila! Your home is magically spotless again!

INTJ

INFP

Why would you clean when there are so many more meaningful things to do with your time? Besides, you would first need to figure out all the possible approaches to tackle that mess and the pros and cons of each. Oh, and come up with a working theory of how and why our society began placing significance on cleanly environments. You think about cleaning more than you actually clean–until a single speck of dust lands on your current project, of course, then you pull a muscle lunging for the nearest microfiber cloth.

INFP

ISFP

Perhaps it’s time to start cleaning. After assessing the situation thoroughly and devising a plan, you remember that you could really use a separate laundry bin for your darks, and you’ve been meaning to get some new dish rags. Best pop out to the store before you start. (“If anyone has a different plan though, I’d be more than happy to do that instead!” you announce in your most conflict-avoidant voice.)

ISFP

ISTP

The house is finally messy enough for you to notice, so you take care of it. Quickly, efficiently, no frills. As you head back to your computer you shake your head at your INFP roommate, who is still brainstorming possible approaches.

ISTP

INTP

The trash is full again, already? As you tie up the trash to take it down the hallway, you think, “There has to be a better system”. You consider the volume and sources of trash generated daily, how much space it would save to compress empty containers, the pros, and cons of recycling, whether or not a smaller trash can would psychologically induce less trash-generating. You have now been standing for ten minutes blankly staring at the full trash bag, totally unaware of the steady stream of trash juice crossing the linoleum.

INTP

ESTP

Why is your INTP roommate staring at the leaking trash?? In the ten minutes, he’s been zoning out, you’ve flown around the apartment, jump shotting laundry into the hamper and dropping dishes in the sink. Will the dryer be able to handle that many towels without overheating? Only one way to find out!

ESTP

ESFP

People are coming over in an hour, but the apartment is a mess. Selecting the perfect Spotify playlist for cleaning is obviously the most pressing task, so you take twenty minutes to pick one out and, of course, check your social media. You then spend 60{67b9dc46c2005a2d6d0dc9e883ab6bdb9c47365a25e8ad24adf59fc11de2db4a} of the remaining time dancing with your vacuum, 30{67b9dc46c2005a2d6d0dc9e883ab6bdb9c47365a25e8ad24adf59fc11de2db4a} trying to get your roommate to dance too, and 10{67b9dc46c2005a2d6d0dc9e883ab6bdb9c47365a25e8ad24adf59fc11de2db4a} on actually vacuuming.

ESFP

ENFP

Cleaning is for common areas when people are coming over. Your bedroom looks like a poor man’s version of the Cave of Wonders treasure room in Aladdin, but you prefer to call it “nesting”. Cleaning is best done with a podcast in your headphones or talking with a friend, so you can thoroughly dissociate from the fact that you are actually cleaning.

ENFP

ENTP

You’ve never cleaned your home the same way twice. You jump from task to task in a pattern that would take a manic Carrie Mathison, fifty yards of red yarn, and a bulk bin of thumb tacks to decipher. But, like the menagerie on top of your dresser, it makes perfect sense to you.

ENTP

ESTJ

Most likely roommate to make a chore wheel. You strategize, delegate, and supervise, but no one resents it because you signed yourself up to scrub the unidentified sludge from the bathtub and tackle the rat’s nest in the garage. You are the Alexander the Great of spring cleaning.

ESTJ

ESFJ

You diligently do your part, while also putting out snacks and making drinks for the rest of the cleaning crew. You can’t wait for your roommate to notice that you’ve folded their socks for them already, in that weird way they like. When you’re done with your tasks you jump in to help your ESTP roommate, who broke the dryer with too many towels.

ESFJ

ENFJ

You bounce around your mental checklist. When the last item is crossed off, you stand near the table (not on it, of course, you just wiped it clean!), and give a speech: “We don’t clean because it’s cute. We clean because we are members of the apartment, and the apartment is filled with people. Vacuuming, scrubbing, dusting, getting those tiny coffee grounds out from behind the grinder, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But you, me, and the 25 people coming over tonight, these are what we stay alive for. No matter what anybody tells you, a quick run of the Swiffer can change this apartment.”

ENFJ

ENTJ

Messiness and religious tidiness are both inefficient. You are a firm advocate of organized chaos. As long as everything is right where you know it is. Arguments with your significant other may start with: “I can’t believe you threw out those papers scattered on the laundry machine. Those were important!”

When you’ll get married, based on your Myers-Briggs type

Your personality type says a lot about when you’ll get married. (Photo: Getty Images)

The median age for getting married continues to steadily climb. In 1960, men on average got married at the age of 22 and women at the age of 20; by 2010 it was 28 for men and 26 for women. As marriage stats change, one thing does seem to remain the same, and that’s how personality type affects when you’ll tie the knot.

Each Myers-Briggs personality type has their own approach to the romance game — some are wired for commitment, others tend to delay, but all are prone to falling when they meet just the right person at a uniquely suitable time. Find out when you are going to get hitched, based on your Myers-Briggs type, below.

Note: The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a personality test that helps us to better understand ourselves and the people who surround us in our day-to-day lives. It tells us what we do with incoming information — how we process it and use it to make decisions. If you don’t know your type, a quick online quiz can help you find out. (Or, of course, the official assessment.)

ENTP: You’ll get married when someone captivates your mind, not just your fleeting emotions.

You’re a natural flirt and tend to charm others — but you’re also better at understanding others’ feelings than you are your own. Sometimes, you’ll even think you’re head over heels when your spark is destined to fizzle. You’ll fall in like a lot, but you’ll only fall in forever-love when you meet someone who engages your mind fully, allowing you to play, letting you explore, and making you think in ways you never thought possible.

ISTP: You’ll get married when you actually spend as much time with someone as you do alone.

You’re a renegade ISTP, and you’re plenty content on your own. You don’t need a buddy to go mountain biking with, or even to travel to a new country. However, when you find yourself choosing to spend time with another person, because you have the same ideals and like the same things — that’s when you should tie the knot. It’s a love that makes sense and has staying power, and that’s just what you need.

ISFJ: You’ll get married when someone chooses you. Period.

You’re not terribly complex when it comes to love — but not because you’re simple. You just believe in the kind of love that’s like a magical, electric friendship with someone who’s equally committed to long-term coupledom. You typically fly under the radar but always hope someone will choose you. And one day, someone is going to see how much you want to be the perfect partner. When you feel truly taken care of and loved, when someone becomes your fairy-tale ending and soft place to fall, that’s when you’ll marry.

ESTP: You’ll get married when you meet the (rare) person who always keeps you on your toes.

Of all the types, you casually date, couple up, and break up the most easily. You might even have the idea that you’re immune to truly falling for someone and will probably commit much later in life than most. When you grow up a bit, you’ll start gravitating toward long-term substance — and you’ll fall hard for the person who won’t play your usual games, who forces you to get comfortable with feeling. When you meet someone who seems to have endless interesting layers, and you’ve dated around enough to know your bond is a special adventure in and of itself, you’ll marry.

INTP: You’ll get married when you’re mentally compatible and you respect no one more.

You have high standards, but they’re relatively simple ones: You want someone who can keep up with your theorizing and weird, offbeat intellectual interests. Boom! You will probably not focus on love much early in life (teens, college), and be somewhat of a late bloomer. But ironically, when you decide it’s time to have a real relationship, you’ll fall for the first person you meet who “fits” — and you’ll marry if and when they want to take the next step, as a sign of your true commitment.

INFP: You’ll get married when someone engages your unique mind as much as they take care of your heart.

Lots of people see your low-key love for others; all your best friends know, you care a lot about people. A lot. When it comes to love, you even care about relationships you know deep down are never going to last. You crave intimate connection, but you need a mindmate as much as you need a secret softie. When you stop trying to make “almost right” partners work, stay single, and look for that inexplicable mental connection, that’s when you’ll marry. And it may take a while.

ENTJ: You’ll get married when someone shows you how to give in to your feelings.  

You’re a boss all day, the most competent person at the company, the best leader in any group… You are constantly projecting your hard, can-do-anything exterior and rarely give into your emotional core. But you want to. In addition to high ideals for your life and career, you have similar ideals for love. You want a deep, passionate connection and always hold back just a little bit when you’re with the wrong person. You may come close to commitment several times, before you finally fall in forever-love with someone who’s supportive, passionate, and allows you to let your guard down and feel.

ESFJ: You’ll get married when you meet someone who finally notices (and appreciates) how big you love.

When someone catches your eye (and heart), you aren’t afraid to dive right in, connect emotionally, care for your partner, and constantly show just how much you care. However, sometimes, you’re prone to people-pleasing — and finding significant others who take advantage of your boundless generosity. When someone finally makes you feel seen for all your efforts and actions, and never takes you for granted? That’s your person. Wait for them.

ESFP: You’ll get married when you’ve enjoyed dating around, and you’re ready for a different adventure.

As an ESFP, you love dating around. The sparks, the unexpected quirks, the new activities and fun stories to tell … you’ll happily exist in your single, quasi-dating in-between for quite a while. When you start to bore of connections that go nowhere, probably closer to 30-ish, is when you’ll settle down. Marriage and parenthood must feel truly exciting to you in order to tempt you. When the idea does finally set your heart aflutter? Well, you’re such a warm, caring person, you’ll have hordes of suitors lining up.

ESTJ: You’ll get married when you’re inspired to slow down and add marriage to your list of goals.

ESTJs keep marriage as an afterthought for a long time. It’s not that you’re not open to love, it just takes a while before you care enough to edit your life plan to accommodate. However, you’re reasonable and rational in the sense that you see no reason to prevent a long-term commitment when you find someone who inspires you to be the best version of yourself. In that case, you’ll happily (and carefully) set a wedding date and call the planner.

INTJ: You’ll get married when you can’t see any barriers toward forever.

It takes a lot for you to feel long-term potential with anyone, which is why you’re always single. However, you’re not a commitment-phobe. You’re just waiting to meet someone who feels right in your gut. One day, you will meet this person who fulfills all your biggest needs — an intellectual equal, to whom you’re attracted, who supports your dreams and shares your beliefs. When you find that rare person, whether it’s at 25 or 55, you’ll do everything in your power to make it work and show them how much you love them, which also means getting hitched.

ISTJ: You’ll get married when you feel like the rock in the relationship.

You’re a crazy-capable human being, able to obtain basically whatever you find most important in life — and real love is on that list. To you, love is not complex. It’s a feeling, sure, but it’s also a commitment to the daily actions that uphold a relationship. You’ll marry when you feel like someone’s rock, or when someone sees you in this endearing superhero light. That kind of love will melt your hard exterior, and you’ll be itching to tie the knot in ways you never thought possible. Since you’re the highly traditional type, too, you’ll likely settle down a bit earlier than most.

INFJ: You’ll get married when someone actually “gets” the unique way you need to feel safe.

You typically act pulled together and rational. You make smart decisions. You are the type-A overachiever. And you make sure to show love and investment toward the closest people in your life. What most don’t see? How sensitive and emotionally complex you are. You will finally couple off when you meet someone who wants to protect your heart. In return, you will fully respect and admire this person, and your bond will feel deep and stable. It might take some time to find that lifetime love, but it will be worth the wait.

ENFP: You’ll get married when someone becomes your soft space, without becoming ho-hum.

You have the personality of an absolute dynamo. You motivate, inspire, and tell others how it is — but always in a way that engages and respects their emotions. Deep down, you want someone equally passionate and exciting, because you thrive on chasing new adventures, discovering new dreams, and taking new risks. You’ll know you’ve met the one when they allow you to be your expansive self, while feeling like your cushion. They’re along for the ride and down for the journey, and derive enjoyment watching you grow in the exact same way you champion others. When you meet that person, at any age, you will be happy to commit.

ENFJ: You’ll get married when someone appreciates (and returns) the million ways in which you love.

You derive a lot of esteem from your relationship and strive to make it the most fulfilling experience for both parties. You do the little things and the big things. You’ll bake brownies, just because you know your significant other likes them. You will talk for hours on the phone if your partner is having a rough few days on a work trip. You’ll also bend over backwards to accommodate your partner’s needs — and will always feel like something is wrong if you aren’t noticed and appreciated for all these efforts. You need that positive feedback and acknowledgment from a partner, with reciprocal action, to feel like the relationship is growing in the right direction. When you can keep that mutual energy and excitement over time, with one awesome person, you’ll gladly say, “I do.”

ISFP: You’ll get married when someone gives you a safe space to be yourself.

You feel emotions deeply. You’re a huge romantic. But you also don’t understand love; you see it as evolving, strange, and hard to capture. So, you don’t actively try to find The One, even though you’re constantly open to meeting new people in your chill, too-cool-for-school way. As you sit back and wait for life to unfold before you, you’ll find yourself gravitating to someone who lets you be your wild, free-spirited, creative self. You don’t force love, you quietly fall in and let it envelop you. And when that safe space you need to express yourself naturally develops with your long-term person, you’ll marry. (Probably elope, actually.)

THE WORD YOU SEE FIRST REVEALS YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS PERSONALITY

Are you curious to know your subconscious mind?

We have a very simple test for you.

Just see the image and spell the word that comes to your mind first. Read on to learn about your results:

 

If you see LOVER:

 

Your subconscious personality is Lively!

If LOVER is the word that you saw, then it means you have a very lively personality. You are always full of life. People are intrigued by the way you talk and act. You always have something interesting to tell them. Life is a joyride for you. There’s practically no boring moment when you are around.

 

If you see LOWER:

Your subconscious personality is Dominating!

If you saw LOWER, that means you are a very dominating person. Your peers depend on you. You are willing to take risks. You are extremely diligent and you give your best, be it your work or your relationship.

 

If you see LOSER:

Your subconscious personality is Honest!

Seeing LOSER indicates you are an honest human being. You always choose truth above everything else, even if it hurts people. You might seem rude at times but that’s because you are not scared to hide your feelings. You are sententious and your peers love you because they know they can trust you. You are what you are.

 

If you see LONER:

Your subconscious personality is a Deep Thinker and Creative Person:

If you saw LONER, it means you are a deep thinker and a very creative person. You spend a lot of time reflecting on the ways of the world. You are spiritual and you always try to spread positivity around you by your creation. You can be a writer, painter, musician or any creative person. You create a magical ambiance around you by your creativity.

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What Each Myers-Briggs Type is Like In Bed

What Each Myers-Briggs Type is Like In Bed

Let’s talk about sex, baby! Whether openly talked about or discretely whispered about, sex is a topic crossing most people’s lips (or minds) on a constant basis. A healthy sex life is important for most relationships, and here is how we think you perceive sex according to your personality type.

INFJ- The Cautious Lover

Sex has to mean something to you, or else it is pretty miserable. You want to completely trust the person you make love with, that being said you don’t trust easily. You take time to warm up to people, and are not the most physically open person in the world. Although you are hesitant at first, when you find the right person it is electric. You don’t believe in setting boundaries in the bedroom with someone you love, and are willing to try new things. Sex is not the most important thing to you, but you find you are rather amazing at it with the right person. You are capable of taking sex to a whole new level of spirituality.

ENFJ- The Giving Lover

You have a very high sex drive, but only within the confines of a committed relationship. You aim to please the person you are with, and are an enthusiastic lover. You will basically never say no to your partner, and enjoy making them happy. It turns you on even more to see them pleased, which makes the experience even better for you. As long as you feel comfortable with someone the sex is amazing. If you feel like your partner isn’t trustworthy or you don’t feel valued, your sex drive deteriorates.

INFP- The Passionate Lover

For you love-making is about just that, LOVE. Without a deep bond and strong emotional connection, you see little point in sex itself. Sex being just a physical act, is something you do not desire. Casual sex is definitely not for you, and would make you very internally unhappy. That being said, sex is actually very important to you, within the confines of a deeper connection. You see sex as a physical manifestation of a powerful emotional connection with someone. It is your opportunity to connect intimately with your partner. You are very willing and eager to try new things in the bedroom, as long as there is an emotional connection.

ENFP- The Fervent Lover

You require an emotional connection to be able to be fully intimate with someone. Once you have established a connection, you are a very enthusiastic and passionate lover. You have a very high sex drive and see it as an opportunity to express yourself fully to someone. You enjoy being able to explore new sides of yourself and don’t like to set restrictions in the bedroom. You probably have heard you were the best your lovers ever had, and it doesn’t come as a surprise to us. Your creativity and passion in your daily life, translates very well into the bedroom.

 

 

INTJ- The Accomplished Lover

When it comes to sex you see it as another opportunity to be excellent at something. Although you can be in your own head when it comes to your daily life, sex is entirely different. This is your opportunity to stop overthinking and be in the moment. You are sometimes aggressive and very capable of taking charge in the bedroom. You are capable of having a very high sex drive in the right circumstances, but it all depends on the person and situation. You are focused on making sure both you and your partner are satisfied in the bedroom. You aren’t necessarily easy to please, but you are more than willing to take action to rectify that.

ENTJ- The Magnetic Lover

Your natural aggression is something that translates very well into the bedroom. You are willing to take charge, and know how to keep a healthy balance. You have a very creative and intuitive way of making sex interesting for both you and your partner. You don’t want things to become too boring, but with you that is unlikely to ever happen. You may have a tendency to schedule sexual encounters, but make up for it in your ability to keep things fresh. You take your partner on a vigorous and imaginative love-making journey, which they will never forget.

INTP- The Consuming Lover

Although you are not the most emotionally expressive person, you feel much more satisfied when there is an emotional connection during sex. You’ve probably experienced casual sex (because you are never averse to exploring new things) and found that it was seriously lacking. You don’t necessarily open up easily and tend to only enjoy sex fully with someone you feel completely comfortable with. Once you do find someone you are relaxed with, sex is a great opportunity to get outside of your own head. You are very keen on experimentation, and enjoy trying new things in the bedroom. You have the perfect combination of wanting to be satisfied, but of also wanting your partner to be satisfied.

ENTP- The Experimental Lover

You take sex very seriously, and do not just lust after someone’s physical presence. You feel deeply attracted to people whose minds you can respect and admire, and who excite you deeply. Once you reach a level of connection with someone, sex is an intense and wild ride. You dislike the idea of boundaries, and want to keep the passion alive. You dislike selfish lovers, and want someone who will be just as giving to you, as you are to them. If you find someone who is willing to give back, you are eager to please them in phenomenal ways. You probably have a bit of a kinky side…okay you have a VERY kinky side. Alright fine, your entire being is kinky.

 

 

ISTJ- The Organized Lover

Sex to you is a natural part of any good relationship, and is vital in keeping things happy. You enjoy sex, just like anyone else- but you prefer when things are predictable and scheduled. You dislike too many surprises in the bedroom, and enjoy following what you know best. You are sure to please your partner and know how to perform well, as long as you can maintain some level of control. You like the idea of someone else being able to take charge and you might even be able to find the right ENFP to bring you out of your shell.

ESTJ- The Proud Lover

Your natural aggressiveness and eagerness towards life, translates directly into the bedroom. You have a very take charge attitude and see sex as an opportunity to be the best at yet another thing. When they are young most ESTJs will explore ranking in the sexual conquests, but as they mature find casual sex meaningless. You are instantly turned on if you realize the other person is attracted to you. You thrive on knowing you are doing a good job in the bedroom, and want to be as impressive as possible. Bragging rights are definitely a plus…even if you are just bragging to your partner.

ISFJ- The Generous Lover

To you sex is the perfect opportunity to express your love for someone else. You see it as a chance to please your partner in every way possible, and you will try your hardest to do so. You want them to fully understand that sex is important to you, and that making them happy means everything. You are willing to experiment (although you have some boundaries) for your partner, if that is what will please them. You enjoy feeling a connection to your loved one, and see sex as a prime opportunity for that.

ESFJ- The Vivacious Lover

To you sex is only truly good, when you are deeply in love. If you don’t truly care for someone, sex can almost feel like a chore. When you are comfortable with your partner, sex with you is very passionate and animated. Above all else you want to make sure that your partner is happy and fully satisfied. If you feel like your partner is not enjoying themselves, it may make you shut down and you will no longer enjoy the experience yourself. To you sex is a chance to connect with your lover and feel closer to them. You may have a hard time receiving pleasure from your loved one, but the closer you feel the more you are willing to let go.

 

ISTP- The Available Lover

You have a relatively high sex drive, and are able to see sex in just the physical terms. You don’t scoff at the idea of sex without a deep connection, but you probably agree that it adds another element to the sexual experience. You view sex in the highly chemical sense, and are drawn to people you are physically attracted to. You are often very visually stimulated, and enjoy what is aesthetically pleasing. You usually see sexual encounters as an outlet, and do not require an emotional connection.

ESTP- The Exciting Lover

You probably have an extremely high sex drive, and find it very hard to be satisfied completely. You enjoy the physical aspect of sex, and are very willing to explore new things. You are eager and athletic during sex, more than willing to put forth a lot of the work. You don’t always need an emotional connection to experience good sex, but you are willing to explore that aspect of it as well. You can be very giving towards your lover, but are also very greedy as well.

ISFP- The Expressive Lover

You see the physical act of sex as a prime opportunity to express your feelings for someone. To you it is one of the best ways to show someone that you truly care for them. You are capable of separating sex from love, but see no value in those sorts of shallow experiences. You look for comfort and trust within a relationship, and that translates well into your sex life. You are eager to make your partner feel loved and appreciated in the bedroom, which they definitely appreciate.

ESFP- The Nimble Lover

You are extremely observant and in the moment as a sexual partner. You are capable of experiencing sex without love, and you don’t generally feel remorse afterwards. Although you are capable of separating sex and love, you do enjoy feeling deeply connected to your partner. When you care about someone you can be extremely giving and enthusiastic. You are an athletic and exciting partner in the bedroom.

25 Struggles Only INFPs Will Understand

INFPs have been called the “Children of the Myers Briggs World”, and it’s pretty true. True idealists, we see the best in everyone and everything, processing everything in our rich internal world and constantly dreaming about how the world could be a better place. With similar functions to ENFPs, we are often mistaken to be them. So, in light of the recent list of ENFP struggles, here’s a list of 25 things that INFPs go through. . .well, in my own head, at least. ! !

1. Literally crying after being around people for an extended period of time.

2. Intensely caring about other people but being overwhelmed by their company simultaneously.

3. People constantly mistaking you for an extravert because you act goofy to cover up the fact that crowds make you impossibly uncomfortable.

4. Saying something out loud while with other people that strays about 4 trains of thought from what they were talking about.

5. In the middle of creating something revolutionary, and realizing it’s sundown and you haven’t eaten all day.

6. Being actually shy, but too afraid of being rude to not talk to someone who strikes up a conversation with you.

7. Assuming the completely wrong date/time/activity because you never thought to look at the schedule.

8. Wanting to be wild and party like everyone else but never being invited out because you’re too afraid to be vulnerable and make actual friends.

9. Did I mention perceiving the best in everyone and everything? I promise if you look past the foam and gnarling teeth of that rabid pit bull it has a good spirit, deep down.

10. Being such good listener that you feel like everyone who calls you a friend just keeps you around for free counseling sessions.

11. Loving alone time but at the same time hating that it makes you have to process emotions.

12. Being the one to whom all of his coworkers come to complain about each other.

13. Having an imagination so vivid that you misinterpret a text message without a period to mean the sender is irreparably angry with you.

14. Being the one who always apologizes, even though you think the other person is egregiously wrong.

15. Having steadfast beliefs, but no courage to say anything about them to anyone who happens to challenge them.

16. Everyone thinking you’re a freak of nature or depressed when you decide to spend long periods locked in your room. I’m fine, I’m just writing a song. I’ll be out in 4 days.

17. Wanting to respond to a message, but too afraid of how to say something as to not break  the other person’s fragile heart.

18. Identifying as male, but possessing every personality quality that would be deemed the opposite of masculine.

19. Turning even a superficial conversation with a stranger into a deep metaphor that reflects the greater meaning of life.

20. Wondering if you have no soul because you didn’t laugh out loud at something that everyone else in the room found hilarious.

21. Feeling too guilty to not give the homeless man on the street the last dollar in your wallet, even though you don’t even have a clue how you will pay your rent this month.

22. Finally telling someone your dreamy unrealistic ideas and then having them inevitably poke a hole in every logic flaw, crushing your tender spirit.

23. Having a really great idea, bringing it to life, realizing no one would care, then giving up on it.

24. Laughing like a fool in public (often in a serious setting) because you remembered something funny.

25. Despite all the lip you get for being overly an sensitive, shy, free spirit with his head in the clouds, knowing you wouldn’t change a thing because the personality type website said you were 4{67b9dc46c2005a2d6d0dc9e883ab6bdb9c47365a25e8ad24adf59fc11de2db4a} of the population, and that makes you freakin’ special.

4 Tips How To Identify An INTJ In Public

As one of the rarest personality types in the Myers Briggs lineup, INTJs enjoy a special status that often comes with being rare. On top of that, INTJs are also introverts which makes them even harder to find since they spend less time out in the open where most people graze.

They are very private individuals and prefer quiet environments with moderate human interaction. They don’t need much socializing when they can busy themselves with passion projects and making progress toward big-picture plans. Many people may be interested in meeting an INTJ in person or want to determine whether someone they already know is one. From a distance, it can be difficult to distinguish an INTJ from an INFJ or ISTJ. You likely know a few INTJs without realizing it.

Here is a helpful list of signs to look for that will show you how to spot an INTJ wherever you encounter them.

1. INTJ at the Market

If you go to the supermarket, you can spot an INTJ by the efficiency with which they shop. They don’t like to tarry or linger. When they go to market they go with a clear purpose in mind. They may carry a list  with them or have thought out in advance with great detail, everything they intend to buy. Because they dislike being in crowded places any longer than necessary, they will waste little time tracking down their target items and completing their errand as quickly and painlessly as possible.

They grab and go, and avoid engaging anyone in chit chat along the way. They carry themselves with a sense of mission and they seem to know exactly what they’re doing and where they’re going. If a salesperson approaches them they will likely be terse in their responses and say whatever they need to encourage them to go away. They avoid eye contact with other shoppers as they briskly make their way to checkout. If it were feasible, they would do all their shopping online. Bookstores are the only stores where they really can take their time and browse.

2. Resting Bitch Face (a.k.a the “Death Stare”)

If you’ve followed the Myers Briggs long enough you will likely have heard of the INTJ “death stare” or their infamous “resting bitch face”. INTJs get asked “why so serious?” in one form or another by concerned or intimidated colleagues and family members. If you see someone who seems to have a perma-scowl as their default facial expression, they are probably an INTJ. In most cases, the INTJ’s appearance of displeasure is nothing more than their “thinking face”. You may spot them staring off in some direction during which they are probably just immersed in deep mental processing. If they are unaware that they are being watched, you may even catch them silently mouthing words as though they were pantomiming a discussion with themselves.

Alternately, the INTJ death stare may also appear as a “deer in headlights” look or “resting bitch face”. Each of these expressions may appear angry or perturbed but generally, there is no emotion behind them. INTJs are often unaware of how intense their expressions appear to others and do it without consideration. They mean nothing by it in most cases, they just get lost in such intense concentration that they become unresponsive to what’s around them. Whatever they are staring at, they are not actually looking at, but looking through. People and objects just happen to be in the line of their gaze. INTJs rarely show their anger so most likely they are not mad.

3. INTJs Like the Sound of Silence

INTJs are quiet and comfortable with saying nothing where others would be compelled to disrupt the serenity with conversation. INTJs have no problem keeping to themselves even while sharing a small space with another person such as on a plane or bus. They’re comfortable with being alone and may not bother to hide themselves in their cell phone or pretend to be doing something.

The INTJ is probably that person sitting by themselves with a resting bitch face. Don’t worry they’re okay. Out in public, INTJs try to blend in and float under the radar. They actually like having friends who enjoy being the center of attention because they would rather observe and learn. The INTJ pairs well with ENFPs who can provide a social lubricant that helps INTJs meet and get on with new people.

4. INTJ Clothing Style

INTJs prefer utility and practicality in their wardrobe. They are something of minimalists and less likely to be found wearing colorful peacock clothing and fancy accessories. Many of them have simple tastes wearing things like cargo pants and turtlenecks. They like to dress in simple modest attire that looks orderly and respectable. They like jeans and dark colors and black and white is probably their most preferred colors. Some may wear light but cold hues such as blue, and in many cases they may wear variations of the same ensemble every day.

Their wardrobe choices tend to follow a consistent theme and is meant to avoid drawing excessive attention. As Judgers, INTJs are more likely to dress properly and may even be somewhat stylish and edgy.  But as INTs, they are likely to be disconnected from the physical world and may fail to see any point in “dressing to impress” so to speak.  It’s a toss-up for this type, but they do tend to dress better than their gauche NTP cousins.

How To Fall In Love With An ENFJ

I’m an ENFJ.
And this is what my mind says.

I feel the happiest when I get to make people happy.
The most satisfying thing to do is to reach out and help.
To ask them if they need anything.
To take care of their needs so they don’t feel overwhelmed.
To be able to be there for them and just know that my presence affects them.
To be the shoulder to cry on. And be the stronger one for them.
To pull someone up when they feel like they’re drowning.
To be able to tell them how amazing they are. And make them feel good about it,
Not to make them like me, but to make them like themselves more.

But sometimes, I wonder what it’s like,
To have someone with an effort to make me happy.
To be asked if I need anything.
To be reached out to and got the help I need.
To be taken care of my own overwhelmingness.
To have someone here for me, and feel their presence affecting me.
To have the shoulder to cry on. Because I’m not as strong as they think. I’m just simply being strong for them.
To be pulled up even when I already drowned.
To have someone to tell me how amazing I am, and make me feel appreciated.
Not to make me like them, but to make me appreciate myself more.

Because all this time,
I’ve been making the effort to keep myself happy.
I’ve been asking if I need something.
I’ve been helping myself out.
I’ve been keeping it all together whenever I’m overwhelmed.
I’ve been all by myself.
I’ve been strong for my own self.
I’ve been trying not to drown even deeper.
I’ve been believing in myself of how amazing I am to be able to stand on my own two feet.
But appreciation comes from others. This is not my part.

I always wonder how it will be, if everything’s turned around.

If I’ll be the one who’s in need of crying, being happy, being helped, being accompanied, being saved, and just need of appreciation.

Who’ll be that someone?

This Is The Kind Of Love They Really Need, Based On Their Myers-Briggs Personality Type

ESFJ

Show them how special you find them. ESFJs often look for partners they can admire, but at the same time they want that person to find them equally fascinating. They will not take kindly to a partner that is negative about them or seems uncaring.

ESTJ

Help make their dreams a reality. ESTJs are doers, but the details can sometimes seem elusive when they start dreaming up a wild new scheme. Someone who is up for anything and can make things happen whenever, wherever will earn the undying admiration of the ESTJ.

INTP

Keep up, and stay open-minded. INTPs are an intellectual type and while they do not require much of the romancing that other types enjoy this doesn’t mean that they have no soft spots. INTPs can be swept off their feet (as much as is possible anyway) by someone who is knowledgeable and able to enjoy talking about anything and everything.

ENFP

Be able to express your emotions. ENFPs are expressive types, they like to show their love for their partners, and this is what they like most in return. This type is bowled over by classic romantic gestures, flowers, chocolates and poems are the way into their heart.

ISTP

Be independent. This doesn’t mean they don’t want you around, just that they want more of a partner in crime than a devoted Shakespearian lover.

ENFJ

Be the cleverest person in the room. ENFJ’s have high standards, and this extends to finding a witty and intelligent partner. They are often the life of the party but they are often bored meaning they like nothing more than a truly adroit repartee.

INTJ

Show them how to walk on the wild side. INTJs are great master planners but they can also get stuck in a rut very easily. This doesn’t mean they want someone who will make them do something dangerous, just someone that refuses to fit into the neat boxes INTJ typically like to place people in.

INFP

Know what you want. INFPs often hate their own indecision and usually hang out with people who don’t like making definite judgements either. This means that they find people who can to be a breath of fresh, decisive air.

ENTP

Be exciting. ENTPs love someone who seems sparkly, magnetic, and just out of reach. They fear boredom and drudgery and will not want to make emotional connections with people they find “basic”.

INFJ

Be considerate to their emotions. INFJs are deeply emotional and don’t take kindly to having their feelings pushed aside, ignored or flat out ridiculed. Being understanding but not cloying is the way into the INFJs heart.

ESFP

To be stable without forcing them to tone themselves down. ESFPs are entertainers, they love being the center of attention and having a good time. At the same time they appreciate someone who can keep them on their feet and in check when needed without making them feel trapped.

ISTJ

Know not to try to hold them back when they’ve made up their mind about something. ISTJs are naturally cautious, but once they’ve decided to take a risk they’ve decided for good. They will most likely feel upset if you try to stop them because they will feel that you don’t trust their internal conscience (which they almost entirely rely upon).

ISFP

Show them that you can be trusted with their innermost thoughts. ISFPs are highly sensitive and often have big imaginations. For an ISFP to let you in is a big deal to them, tread lightly, be appreciative and they will love you forever.

ISFJ

Be sensible without being negative. ISFJs appreciate sensibility, but they don’t like it when someone just wants to use their genuinely good, upbeat nature as target practice. Be empathetic and help them know that they can reach their goals and you will earn a special place in their heart for life.

ESTP

Be able to take a joke. ESTPs often have harsh senses of humor, towards themselves as well as towards others and this means they can’t date someone with a thin skin. Being able to laugh at yourself (as well as them, they don’t mind) will make them really appreciate you.

ENTJ

Be obsessed with them. ENTJs don’t trust a lot of people, but they have a desire to be able to trust somebody. Because of this, they will love you if you can prove not only trustworthy, but also devoted to them and their trust.

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